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Favours - or just thank yous for our readers / witnesses?

We are having 11 guests at our wedding, going for dinner afterwards at a fairly informal restaurant. I am not sure whether to decorate the table - I like making things but can't find a design that'd work - there's the added complication of going abroad so I can't be making anything edible or organising fresh flowers.

I'm not sure whether we need to do favours - they always seem a bit wasteful to me. We're giving out fans in the ceremony so maybe they're the favours? However we'd like to thank our witnesses and readers (our sisters) so should we give them something, or just write a card and put it at their place on the table?


  • TantrumsukTantrumsuk Posts: 90

    it's totally up to you.  I'm not big into favours, they seem a bit silly to me.  If I attend a wedding, it is because I want to see them get married.  Their memories will be more inportant than anything you can give them.

    Same with family.  I will be thanking mine, but won't be under any pressure to get them anything, and probably won't. Should you happen across something that seems perfect for them, however, then I'm sure that would be appreciated.

  • Hi,

    I agree favours are not necessary just traditional.I copied this for you:

    Why Should we give wedding favours? Wedding favors are small gifts given as a gesture of appreciation or gratitude to guests from the bride and groom during a wedding ceremony or a wedding reception. The tradition of distributing wedding favors is a very old one. It is believed that the first wedding favor, common among European aristocrats, was known as a bonbonniere. A bonbonniere is a small trinket box made of crystal, porcelain, and/or precious stones. The contents of these precious boxes were generally sugar cubes or delicate confections, which symbolize wealth and royalty. (In this era, sugar was an expensive commodity and was treasured only among the wealthy. It was believed that sugar contained medical benefits).As the price of sugar decreased throughout centuries, the tradition of providing gifts to guests reached the general populace and was embraced by couples of modest means. As sugar became more affordable, bonbonnieres were replaced with almonds. For centuries, almonds were commonly distributed to wedding guests to signify well wishes on the bridegroom’s new life. In the thirteenth century, almonds coated with sugar, known asconfetti, were introduced. Confetti soon transformed to sugared almonds, which later evolved into the wedding favor for modern day weddings. Traditionally, five Jordan almonds are presented in a confection box or wrapped in elegant fabric to represent fertility, longevity, wealth, health and happiness. The bitterness of the almond and the sweetness of the coated candy are a metaphor for the bitter sweetness of a marriage. Today, gifts to guests are commonly known as wedding favors and are shared in cultures worldwide. Wedding favors have become a part of wedding reception planning, especially in the United States and Canada. Wedding favors are diverse and usually complement the theme or season of the event. Classic favors can range from the classic sugared almonds or individual chocolates to candles and scented soaps. Modern gift trends include: CDs with the favorite music of the bride and groom, shot glasses filled with colored candy or silver picture frames with a photo of the couple. Gifts may also be personalized with the couple's names, initials or wedding date.

    Also if you are looking for a gift or two here is a link:

  • Mrs pickleMrs pickle Posts: 319

    I'm having 11 guests too and all I've bought are really cute stuffed hearts with love embroidered in the front. They we're £2 for a pack of 2 at primark

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