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Mixed Metals In May

Hello brides!

I'm new here *waves*! Have been hanging about for a week or so just reading everyone's posts and thought I'd quite like to start my own little planning thread to document my journey down the aisle :)

I think it'll be a great way to get all my thoughts down in black and white/serve as a nice keepsake to read back on/vent about planning haha!

Looking forward to sharing our plans, getting opinions from other brides and getting to know everyone!

Not 100% sure what to say so I guess I should start at the beginning haha!

About Us

I'm S. I'm 27, from Glasgow, I work Mon-Fri as a Legal Secretary in a Criminal Defence firm and weekends as a Bridal Stylist in a gorgeous wedding dress shop in the city centre. 

My fiancé is M. He is 33, from just outside Glasgow and is a welder.

We have been together since October 2016, moved in together in May 2017 (and got two amazing puppies) and got engaged in May 2018. We're getting married in May 2020! May is definitely our month! 

How We Met

I'll just put it out there straight away - we're a Tinder couple!

I was very recently out of a long term relationship when I joined Tinder - partly as a distraction from what was going on in my life, partly to see what the fuss was about and partly in the hope of a little confidence boost. I had been in a relationship for six years and was engaged when my ex and I split. We were 19 when we got together and 25 when we split so other than hearing about it from friends, I had never experienced the joys of Tinder! I wasn't looking for anything really.. Just some chat to take my mind of things and maybe a date or two to ease me back in to single life.

I had been on Tinder for 4 weeks, and had 2 disappointing dates, when M and I "matched" and started chatting. Although it had only been 4 weeks (and the 2 aforementioned disappointing dates), I was already starting to lose hope - just not really feeling a connection with anyone. Me, overdramatic? Never! Haha! Thankfully, I knew M was different from the very start. He was a solid 10 but chatted like he didn't know it - which was a very welcome surprise! We got on so well that we arranged a date for the following Friday and chatted every day morning til night inbetween.

We're both from the Glasgow area and arranged our first date for the city centre. M is a welder and on the day of our date he had to go to hospital to have a shard of metal removed from his eye (this is more common than I ever thought!!!) so, obviously, I told him we would reschedule - METAL IN HIS EYE!! But no. This was M's first show of reliability. He wouldn't reschedule or cancel on me - and never has to this day. Our first date was spent in November and Hummingbird, having a few drinks and talking rubbish. I felt like I'd known him forever but at the same time felt like a nervous giggly schoolgirl! I'm actually giving myself the cringe just thinking about it haha!

Anyway.. After our first date I knew I was in trouble! He wasn't "one date" material. He was someone I wanted to keep around. But I'd only been single for a month. Surely it was too soon? People would talk, wouldn't they? In the end, I decided that I couldn't live my life to suit other people's opinions and I had to pursue things with M. And thank goodness I did <3

Sorry if that was super long and boring, I'll try and cut down on my paragraphs for my next entries!!

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  • TiaMariaTiaMaria Posts: 120

    Hi fellow Glasgow bride ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿป 

  • RB2SRB2S Posts: 45 New bride

    Yay a new thread to follow, Im also a fellow Tinder bride!

  • TiaMaria wrote (see post):

    Hi fellow Glasgow bride ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿป 

    Yaaaay helloooo!! Where/when are you getting married?

  • Tinder bride here too! Your first date sounds similar to mine and my fiancé's. When you know you know. Congratulations and looking forward to reading more about your wedding! x 

  • cloudatlascloudatlas Posts: 78

    Omg the metal in the eye thing! Can't believe he didn't reschedule - definitely a keeper! :) 

  • TiaMariaTiaMaria Posts: 120
    LittleBlonde wrote (see post):
    TiaMaria wrote (see post):

    Hi fellow Glasgow bride ๐Ÿ‘‹๐Ÿป 

    Yaaaay helloooo!! Where/when are you getting married?

    Hi! I am getting married April 2019 at Knockraich Farm in Fintry, so knee deep in organising! And you? 

  • Yaaay DesertPixie!! Nice to know there's plenty other Tinder brides - still feels a bit weird saying we met online haha!

    Oh CloudAtlas I know!! I've got such a low pain threshold I would've cancelled and been milking that for weeks!

