small wedding - parents' friends not wanted!
My son and his fiancee live in northern California and we live in southern California. They have asked us to host their small wedding in our home. We agreed and also offered to pay for all of it. They will invite 38 people, all from out of town and they expect that half will come. We have 26 friends,most of whom will likely come. My son will only allow us to invite a much smaller number of friends -maybe 10-. We don't want to limit our list for fear of offending anyone, but if we must do so, we will not invite any of our friends - just our small family and a few cousins. We prefer to have the wedding in their city, give them the money and be guests at their wedding. They prefer to have it at my home with only a few of their friends. If we have it in our house, pay for it and plan most of it with their approval, do we have the right to ask that our friends attend? They prefer a small, inexpensive wedding and they don't want our friends to overwhelm their wedding. If they have the wedding near their home, most of their friends will attend, but they prefer to have it at our house. I don't want to plan a wedding at my home, pay for it, and not have the pleasure of having my friends. I also don't want to create a rift with my son and insist that he have the wedding near his home. I can remove maybe 4 - 6 people from my list but that may not be enough to satisfy them. Really not sure what to do. My husband is more adamant than I am about inviting all of his friends. Hawaii maybe?