Has anyone planned a wedding before officially being engaged?
I know it all sounds very odd but my DP and I have been together 18 months and we've spoken about the future and marriage etc and yesterday he had a very cryptic talk with me.
Basically we were talking about when we'd like to get married and I said I love the idea of getting married on 29th February 2020. It's just such a random date and he loved the idea too.
I am genuinely not fussed about the whole big day (I've been married before) so we've spoken about going abroad just us to get married then having a big party when we get home - perfect.
My DP is waiting for some money to come through in order to buy my ring. I've said to him I don't need a fancy ring but he's set on getting me the right one hence having to wait for this money.
We spoke yesterday and he asked about how long in advance would we need to book the wedding/holiday and I explained the sooner the better. That's when he said could we perhaps book it knowing that the ring will come soon.
I think I'm fine with this as I love my holidays so even if we didn't officially marry on the holiday, we'd still have a nice trip but there is that slight idea in the back of my mind that says it's all a bit odd to book a wedding/holiday when you're not engaged.
I wouldn't tell anyone what we've booked until we're engaged so I don't worry about what people think. I think I'm worried about it being 'bad luck'. is that just silly?
Money for the holiday wise is fine as we have our joint savings that'll pay for it but obviously DP doesn't want to use this to buy my ring.
What do you think?