     

    Wow TiaMaria you must be knee deep. How organised are you? Do you have a planning thread?

     

  • The Proposal

    I actually want to preface this with a little disclaimer almost. Despite my reservations at getting into another relationship so quickly after I split with my ex, I knew pretty early on that M was "the one" and fell riiight into the "when you know, you know" cliché *eye roll & vom emojis*.

    So I moved in with M 7 months after we started dating, in May 2017. Basically, M is a twin and his twin has a gorge boxer who we doggysat quite regularly and loved having - we're both massive dog people buuuut M often works away for long periods of time and I was back living with family so neither of us could have a dog of our own. 

    When M started sending me Facebook/Gumtree ads of puppies I kiiiinda took it as a little sign he was thinking about us living together. And who can say no to puppies!? About two weeks after the puppy pictures started being sent between us, we were on a flight to Cardiff to pick up a campervan and a puppy! Not from the same people might I add haha! One puppy turned into two puppies when we saw them playing together and knew we couldn't separate them and leave one behind! Once we had the pups it didn't make sense for me to "go home" - they were ours and that was that. Sounds very unromantic but I know it was M's way of securing us as a little team!

    Wow, that was a long way to tell you we got puppies and moved in together wasn't it haha!? What I was trying to get to was that we lived together for a year when M proposed. We had already discussed getting married and M let it be known he had no idea where to start when it came to choosing a ring. He is a salespersons dreeeaaam too! He gets flustered and annoyed and stressy when he's shopping and I didn't want him getting ripped off or having that be his experience of buying an engagement ring so we visited the Argyll Arcade in Glasgow back at the beginning of this year and I tried on a few different styles to get a feel for what suited me and what we both liked.

    Honestly, nothing really wowed me because, although I like typical engagement rings, I like something a little bit unique. Knowing that, we went online and trawled through the US sites where I found some rings that were more up my street. I didn't want to overload M so I pointed out a few I liked and told him that I'd love whatever he picked for me.

    Fast forward to May 2018, M had booked a weekend in London for my birthday (my birthday is in February but no one wants to go sightseeing in the freezing cold!). We had unintentionally booked London for 19-21 May - Royal Wedding weekend! Although it was accidental, I was really excited to be caught up in the atmosphere and hustle and bustle. A few of my friends thought it might be when he would propose but I had it down as too obvious and, knowing he wanted it to be a surprise, I put the possibility of a London proposal completely out my mind. 

    We arrived on the Saturday lunchtime and checked into our hotel. We spent Saturday wandering Oxford Street and getting our bearings. We headed back to our hotel to get changed for dinner and realised we were in a bit of a rush so I had to do that quick switch your day make up to night make up without reapplying that I hate doing! I felt a bit flustered and could've punched M when he decided he had forgotten to put aftershave on and aaaabsolutely had to run back to the hotel room to do so - if I had known this was all part of his plan and he was running back to grab the ring I never would have made such a fuss haha!

     

  • We went to Coppa Club at London Bridge for dinner and managed to get one of the gorgeous little Paradise Pods. It was really beautiful and a nice experience - would definitely recommend it if anyone is visiting London but book ahead! M was unreasonably pee'd off that we had to share our Pod and I wasn't sure why.. I thought he was overreacting and told him to take himself outside and puff his vape for a minute haha. After dinner, we were headed to Radio Rooftop at the ME Hotel and were wandering up to get a taxi when M asked if we could get a photo outside the Tower of London. The temperature had dropped dramatically and I was in a dress so told him to bugger off, I was freezing! Again, if I had known he was trying to bloody propose and have it captured in a photo I would have been 100% willing!!!!

    Anyway.. We got to the ME Hotel and it is stunning!! There's a chrome wall partition installation thing with gorgeous vases with candles along the floor and lots of people were stopping to have their photo taken. M told me to go stand for a pic and while I'm standing posing away he tells me he thinks something is missing.. Then gets down on one knee!!!!

