"He rocked my gypsy soul" My 22nd Dec 09 report with pics x

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And so it began:

It was never in my life agenda to get married. I was happy being a little -out there', enjoying the freedom and flexibility looking after only I was giving me. I lived for the weekends, enjoyed long nights out in bars and clubs, spending time with friends and living the rock and roll lifestyle. I have amazing friends, who I have known since being so tiny, ages 3 up. I have a loyal and solid friend circle, many crazy friends wih strong personalities, loyalty, trust and honesty and I love them all. They stick by me when I take off for 5 months to work in a bar in Greece, when I go skiing for 2 weeks and come back 6 months later. When I drink too much and make a prat of myself, when i've been unfaithful to past partners, when I say "i've met the one" and then move on 2 weeks later! They advised me to get a pension when I was earning pennies and didn't hate me when I told them to sod off!! They support all my choices, weather they agree or not and that is why we are all friends!



This was in Portugal 2007:








This is our venture pic - my 3 best friends








I travelled as far away from the UK as possible, worked for summers in bars in Greece, sharing a tiny apartment with my sister and working every night for 30 Euros and free vodka, dancing till 6am and doing it all again the next day. I think if I'm being honest I longed for -someone' but the attention and short flings I had made me feel something, so that was all I needed. I was never short of male attention but never found anyone that made me stand still. In 2006 I moved in with my 2 best male friends and we had a ball. We laughed daily, sat up for hours chatting, drinking and generally excusing each others behaviour with the fact that as we were all up to no good, it was fine! I was back at university and studying so life was good, I was broke but surrounded by amazing people and that was all that mattered.



And then I met Kieren.... I say met him, like it was a surprise. I was actually in touch/lightly dating one of his friends, someone I met years before and who I had feelings for, in the way you only can have -feelings' for someone you meet up with weekly after a night out and end up in the same taxi together.... He introduced us on a night out in October 06. I was self absorbed and flirting with the world and Kieren walked into the bar and saw me across the room, not knowing who I was. He said he knew he wanted to marry me at that moment, then his friend introduced us..... he was gutted that I was the Chloe he had heard about... He kissed my hand and said Hello and with that I was off to the next bar...

I met him again in April 07, again on a night when I was floating about without a care in the world, we said Hi and then moved along, I'd actually just had a chat with Alex from the Arctic Monkey's and was again in my own bubble!



Roll on May 07 and on another night out in Nottingham, my best friend was dating one of his friends and my phone was broken. I wanted to call and get some attention, hear about the -friend' and generally drunk dial. Kieren came on the phone and I remember talking to him for ages in Subway at 3am (romantic eh!). I don't remem

ber much of the conversation, just drunken blurb and he in a campervan in army gear in Skegness!

But something in that drunken blurb made me want to speak to him again. I had spoken to someone with some life, some experience and some balls! Coming from a small Yorkshire town, all the girls knew the boys and all the boys knew the girls, it was nice to speak to someone who had more to them than the normal 9-5....

I sought out his e-mail from many a joke mailed by -the friend' and sent his this:



Sent: 30 May 2007 11:31



Hi,

I'm hoping that I am actully e-mailing the right person, vaguely remember something about you making power.....

Anyhow, not suggesting you have, but just incase, my phone died Sunday night so I've not received any texts since then...

Hope all is well?

Chloe

x



His reply:



You are not only have something about you more than the average bear you are also a detective!

I did text you to check you were okay as I had not heard from you and was a tad worried.....

How in god's name (wrong religion but you get the drift) did you track me down????

Hoping all is well apart from the phone problem.....

K x







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    And so it began:

    It was never in my life agenda to get married. I was happy being a little -out there', enjoying the freedom and flexibility looking after only I was giving me. I lived for the weekends, enjoyed long nights out in bars and clubs, spending time with friends and living the rock and roll lifestyle. I have amazing friends, who I have known since being so tiny, ages 3 up. I have a loyal and solid friend circle, many crazy friends wih strong personalities, loyalty, trust and honesty and I love them all. They stick by me when I take off for 5 months to work in a bar in Greece, when I go skiing for 2 weeks and come back 6 months later. When I drink too much and make a prat of myself, when i've been unfaithful to past partners, when I say "i've met the one" and then move on 2 weeks later! They advised me to get a pension when I was earning pennies and didn't hate me when I told them to sod off!! They support all my choices, weather they agree or not and that is why we are all friends!



