Nervous about Dress Fitting

Getting my wedding dress altered has been the single most stressful part of my wedding planning journey.

It took me ages to find a seamstress I was happy with. I had five different consultations. Then so found a place called Bridal Dress Alterations in Stratford. She works from her house and specialises in Wedding Dresses. She has excellent reviews on Facebook. And I contacted some of the recent reviewers and they confirmed she was good.

However at my consultation I found out I didn't fit into my dress anymore. So she gave me two months to lose weight. Which I believe I have.

On Monday I called her just to reconfirm our appointment on Tuesday. She tells me she has it on Wednesday on her calendar. So I speak to my work to re-arrange the day I have taken off work.

This morning she calls me. Her son is very sick and she needs to go to hospital with him. She has to cancel all her appointments. She asks me if I can come on Saturday. That's my hen do. So we agree that I will come tonight at 8pm. 

Now I am not only incredibly stressed about the short turn around time. I'm picturing horror scenes in which she doesn't get my dress done on time. Or she dissapears and I never get my dress done.

Argh! I am so anxious.

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  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,135 New bride

    Oh no, I would be anxious at this too. Try and focus on something else today. You’ve done well with your weight loss by the sounds of it and most dresses can be let out by two sizes easily, if the worst comes and it doesn’t fit.

    Try and remember that people like her rely solely on word of mouth / their reputation for their business so it really isn’t in their interests to mess up anyone’s wedding dress as one catastrophic review could seriously damage them. Perhaps she’s got a little behind on another piece of work and so is pushing yours back to make sure it gets done. Which isn’t ideal but at least you know she’d do the same to get yours done at the last minute if needed.

    You’ve still got time. Try not to panic. Situations like that I always try to listen to a guided meditation for calmness / anxiety and repeat some positive affirmations, it doesn’t always make the problem go away but stops me from descending in to a huge ball of mess whilst waiting for an outcome. Good luck! And well done on your weight loss!

  • Deep breaths. As Ashley says, she most likely survives through word of mouth - she's not a massive company, so it really is in her best interests to be honest with you and work with you.

    A month is still a good amount of time to work on your dress - if you have one fitting a week you can have three before your wedding day. It's still OK! I'm only having my first fitting next week - six weeks out, so I don't have that much more time than you really.

    Try and stay calm, it'll be alright.

  • Ashley72 wrote (see post):

    Oh no, I would be anxious at this too. Try and focus on something else today. You’ve done well with your weight loss by the sounds of it and most dresses can be let out by two sizes easily, if the worst comes and it doesn’t fit.

    Try and remember that people like her rely solely on word of mouth / their reputation for their business so it really isn’t in their interests to mess up anyone’s wedding dress as one catastrophic review could seriously damage them. Perhaps she’s got a little behind on another piece of work and so is pushing yours back to make sure it gets done. Which isn’t ideal but at least you know she’d do the same to get yours done at the last minute if needed.

    You’ve still got time. Try not to panic. Situations like that I always try to listen to a guided meditation for calmness / anxiety and repeat some positive affirmations, it doesn’t always make the problem go away but stops me from descending in to a huge ball of mess whilst waiting for an outcome. Good luck! And well done on your weight loss!

    You make a really good point about her relying on word of mouth. I didn't even think of that! It does reduce my anxiety somewhat.

    I have thought a couple of times that I should try to meditate. But my brain won't shut up. Just had a hot shower to try and call myself down. And then I have arranged to go window shopping with my aunt to take my mind off it.

    Hopefully things will go alright thus evening.

    I really wish I hadn't hot a dress from wed2be. I live my dress. But it would have been so much easier if I had gone to a bridal boutique that includes alterations.

  • weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    Deep breaths. As Ashley says, she most likely survives through word of mouth - she's not a massive company, so it really is in her best interests to be honest with you and work with you.

    A month is still a good amount of time to work on your dress - if you have one fitting a week you can have three before your wedding day. It's still OK! I'm only having my first fitting next week - six weeks out, so I don't have that much more time than you really.

    Try and stay calm, it'll be alright.

    Thanks for jumping in and trying to call me down. This week the wedding nerves are really getting to me. And this is just not what I need right now.

    My last fitting appointment is the week before the wedding. Four days before we leave. So I really really hope that I can pick up my dress then. I hope it's not the day before we drive up :/

    If I hadn't put on weight...

    I hope everything runs smoothly for you.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,068 New bride
    DandelionBlue wrote (see post):
    Ashley72 wrote (see post):

    Oh no, I would be anxious at this too. Try and focus on something else today. You’ve done well with your weight loss by the sounds of it and most dresses can be let out by two sizes easily, if the worst comes and it doesn’t fit.

    Try and remember that people like her rely solely on word of mouth / their reputation for their business so it really isn’t in their interests to mess up anyone’s wedding dress as one catastrophic review could seriously damage them. Perhaps she’s got a little behind on another piece of work and so is pushing yours back to make sure it gets done. Which isn’t ideal but at least you know she’d do the same to get yours done at the last minute if needed.

    You’ve still got time. Try not to panic. Situations like that I always try to listen to a guided meditation for calmness / anxiety and repeat some positive affirmations, it doesn’t always make the problem go away but stops me from descending in to a huge ball of mess whilst waiting for an outcome. Good luck! And well done on your weight loss!

    You make a really good point about her relying on word of mouth. I didn't even think of that! It does reduce my anxiety somewhat.

    I have thought a couple of times that I should try to meditate. But my brain won't shut up. Just had a hot shower to try and call myself down. And then I have arranged to go window shopping with my aunt to take my mind off it.

    Hopefully things will go alright thus evening.

    I really wish I hadn't hot a dress from wed2be. I live my dress. But it would have been so much easier if I had gone to a bridal boutique that includes alterations.

    Unfortunately, kids get ill - she has rearranged and for a time that is probably quite inconvenient for her if she has a sick child, so I think she is taking it seriously. All 3 bridal boutiques in my town recommend the same seamstress but none of them do in house alterations, I don't think it's that common in my experience unless you buy from a fairly high end designer.

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,255 New bride

    Everything will be fine! I’ve my fittings next week also, 6 weeks out and like you i am panicking but I am putting all my faith in the seamstress to work her magic and you should too. Eveything will be perfect with your dress.

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Keep faith! I don’t think she’d have cancelled unless she really had to! 

    Youre going to look beautiful (:

  • UPDATE:

    So I just had my dress fitting and I fit into my dress. It's even a tiny bit loose. So thats good news.

    There is a lot of work that needs doing. The big job is taking in the sleeves and shoulders. Oh and shortening the skirt.

    My aunt came with me to the dress fitting. And she found the seamstress very friendly. And thought she sounded like she knew what she was doing.

    Well I said goodbye to my dress and now need to trust her.

    But I feel a little better

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,068 New bride

    Yay, so glad it fitted!

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