    I can't remember a thing he said. What I do remember is him unfolding a little square of toilet roll and producing the most beautiful ring I have ever seen! Yes, you read that right. Toilet roll. He was wearing skinny jeans and no jacket so panicked when he realised he couldn't hide the ring box anywhere! Hence the last minute dash back to the hotel room to wrap the ring in toilet roll and pop it in his pocket without me seeing! I'd love to say I said YES but I actually just stared at him and said "are you sh*tting me!?" hahaha. I didn't even cry. I was so shocked and genuinely surprised. It all felt totally surreal but I was overwhelmed with how happy I felt. We went to the bar and the barman popped open a bottle of champagne for us and took some "engagement pics" for us which was really lovely of him. He spoke to the manager and got her to escort us up to Radio Rooftop to celebrate.

    We got tipsy soaking in the view of the London skyline at night and got to spend a few hours in our little love bubble sending messages to our nearest and dearest to share our news. It'll always be one of the best nights of my life! I'll attach a couple of pics cause who doesn't love some ring porn ha!?

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  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,135 New bride

    Awww i love your engagement story!! So sweet. I’m from London and have to say he picked some great places to propose!! Beautiful ring too. Excited to read more about your planning. 

  • The Ring

    Aaaaall the heart eyes emojis - honestly. 

    One month on, I still stare at it every day and can't believe I get to own such a gorgeous piece of jewellery! 

    It's a LaurenB (US jeweller) 1.38 carat elongated cushion on a pave band and it has a "hidden halo" or "surprise halo" wrapping around the basket. I wish I could upload a video of it because photos don't do it justice!

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  • Martha13Martha13 Posts: 46

    Hi there loving your thread so far I'm a Glasgow bride too (live in edin tho) let me know if you're looking for any suppliers ! 

     

    Looking forward to reading more ! Two Facebook groups i would recommend rock n roll bride and blushing brides Scotland (2nd one can be very entertaining!)

     

  • Martha13 wrote (see post):

    Hi there loving your thread so far I'm a Glasgow bride too (live in edin tho) let me know if you're looking for any suppliers ! 

     

    Looking forward to reading more ! Two Facebook groups i would recommend rock n roll bride and blushing brides Scotland (2nd one can be very entertaining!)

     

    Oh hellooo! Where are you getting married?
    I've joined Blushing Brides Scotland but will join Rock n Roll Bride now!!

  • The Venue

    Before we started our hunt for a wedding venue, we discussed what was important to us. There was a date in mind that we liked - 23 May 2020. We wanted 2020 so we had plenty of time to save without it turning us into social recluses, 23 is my favourite number, May has been one of the warmest months in Scotland over the past few years, it fell on a Saturday AND a bank holiday weekend and May just seems to be "our" month - we moved in in May, got our puppies in May, got engaged in May - it made sense.

    We also knew that we didn't want a typical wedding venue like a hotel or barn - purely because they aren't our style. I wanted a city centre location and M wanted somewhere that we could make use of more than one room. We also knew we wanted our whole day to be at the same venue.

    We made a shortlist with a couple of more typical venues added in - mainly to confirm they weren't what we were looking for. We came up with The Corinthian Club, Grand Central Hotel, Cornhill Castle, 29 Private Members' Club and Boclair House.

    Given that I work Monday - Saturday, we didn't have much spare time to physically go and view venues so we researched them online, looking at their websites, Facebook pages, wedding albums of couples who got married there, along with any brochures they had sent us. I'll be honest, this exercise was more for M than me. I've always loved 29 and it's my dream venue but I didn't want to pressure M into choosing it purely for me so I didn't let on that the others were no competition in my eyes. When it came down to it, we could pick holes in every venue - without even seeing them in person - apart from 29 and decided to view it in person. Thaaaank the Lord - M loved it!! And that was the start and end of our venue hunt. They even had our preferred date available so we can officially say we are getting married at 29 Private Members' Club on 23 May 2020!

    We get to use a few different spaces in 29 which was a huge selling point for us. M meets the guests in Apartment 29 before moving through to The Supper Club for the ceremony. After the ceremony, the guests move to the Roof Terrace for drinks and canapes while we have our photos taken. We then head back to The Supper Club for dinner. After dinner, we head downstairs to the Network Bar while upstairs is turned around for the reception. Our evening guests arrive in Network Bar too then we all head back up to The Supper Club together for the party. I'll attach a few photos of the different spaces.