    This was in Portugal 2007:








    This is our venture pic - my 3 best friends








    I travelled as far away from the UK as possible, worked for summers in bars in Greece, sharing a tiny apartment with my sister and working every night for 30 Euros and free vodka, dancing till 6am and doing it all again the next day. I think if I'm being honest I longed for -someone' but the attention and short flings I had made me feel something, so that was all I needed. I was never short of male attention but never found anyone that made me stand still. In 2006 I moved in with my 2 best male friends and we had a ball. We laughed daily, sat up for hours chatting, drinking and generally excusing each others behaviour with the fact that as we were all up to no good, it was fine! I was back at university and studying so life was good, I was broke but surrounded by amazing people and that was all that mattered.



    And then I met Kieren.... I say met him, like it was a surprise. I was actually in touch/lightly dating one of his friends, someone I met years before and who I had feelings for, in the way you only can have -feelings' for someone you meet up with weekly after a night out and end up in the same taxi together.... He introduced us on a night out in October 06. I was self absorbed and flirting with the world and Kieren walked into the bar and saw me across the room, not knowing who I was. He said he knew he wanted to marry me at that moment, then his friend introduced us..... he was gutted that I was the Chloe he had heard about... He kissed my hand and said Hello and with that I was off to the next bar...

    I met him again in April 07, again on a night when I was floating about without a care in the world, we said Hi and then moved along, I'd actually just had a chat with Alex from the Arctic Monkey's and was again in my own bubble!



    Roll on May 07 and on another night out in Nottingham, my best friend was dating one of his friends and my phone was broken. I wanted to call and get some attention, hear about the -friend' and generally drunk dial. Kieren came on the phone and I remember talking to him for ages in Subway at 3am (romantic eh!). I don't remem

    ber much of the conversation, just drunken blurb and he in a campervan in army gear in Skegness!

    But something in that drunken blurb made me want to speak to him again. I had spoken to someone with some life, some experience and some balls! Coming from a small Yorkshire town, all the girls knew the boys and all the boys knew the girls, it was nice to speak to someone who had more to them than the normal 9-5....

    I sought out his e-mail from many a joke mailed by -the friend' and sent his this:



    Sent: 30 May 2007 11:31



    Hi,

    I'm hoping that I am actully e-mailing the right person, vaguely remember something about you making power.....

    Anyhow, not suggesting you have, but just incase, my phone died Sunday night so I've not received any texts since then...

    Hope all is well?

    Chloe

    x



    His reply:



    You are not only have something about you more than the average bear you are also a detective!

    I did text you to check you were okay as I had not heard from you and was a tad worried.....

    How in god's name (wrong religion but you get the drift) did you track me down????

    Hoping all is well apart from the phone problem.....

    K x







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  • MrsRuddersMrsRudders Posts: 2,761
    hey Chloe loving the report so far, did you get married in Nottingham too? x
  • MrsRuddersMrsRudders Posts: 2,761
    sorry I'm guessing you'll get to that bit in a mo ha ha just excited that you mentioned Notts thats all!
  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520
    And so it began. We spoke for hours, everyday for a week and had our 1st date on a Wednesday. We went for sushi. He bought me roses for my birthday. We played Cludo by candlelight when the village flooded in the 07 floods of Sheffield and we were stuck for 3 days. He came to my best friend's wedding and we said ???????I love you??????? on the 23rd June 2007. He and bought them champagne. He made me laugh, always. This is us at Helen and Chris's wedding. The I love you day (p.s. I'm not naked!!)








