Can we have our civil ceremony on the same day but AFTER our main ceremony?
I don't seem to be able to find anyone "official" to answer this, so I'm turning to you for advice!
We are having our wedding in September, and because an outside ceremony has always been our dream, we realised early that this ceremony can't be combined with the civil one. This suits us because my lovely Godmother is doing our "real" ceremony very much in the humanist style, and we definitely want that to feel spiritual. Our plan was to have a civil ceremony also at the venue immediately afterwards, but totally in private with just a couple of witnesses. To us this is really just the equivalent of when a couple would go to sign the register in a church wedding (but with a few necessary words too obviously).
The problem though is that when I spoke to the registrar she was really digging her heels in about the fact that this would mean our "other" ceremony was blessing a marriage that hadn't happened. I explained that we see that as the real wedding, and the civil bit is just a formality, but she's being quite difficult. From my research though, there is no actual legal reason for this to be a problem....is there?
We did talk about having the civil ceremony a couple of days before, but we just know that we'd feel slightly like some of the magic of the day was taken away that way. And my partner doesn't want to do the civil bit on the same day but BEFORE the ceremony, because he wants the first time he sees me to be the moment I appear at the end of the aisle in my dress. And we can't do it the day after because we're going on our honeymoon. And leaving it until after we're back would make the honeymoon feel really hollow. I know a lot of you won't agree with out wish to do it this way around, but it's what's right for us...
Thanks in advance for anything you might know about this!