Did your hens pay for your share of abroad hen do?

Every hen I have ever been on, we have split the cost of the hen's share between us which is fine but they have always been UK based. But my hen do is potentially going to be abroad (in Europe) so what's the score here? I obviously don't want my hen's paying loads more just to cover my share but I also don't want to put them in an awkward situation!  


  • MrsTraceyMrsTracey Posts: 835 New bride

    Tricky one, if you've chosen to go abroad and therefore the costs will be higher, I would offer to pay what you realistically can. Then they might say no it's fine, but at least have the chat. Then again, nowadays hen dos over here in the U.K. Can cost close to what one in Europe would cost. I would just instigate the chat sooner rather than later so there's no awkward question marks about it, and it's addressed straight away. 

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,471 New bride

    I paid for my own flights, but then everything in country is covered by my hens

  • cloudatlascloudatlas Posts: 78

    I would always start with the assumption that you pay for everything, then if bms offer to contribute that's a nice bonus but not expected!

  • i think if you have said you want it to be abroad, you need to pay for your share. it isnt fair on your hens who are already shelling out a lot for a trip they would otherwise not be taking, i think its cheeky to stipulate where your hen party will be, but then not be prepared to foot any of that cost. 

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,446 New bride

    I've just arranged my best friend's, which wasn't abroad, but was quite an expensive spa weekend, £250 each.

    We managed to find a company where if 9 people booked, the 10th went free, so luckily we didn't have to pay for the bride. If we didn't have 9 people come we were going to split her cost between us though. Most of the ladies were older with good jobs and no kids though so money wasn't as much of an issue as it could be for some.


    I'm having a 'not my hen party it's a holiday*' abroad next year, but there are only 3 or 4 of us going and I will pay for myself. My hens will pay for my 'official' hen do but that will be a fairly simple affair.

    * I want a hen do abroad but I only want to go with my 2 closest friends and possibly my SIL, I don't want my mum, sister, MIL etc there - to prevent friction/upset we are just calling it a girl's holiday. Then I will have a meal/night out type hen do with everyone invited.

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    Yes my hens are paying my share. It’s my group of very 5 best friends (all bridesmaids). I’ve tried to insist on covering my share of hotel and flights but they won’t accept it so I’ll make a point of paying a big dinner/ drinks bill when we are there To say thanks.



  • SadieeeSadieee Posts: 1,781 New bride

    My sister specifically asked for Dublin for her hen do, we covered it all for her between us but that was agreed between us beforehand, my sister did not expect it, she just needed spending money. My hen is a weekend one but here in England and mine is also being paid for by the others

  • Lucy266Lucy266 Posts: 176

    Yes, it was my best man /man of honours idea. I felt a bit uncomfortable about it tbh, but it was cheap when split between the whole group. 

  • Georgina74Georgina74 Posts: 299 New bride

    Mine was covered by my hens, but I found out the cost and transferred it into my friends account. I know they haven't used it to pay for accomodation etc but it'll go towards something nice for us all, maybe a few bottles of champagne or some games etc, I felt awkward not paying my way.

  • MrsGtoBMrsGtoB Posts: 712 New bride

    I paid my own and they bought decorations, gifts etc

    I think I'd be a bit upset to pay for all of the hen's share abroad as it's quite a cost to go away.  I'll pay my own way for my UK one to though 


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