    He is beautiful inside and out and was back then. I loved his personality and his sense of self. He is strong and loved the outdoors, walking and climbing. Kieren is originally from London but moved to Sheffield with his mum and step father when he was 16. He is older than me, 9 years and has lived all over the world. He has knowledge of places and travels, something which I clung to with the hope he'd always want to be seeking the next big thing and never be afraid of change. He is a gentleman, opening doors, paying for dinner and treating me with respect and value. He had his own spirituality, his own believes and his own life. I fell in love. We ditched all the -f**k buddies' and made our life exclusive to each other. I went to Portugal with the girls and missed him and we spoke everyday. Words couldn't describe how I felt about him, I felt corny saying he was my soul mate but doing us an injustice as being 'happy'. I found it hard to explain so didn't, I let our happiness shine through in actions. No-one else excited me (man wise!) and when I came home, I moved in a week later!! I just felt like I belonged. We went to Ikea (big commitment thing!), out to dinner, introduced friend and families.



    We took our 1st holiday together in Spain in October and it rained all week but we read to each other, played games, made love and swam in the ocean. I dyed my hair red for fun....








    We spoke of marriage, buying a new house, children and boodles.



    Then in November I moved out.....
  • oh no why did you move out? keep it coming i'm want to know more!!
  • suspense is killing me, arghhhhh lol keep it coming
  • HallyWifeyHallyWifey Posts: 2,181
    I'm hooked, come on!!!
  • ahhh i need more!!! i LOVE your redhair (p.s you said i love you on my birthday - June 23rd!) xxxx
  • vw_familyvw_family Posts: 992
    .....oh no! Please let there be more today!



    xx
  • Hooked!

  • 4months4months Posts: 555
    oh ...... more more more - why did u move out ! ahh ! xx
  • GemNic13GemNic13 Posts: 534
    lol, gripping cliff hanger... what a fab report! love it!



    more please image



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  • well come back chloebo82.... cant wait for rest of report! x
  • ljcsurreyljcsurrey Posts: 657
    cannot wait to read this!! x
  • tam27uktam27uk Posts: 600
    oh i hate it when this happens, you just get gripped and then it stops



    come on girl more!!! xx
  • cazfaycazfay Posts: 643
    Ahhhhhhh! More, more, more!!!! image
  • willsgalwillsgal Posts: 419
    why, why, why did you move out!!??!!



    You're going to have to type faster, mrs, I'm studying for an exam and have limited time for breaks - and I want to read more of this lovely report! x
  • TheNemoTheNemo Posts: 929
    Ok, you have me hooked....suspense is killing me!
  • Pippa155Pippa155 Posts: 1,144
    Honestly Chloebo82 - what on earth are you trying to do to us???







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    PS. Loving it really x
  • Eeeek! I can't waif to read more!!!!
  • Agree loving it. You have an absolute brillo writing style, its like we're sat having a cup of tea and digestive and you're telling us all about it.

    But PLEASE hurry up with the rest of the report!! I have to go to the gym and I know I'll end up having a chinese and checking the internet all night unless you update this very very soon! x
  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520
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    I don't blame us, I blame myself. I wasn't ready for the whole stability, I didn't close my feelings off to other people who had factored in my life who I still thought of and wanted attention from, I didn't talk about anything and I got completely swept away with the whole -couple' that I ignored me. I lost who I was, I was what I was supposed to be. Kieren was unhappy too. He became needy and insular, our sex life stopped as he felt immense pressure from me to make it like a porn film every night, something which I thought was necessary for a -healthy' relationship. My parents divorced when I was 13 and my dad went off with a young, sexy and beautiful 25 year old. I remember him telling me the sex with her was amazing and with my mum I was stale and predictable. I thought that being -stale and predictable' would make no-one love me and run off with the hot 25 year old so I had always used sex as power. I made men want me by being sexy and hot... I never thought that I would be -enough'.