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  • The Photographer

    I've loved looking at wedding photos for as long as I can remember.. It doesn't matter whether I know the people in the photos or not, I love them all! So I knew photography would be one of our main priorities. I've looked at SO MANY photos over the years that I knew exactly what I wanted out of our photographer..

    I wanted candid/documentary style photographs with a romantic feel to them, I wanted a "couples shoot" without the posey pics. I was VERY lucky that in and around Glasgow we have a massive pool of talented photographers to choose from and although for every 50 I looked at there was only 2 or 3 I loved, I honestly must have looked at about 200 photographers!! Which left me with a few to choose between.. 

    Neil Thomas Douglas
    Martin McLellan
    Craig & Eva Sanders
    Simon Studios
    Ross Alexander

    Genuinely, if you are in Scotland (or even further afield) I would suggest you look at any of these because they are all STUNNING! In the end, we opted for Ross Alexander Photography and I couldn't be more pleased with our decision. I'll attach a few of his pics below (probably mainly pics he's taken at our venue cause I'm bias haha!)

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  • DandelionBlueDandelionBlue Posts: 1,053 New bride

    Hi there. I am another Scottish bride. We are getting married at Rowallan Castle. Just outside of Scotland.

    I met my fiancé on plenty of fish. Tinder wasn't that big a thing back then. Although I have been curious about tinder ;)

    I think I have eaten once at 29. The venue is stunning. Love your photographer too

  • Candice9Candice9 Posts: 230

    Both you and your ring are absolutely gorgeous!!

    Another Tinder couple here! We met 4 years ago and are getting married this November!

    And like you, we have gone for a city centre wedding (Newcastle, not Glasgow though). You venue looks really modern and sophisticated!

    Can't wait to read all about it!

     

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Phitographers work looks beautiful- photography was one of our priorities too(:

    h2b is a photographer and very picky!

  • Nice Pictures and Beautiful Ring

  • Oh what a lovely proposal!

    I love your venue, it looks amazing! We also decided we wanted a city centre wedding and not your traditional venue. 

  • DandelionBlue wrote (see post):

    Hi there. I am another Scottish bride. We are getting married at Rowallan Castle. Just outside of Scotland.

    I met my fiancé on plenty of fish. Tinder wasn't that big a thing back then. Although I have been curious about tinder ;)

    I think I have eaten once at 29. The venue is stunning. Love your photographer too

    Aw I love Rowallan!! I used to live in Sorn and work in Kilmarnock so I know it well! Where are you from? Can't wait to catch up on your planning thread tonight!

    I have to be honest, POF did not go well for me haha!! I'm glad you found someone husband-worthy!!


  • Candice9 wrote (see post):

    Both you and your ring are absolutely gorgeous!!

    Another Tinder couple here! We met 4 years ago and are getting married this November!

    And like you, we have gone for a city centre wedding (Newcastle, not Glasgow though). You venue looks really modern and sophisticated!

    Can't wait to read all about it!

     

    Oh how kind are you!? Thank you so much! Love another Tinder couple ;) haha!

    Wow 3 months to go!! I haven't seen your planning thread but I'm definitely going to catch up over the next few days, I'll never get enough of city weddings!

  • FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

    Oh what a lovely proposal!

    I love your venue, it looks amazing! We also decided we wanted a city centre wedding and not your traditional venue. 

    Thanks lovely! Yours is another planning thread I haven't come across yet but I'll be catching up on it along with the other two, can't wait to see what venue you picked x

  • Wedding Party

    I've never wanted a big wedding party.. As gorgeous as the photos are when there's loads of bridesmaids, I have struggled with anxiety in the past and while I have this under control now, I can get quite overwhelmed with lots of voices/opinions and actually struggle to maintain good levels of contact with a lot of people meaning that after moving from Lanarkshire to Ayrshire to Glasgow to Renfrewshire and back to Lanarkshire in the space of 4/5 years (exhausting haha!), I've lost some friends on the way! 

    SO.. I wanted my RIDE OR DIE girls haha! I knew before I was even engaged that I would only have these two..

