Day or evening guests - how to decide
Just wanted some opinions really as I kind of know what I want to do but want to know how other people would feel/what they would do in my situation.
There are 3 of us in the same office getting married this year. In fact one was married on Saturday, one is in a couple of weeks and then mine is the last, in December.
We have obviously all been a bit wedding crazy in the office and been sharing ideas etc leading up to the day. Early on I think at least two of us said anyone from work would only be invited to the evening. The one at the weekend was much bigger than either of ours and we were invited to the day. I'm then invited to the day at the next one but my OH is invited to the evening. (I'm pretty sure I was bumped up and he couldn't have come to the day anyway as it's during the week.)
Anyway, the question is that we are really tight on numbers and when we did the guest list we found it really easy - we could include everyone we wanted without having to debate over numbers. Now that I am about to give invitations out at work, these two fellow brides are still on the evening list. Do you think they will be offended? Would you be?
My only other option really is to bump the 2 women if people drop out and invite their husbands to the evening, but I think that leaves even more potential room for offence, and I'm not even sure there will be room to do that as everyone is a yes so far. My OH and I said from the start that any of our work people would be invited to the evening to avoid politics etc; in a way I feel I have become quite close to them but equally I think am I only feeling the need to "bump" them to return the favour?
I have to make the decision pretty quickly as I sent out all of my invitations last week, which they know... I just wanted to get some opinions of what you would do/have done as the bride or how you might feel as the guest? I basically want to avoid p*ssing people off or offending them!!