    I stayed with my best friend for a week and did a lot of soul searching. I didn't know what I wanted or if the person I was in love with, still could see the me he met. We spoke about all of this and he said that I had broken his heart. He loved me but couldn't be with someone who caused him pain. I couldn't be with someone who I felt needed me and nothing or no-one else. We had just become so caught up in making a couple work, that we had ignored ourselves! We spoke and spoke and decided that the way we felt when we met over powered the way we had become. I moved back home and we went to Bermuda for our 1st Christmas together. Were we -right', no I don't think we were but were we in love, yes we were. You can see now on the pictures that we didn't look truly OK, we had a look that said we were working on it!








    Ex partners still kept coming out of the woodwork and I started counselling to deal with my parents issues but we worked though it together and we began to be as we were when we met. I would have loved to have started this report with ???????we met over a crowded room (we did) and that we fell in love (we did) and nothing got in our way??????? but it did so that was our start, a little rocky yes but we made it and I made it and he made it and that is where we are. Maybe not fairytale romance but that is not real, we are real and we are alive!



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  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520
    The proposal:



    We were doing well, really well. We were spending time together, supporting each other and looking forward. I fancied him more than I ever had and we were right. Yes, we still had our bad days but we never argued, we still don't. We talked, we had long walks, days away in the campervan, he nurtured my insecurities around my looks and my body, he made me feel beautiful and for the 1st time in my life, I had stopped colouring my hair every other day and my look to re-invent myself to be the next big and exciting thing had weaned. I was comfortable with who I was.

    It was Kieren's birthday and we had arranged a dinner with friends to a new champagne bar in Sheffield. He was acting so strange all day though, like forgetting how to drive and wandering around the shops looking lost! We took pictures before we went out and I felt happy, beautiful and in love. There is one with Ki with his hand in his pocket, and now I know why!! We went to a beautiful restaurant with great friends, it was -Good Friday' and spirits were high. We enjoyed champagne and lovely food, and then Ki called everyone across. He is always the gentleman, very moralistic and always doing good. I would have thought he would have said something to thank everyone for coming and celebrating his birthday. He was doing this and then said he would like to thank me for making it extra special and then said he wanted to ask me something...... My best friend, the one who had supported me through the rough times, burst into tears. I was so unaware of my actions as he turned to me and asked me to be his wife that I was actually crying and shaking my head!!! I like to think that was the shock and not the subconscious saying ???????no!??????? hehehe.



    And so my beautiful platinum 0.75 solitaire diamond ring was placed upon my finger. My other best friend (of which I have 3 who I would die for) did a wonderful speech which made us all cry. She said she valued me and our friendship and couldn't wait to make Kieren more welcome into our lives. It was a magical evening. So on Friday the 21st March 2008, I was an engaged lady.

    Here is a picture after the proposal(and the tear stained face)! And one of my ring.







  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520
    Planning:



    Now as I said at the beginning of all of this, I had never seen myself as the marrying type, I had no box of -wedding planning' already made, just waiting for the right man and had no idea how to plan a wedding. I just knew I wanted simple, classy and a little bit different. We had an engagement party to celebrate in May 08 to celebrate and get all our friends and family together. We had a great night and I think that this was the point where we both knew that the hard work had been worth it. We were a couple, a unit and 2 fabulous people as well, who had chosen to spend time together and to build a life together. We wanted to be together and we wanted to show the world we meant business!

    My dad, whilst having his affair was working in Bermuda had then relocated to live there, he moved in 1997 and this is where he still lives. The affair didn't last, do they ever? But after a blind date in 1999 he remarried a wonderful woman called Holly in October 2000 and that is where we decided, that as my second home and place of sanctuary, we would have our wedding. Ki had been already in the winter and I knew that in the summer, he would fall in love with it all over again. It was warm, sunny, beautiful and discrete. But it wasn't cheap for our guests so we set a date for May 2010 and began the planning.... Now I for one, am a very organised person, in fact I think others would call it anal or a control freak! I just like -organised!'

    We went back to Bermuda on the summer of 2008 to find a venue and plan the day, we hired a scooter and each day took off to the many hotels and resorts on the island, planning for our guests and looking for somewhere where we would want to become man and wife.