    Louise

    I can't quite believe I've only known Louise since the beginning of 2016! I suppose my relationship with her is a bit like my relationship with M - a whirlwind ha! We met, we clicked, we knew it was meant to be! We started working together at my last firm in May 2016 and quite quickly became best friends. I went through that horrendous break up which genuinely was the worst time in my life so far and she was just there. Always. Literally day or night. I moved out of my house in August 2016 and moved back in with family but actually spent about 4 nights a week sleeping over at Louise's. I've never known friendship like it! 
    We've both moved firms since then but still chat every single day and meet up every month or so. She refers to the wedding as "our wedding" and I honestly couldn't imagine not having her in my life now.

    Danielle

    This is my longest friend. Danielle and I met on our first day as Police Cadets back on 01 October 2007 (wow, what :|) and became friends really quickly. We've literally grown up together from the age of 16 and been through every up and down of life together. She's the girl I know I will be able to count on for the rest of my life and we haven't fallen out or argued once in 11 years. Again, my wedding day wouldn't be the same if she wasn't right next to me.

     

    Because the girls don't know each other, I thought it would be a dead giveaway if I invited them to dinner together to ask them to be bridesmaids so instead I got some gorgeous balloons made and made them little "bridesmaid boxes" with jammies, wine, chocolates and a candle and asked them separately. I'm pretty sure they both knew they were going to be asked but they done their best surprised face anyway! We're having our first "Bridesmaid Meeting" on 15 September for some dinner and drinks and no doubt I'll come away with a list of do's and don'ts for dresses etc and they will leave with a list of do's and don'ts for the hen do haha!

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  • Wedding Party Cont...

    I got so swept up being soppy about the bridesmaids there that I forgot about the rest!!

    I'm an only child so don't have any siblings or nephews/nieces to think about. 

    M is actually an identical twin and has an older brother too. His twin, Scott, has 3 kids (Kyle, Jess and Parker) and his brother, Chris, has 3 kids (Ava, Finn and Wren). 

    I love M's family and it made sense to involve them as much as possible so we decided we'd have Kyle and Finn as junior groomsmen as they'll be 14 & 15 by May 2020, Jess as a junior bridesmaid as she'll be 11, Wren as a flower girl as she'll be 8 and Parker as our little page boy - he'll be 2! We didn't give Ava a role as she'll be 20 and figured she'll just want to have a drink and dance!

    M has also decided to have Scott as his best man, Chris as a groomsman and his friend Stephen as a groomsman too. Stephen actually lives in Canada now so he didn't want to put too much pressure on him to fly home for the wedding but we know he definitely wants to be there - it may just mean he comes alone rather than flying the whole family home.

    I'm in love with our little wedding party and know they'll all do me proud on the day!

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  • Ah i love your ring!! I love the style youre going for too, its going to look so lovely! 

    Nice to come across another spring 2020 bride!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Ah that’s lovely that you have Nieces and nephews to include. I’d have loved some little flower girl/Page boys but we have zero children in the family! 

    Bridesmaids look over the moon- definitely quality over quantity! 

  • CoffeeDogAddict wrote (see post):

    Ah i love your ring!! I love the style youre going for too, its going to look so lovely! 

    Nice to come across another spring 2020 bride!

    Oh thankyou!! Aw are you Spring 2020 too?! I feel like everyone is 2019 and my wedding feels a lifetime away right now. I'll need to get on to your planning thread next. I've actually barely been on YAYW, I've been lurking around WeddingBee mostly snooping on all the drama haha!

  • Sian91 wrote (see post):

    Ah that’s lovely that you have Nieces and nephews to include. I’d have loved some little flower girl/Page boys but we have zero children in the family! 

    Bridesmaids look over the moon- definitely quality over quantity! 

    They're pretty cute, aren't they?! I never pictured having kids in the wedding, purely because there are none on my side! Have none of your friends got kids you could rope in?

  • LittleBlonde wrote (see post):
    Oh thankyou!! Aw are you Spring 2020 too?! I feel like everyone is 2019 and my wedding feels a lifetime away right now. I'll need to get on to your planning thread next. I've actually barely been on YAYW, I've been lurking around WeddingBee mostly snooping on all the drama haha!

     

    Yeah i'm 5th April 2020 :) It feels forever away, but it'll soon be 18 months and that's a "normal" timeframe, so i'm sure it'll go quickly! 
    Aha i started off on there! It's great for some entertainment, but i like the chill vibe on YAYW. 

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