should we have to pay for this?
MrsRertetobe
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just wondering if anyone had been in same situation. i have had a phone call from family meber attending our wedding in august to tell me that she may still be breastfeeding her baby (due in april) at our wedding in early september adn that because of this we need to p[ay for her to have a separate room available all day so she can breastfeed if she wants to. we are having a very small wedding and dont have a big budget. i have no way of doing this in the church (very small 11th century country church) we are having the reception at a hotel but guest is not staying over night. i have asked the hotel and we have been told to do this we would have to hire the smal function room at £150 for the day or pay for a bedroom for which would then need cleaning etc so we would have to py the over night rate of £120. do you think we should have to do this
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How does she manage during the every other day when there isn't a room available for her? Let her kid starve??? No, she doesn't.
Kick her into touch - I've never heard anything so ridiculous in my life. If she feels that strongly, tell her to stay at home.
Tell her to get off her high horse and just find somewhere private! I'm sure she could feed her baby in the ladies toilet if she's that bothered, or else pay for the room herself.
I would just tell her that this is not something that is provided but give her the contact number for the hotel and tell her she is welcome to phone and sort something out for herself!
And it's only a possibility anyway...not even a definite! She sounds like a bit of a handful!
Sorry but that's not your problem!
Anyway when i was working for a resturant, the policy was that if a woman wanted to breast feed then you as a company need to provide a private area, so your not the one that needs to sort this, she needs to sort this out her self!
I'm going to have not even a month old at my wedding and the mum will definitely be breast feeding, she's not asked me for a room.
Some guests really p*ss me off!
You can always find a quiet corner and discretly feed your child.
Absolutely not your problem. And I wouldn't even mince my words telling her that.
Tell her there is a magical thing called a 'toilet cubicle'. You could even stick her a VIP sign on it.
I would just ignore her silly demands. The worst thing that could happen is you don't comply and they don't come, which doesn't sound like too much of a shame.
Tell her, if she wants a private room, she can pay for it, or use the ladies loo's like any other normal person
I think I would politely tell her to take her breast feeding query up with the hotel - they will know their obligations under the law. If she is so worried about her precious children, I'm surprised she is turning her nose up at a nourishing roast dinner in favour of chips!! I would also point out to her that you cannot guarantee that people won't drink around her children at a WEDDING and so you totally understand if she feels she cannot attend and expose them to this 'terrible' risk.
Good grief, she needs a reality check!!
Tell her to do one!!
xxx
We had guests at our wedding who were breastfeeding (including my sister/bridesmaid!) and not 1 person made this request for me. They either booked a room and stayed or sorted with other guests to borrow their rooms or found somewhere quiet and out of the way.
As for meals, thats ridiculous!! I did give my guests with children a choice of having half of adult meal of the kiddies menu (at £5 for a kiddies meal i didn't mind!) but all said not to fuss over them and they would have half adult meal (and that included children from 2 years old!) I just asked for ice cream for them rather than the dessert we were having. NOBODY made demands of what we did and didn't provide them with.
Unless she and her family have some kind of special dietary needs they should damn well shut up and eat what is put in front on them. And don't get me started on the alcohol thing! Everyone at your wedding has to stay sober so that her precious darlings aren't exposed to that nasty evil alcohol? That's one of the most ridiculous things I've ever heard.
Sounds to me like either she is a complete spoiled brat with no thought for anyone other than herself and her kiddywinks or she doesn't want to come and is being unreasonable so that you will uninvite her, making her a martyr and you and H2B the 'bad guys' in the eyes of your families.
Tell her to take her breastfeeding dilemma up with the hotel. If she doesn't like the food you're providing, give her a list of fast food places, she can order (and pay for) her own. And if those options don't appeal, she doesn't have to come
And as for the kids meail...don't even get me started!
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I'm sorry, but after all you get free food and entertainment at a wedding how rude to come with demands!!
We tried avoiding things like this by only asking for allergies or if someone was a veggy and we still got a few things along the lines of "Oh I dont eat..." then grow up and put it on the side of your plate!
As for children I could go on and on but I loathe parents who raise their brood on chips and sausages. Mine eat whats on the plate and surely with a rost dinner there is something they like?
Good luck - and sit them as far away from you as possible. Maybe in the restaurant around the corner
This is why I didn't tell guests what the food was as I knew that it could only result in some comments from those who weren't happy. Try to stay away from these conversations. Just say that you are really sorry but you can't provide different options for everyone but she's welcome to speak to the hotel herself, and that you completly understand her not wishing to stay at the evening party with her children.
Her demands are ridiculous! I'm sure after how many kids she'll have breastfed in public a few times - what's wrong with a quiet corner and a blanket? Or I'm sure on the night someone will be staying who would let her use their room? Or she could express milk beforehand? Ultimately it's not your problem to find her a room all of her own. Tell her to be a big girl and make her own arrangements with the hotel and sort it out herself!
Tell the woman to invest in a pashmina or muslin blanket and to get over herself.
Breastfeeding is the most natural thing in the world so she only has to take herself into a cosy corner and crack on with it!!!
There is NO WAY that this should be at your expense.
The lady has a severe case of baby brain going on! hee hee
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I think she needs uninviting meself!
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it isnt law hun - it is classed as a responsible and inclusive business plan for people to provide AREAS, not rooms for women to breastfeed if needed but even the hotel would not have to provide something.
Tell her to get over herself and see that you are paying out alot of money for a wedding which she gets to enjoy and your giving her and her children a healthy dinner which i suspect they dont get alot.
To be accomodating print off the list of the local chip shops and also say that she can take it up with the hotel in regards to what they can do for her if she needs to feed.
At the end of the day there is always the option of expressing and using that instead but tbh it just sounds like shes trying to cause trouble.
Dont let it stress you out too much and enjoy your day x