    We chose a beautiful restaurant for the reception and drafted up the guest list of 40 guests. I made an appointment to see Jenny Packham and our colour scheme was the ocean, blues, corals and whites. It was all going great.... Too great in fact as at Christmas 08, we had a party and one of my best friends, who was dating Kieren's half brother broke down in tears and said she would never be able to afford the trip/wedding and flights.... This then began to be an emerging pattern, others were worried of the costs, as unlike the Carribean, it's not all inclusive, its exclusive, British Airways are the only servers direct and can ask as much as £700 a flight per person... I cried, we debated number of guests (i.e. only 10) vs married in Bermuda. We discussed money, budget, dates and what we could do to help others make it to Bermuda. I made a website, arranged group flights, found cheap bed and breakfasts etc... then after feeling like I was a sales promoter for Bermuda and our wedding, I gave up! It was like dragging a dead donkey up a hill backwards and I had enough. We cancelled the Bermuda wedding. I cried, felt resentment and then we found Great Fosters.....
  • diddumsukdiddumsuk Posts: 566
    Aww chloebo82 shame about the Bermuda wedding! Although i went to see great fosters on the day of your wedding and it looked beautiful!
  • MrsRuddersMrsRudders Posts: 2,761
    wahhhhh just when I thought I would be able to settle with a coffee, more please MORE !!
  • this i the first report iv ever read i normally just look a pics! its great! more please!x
  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520





    As I said before, Kieren was originally born in London, just outside Epsom and although I am a Northerner, from sunny Sheffield, alot of my friends had married up North, well 3 of them, but there was no where I felt happy with. We didn't want a church, Kieren is Buddhist and the last time I was in a church was 2007 for my best friends wedding! It felt hypocritical and I didn't see the need to have our wedding blessed by a faith in which I very loosely based my morals! I think weddings are so unique and individual, something which you have to be 'you' at, not what you think you should do 'just because'. I didn't want pink, I didn't want a veil and I didn't want children (a contentious subject I am more than aware!).

    So we travelled UK wide and fell in love with Great Fosters, I then saw that there was a thread on here i the BBB section, and my place on this site was born!

    For those of you who haven't seen inside Great Fosters, its amazing. It cuddles you the second you walk in, its arcitecture, the history, the creaks and squeaks wherever you walk. The gardens, the staff, everything ticked my boxes and then more. Its luxury without the pretense, its homely yet somewhere you would stay only for the special occassions. It welcomed us like it was an old friend and with that, I fell in love.



    Yes its expensive but we decided its now all about what we wanted, not what suited anybody else, some advice which I would give to many a bride to be!

    However, slight problem, we had decided to pull the wedding forward, no point in waiting until May 2010 when we could do it earlier (and my desire for black colour scheme and candles didn't suit summer!) so we wanted December. The 19th seemed perfect, or even the 20th, everyone would make a weekend before Christmas. Until, we were told a bar mitzvah had just booked the Sunday and the Saturday was booked.... "



    How about Tuesday, we have the 22nd"?.......



    Ummmm..... yeah sure, lets do a Tuesday! And with that our date was booked!



  • lucy_lu83lucy_lu83 Posts: 2,484
    Ooooh fabulous report, lots more pleeeease! x
  • CC2009CC2009 Posts: 520
    We set our colour scheme/theme, we went for "Winter elegence meets Jame Bond glamour". This just felt natural to us, no fuss, no crazy colours of fluff, just solid statements with lighting, design and care which I took on as my little project. I will happily say that I could design a wedding anywhere, spring, summer, on the moon.... but there is only man I would marry. I threw myself fully into the planning of our wonderful day. We had decided upon 80 guests, good food, great music, peaceful atmosphere and surrounded by those we love and know well. We set a rule, no-one coming who we haven't seen in a year! I must say that all our suppliers have been wonderful. We had Rebekah Daley as the stationer, who did our invites, order or day and table plan. She designed an image especially for us, something to represent both Kieren and I, the style of day we wanted and the look of who we were.








    We had black and white on a ivory card, everyone who recieved one asked who made them, someone even said they thought they were a piece of art! I loved that we had set the tone for our day in such a simple but elegent way.

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