How to cope with busy bodies who keep judging how I’m spending my money!
Sorry I’m ranting here
So basically my fiancé and I are paying for our wedding ourselves with no financial help from any family members on either side and I’m definitely not taking out any loans to pay for the wedding. We have worked out a saving plan for our wedding that means we will get married in about 4 years, we can afford to save more but we like to go on holiday or have nights out, we don’t want to live like hermits scrimping and saving every penny just for one day.
When people ask if we’ve set a date, I tell them we’re getting Some savings together first and we will set a date, it will be a few years away because weddings are expensiv, and they are generally fine with that. The problem is people’s reactions when the wedding isn’t taking over my life and I’m spending money on other things. For example we’ve just booked 3 nights away in Wales in September, I told a friend from work and her first response was “You’re supposed to be saving for a wedding” This isn’t the first time it’s happened either. I booked a holiday to Italy in January for this June, we got engaged in Feb, so obviously when a I booked it I didn’t know Id be saving for a weddin, but as my holidays got closer several friends have made comments about how that money wasnt going toward our wedding fun, I’d booked he holiday before I knew I was getting married, I wasn’t bloody cancelling it!
I don’t get this whole you’re engaged it has to take over your life, and you can do nothing else until you’re married because that has to be your number one priority malarkey, I am saving for a wedding, but I’m also not halting my life because of it. We are together we share our life together and we will get married, when we can afford it but we won’t stop enjoying things just because thats what people think you’re supposed to do and I’m becoming increasingly frustrated that my friends can only think about the wedding and telling me that all my energy and money should be going into that.
Not only that they haven’t asked what we want they just assume that has to be a priority.
Any advice on how to deal with these people would be gratefully received. But it feels good just to rant about it.