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Any recommendations for some short, modern readings for a civil ceremony?

Don't want anything too 'flowery' with unpronouncable words!



  • cathymukcathymuk Posts: 2,675
    Hi princess4theday

    theres a great thread on this in the general chat bit, under heading I've found some readings. Theres lots of ideas.
  • I think this reading is beautiful and totally represents the true meaning of real love.

    From "The Velveteen Rabbit" by Margery Williams

    "What is REAL?" asked the Rabbit one day, when they were lying side by side near the nursery fender, before Nana came to tidy the room. "Does it mean having things that buzz inside you and a stick-out handle?"

    "Real isn't how you are made," said the Skin Horse. "It's a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but REALLY loves you, then you become Real."

    "Does it hurt?" asked the Rabbit.

    "Sometimes," said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. "When you are Real you don't mind being hurt."

    "Does it happen all at once, like being wound up," he asked, "or bit by bit?"

    "It doesn't happen all at once," said the Skin Horse. "You become. It takes a long time. That's why it doesn't happen often to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don't matter at all, because once you are Real you can't be ugly, except to people who don't understand."

  • i am having that reading from the velveteen rabbit- it is great!!!
  • hayleysumnerhayleysumner Posts: 1,296
    Awwww that's quite sweet. And quite apt considering my H2B is losing his hair, has the joints of an 80 year old and is very shabby! Rugby players, I don't know!
  • Hi

    we're having a great reading called "I'll be there" by Louise Cuddon, simple, modern and quite amusing. Also "on your wedding day" by anon, it always makes me smile.

  • hayleysumnerhayleysumner Posts: 1,296
    I love "i'll be there" - it's so funny ! Are you using the whole version or shortening it?

    I found this one which is quite nice too:

    Happiness in marriage is not something that just happens.

    A good marriage must be created.

    In marriage the little things are the big things.

    It is never being too old to hold hands.

    It is remembering to say "I love you" at least once a day.

    It is never going to sleep angry.

    It is at no time taking the other for granted; the courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.

    It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.

    It is standing together facing the world.

    It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.

    It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.

    It is speaking words of appreciation and demonstrating gratitude in thoughtful ways.

    It is not looking for perfection in each other.

    It is cultivating flexibility, patience, understanding and a sense of humour.

    It is having the capacity to forgive and forget.

    It is giving each other an atmosphere in which each can grow.

    It is a common search for the good and the beautiful.

    It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.

    It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.

    [Modified by: Princess4theday on April 26, 2007 08:01 PM]

  • hayleysumnerhayleysumner Posts: 1,296
    Sorry meant to say its called The Art of a Good Marriage by Wilfred Arlan Peterson.

    I also like this one (Blessing For a Marriage by James Dillet Freeman)

    May your marriage bring you all the exquisite excitements a marriage should bring, and may life grant you also patience, tolerance, and understanding.

    May you always need one another - not so much to fill your emptiness as to help you to know your fullness. A mountain needs a valley to be complete; the valley does not make the mountain less, but more; and the valley is more a valley because it has a mountain towering over it. So let it be with you and you.

    May you need one another, but not out of weakness.

    May you want one another, but not out of lack.

    May you entice one another, but not compel one another.

    May you embrace one another, but not out encircle one another.

    May you succeed in all important ways with one another, and not fail in the little graces.

    May you look for things to praise, often say, "I love you!" and take no notice of small faults.

    If you have quarrels that push you apart, may both of you hope to have good sense enough to take the first step back.

    May you enter into the mystery which is the awareness of one another's presence - no more physical than spiritual, warm and near when you are side by side, and warm and near when you are in separate rooms or even distant cities.

    May you have happiness, and may you find it making one another happy.

    May you have love, and may you find it loving one another!

  • VPukVPuk Posts: 580
    We are having "Love is a Temporary Madness" from Captain Correlli's Mandolin, and "The Promise" by Eileen Rafter, which I like because it isn't really sentimental. Am thinking about having three readings now though, because that one from the Velveteen Rabbit is lovely!

    The Promise

    Eileen Rafter

    The sun danced on the snow with a sparkling smile,

    As two lovers sat quietly, alone for a while.

    Then he turned and said, with a casual air

    (Though he blushed from his chin to the tips of his hair),

    "I think I might like to get married to you"

    "Well then, she said, "Well there's a thought,

    But what if we can't promise to be all that we ought,

    If I'm late yet again, when we plan to go out.

    For I know I can't promise, I'll learn to ignore

    Dirty socks and damp towels strewn all over the floor.

    So if we can't vow to be all that we should

    I'm not sure what to do, though the idea's quite good".

    But he gently smiled and tilted his head

    Till his lips met her ear and softly he said

    "I promise, to weave my dreams into your own,

    That wherever you breathe will be my hearts home.

    I promise, that whether with rags or with gold I am blessed

    Your smile is the jewel I will treasure the best.

    Do you think then, my love, we should marry - do you?"

    "Yes" she said smiling "I do".

  • kackukkackuk Posts: 34
    we're having two..

    Poem by D.H. Lawrence

    Man and woman are like the earth, that brings forth flowers

    in summer, and love, but underneath is rock.

    Older than flowers, older than ferns, older than foraminiferae,

    older than plasm altogether is the soul underneath.

    And when, throughout all the wild chaos of love

    slowly a gem forms, in the ancient, once-more-molten rocks

    of two human hearts, two ancient rocks,

    a man's heart and a woman's,

    that is the crystal of peace, the slow hard jewel of trust,

    the sapphire of fidelity.

    The gem of mutual peace emerging from the wild chaos of love.

    You have known each other from the first glance of acquaintance to this point of commitment. At some point, you decided to marry. From that moment of yes to this moment of yes, indeed, you have been making promises and agreements in an informal way. All those conversations that were held riding in a car or over a meal or during long walks - all those sentences that began with ???????When we're married??????? and continued with ???????I will and you will and we will???????- those late night talks that included ???????someday??????? and ???????somehow??????? and ???????maybe???????- and all those promises that are unspoken matters of the heart. All these common things, and more, are the real process of a wedding. The symbolic vows that you are about to make are a way of saying to one another, ??????? You know all those things we've promised and hoped and dreamed- well, I meant it all, every word.??????? Look at one another and remember this moment in time. Before this moment you have been many things to one another- acquaintance, friend, companion, lover, dancing partner, and even teacher, for you have learned much from one another in these last few years. Now you shall say a few words that take you across a threshold of life, and things will never quite be the same between you. For after these vows, you shall say to the world, this- is my husband, this- is my wife

    "Union" by Robert Fulghum

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