Bustle, loop or nothing??

Hello lovely ladies, 

 

My wedding is 2.5 weeks away (arrrgggghhhhhh) and my seamstresses told me very early on that my dress couldn't be bustled because it has a few layers of incredibly detailed lace which apparently won't bustle up, but they also said a loop wouldn't work because it'll have to go on the top layer (which is a fairly long train) and you'd be able to see it. I sort of just accepted this, but at my penultimate fitting last week I suddenly realised how bloody annoying it could be having heavy train to carry over my arm all night (which is what they're saying I'll have to do). I have really liked the work they've done, and I do rate them as seamstresses, but the friends I've mentioned this to have all said that they aren't sure they're right about this. 

Have any of you had a similar situation, and what did you decide? 

It's really playing on my mind because I'm due to have the final fitting and collect the dress next wednesday, so I need to let them know ASAP if  want them to try some type of bustling or loop.

In case it helps, this is the dress...but the train is slightly longer on me because I'm only 5'2".

https://www.essensedesigns.com/essense-of-australia/wedding-dresses/d2387/

Huge thanks in advance for your advice! 

Ruth xxx

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  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    I’ll be honest, I’d trust the seamstresses if they’re saying that it won’t work. There is no reason they’d try and put you off otherwise I can’t imagine - as they’d surely charge for adding a loop or bustle. You also hear tonnes of brides say that their bustles and loops broke easily so they scooped their dress over their arm anyway. I wouldn’t risk damaging the dress or having a loop that is visible for something that may or may not even be that helpful anyway. Ask them again if there is anything they can suggest but I’d trust their judgment If you’re happy with the rest of the work they’ve done.

  • I did find this on the Essence website: https://www.essensedesigns.com/blog/bustles/

    You could always show them the close up of the American bustle (since the dress seems the closest shape to yours?) and ask if that's possible/what the hooks might look like.

    But I guess they do do this every day, so at the end of the day it's probably best to take their opinion.

  • Ashley is right, there are loads of brides on here that got loops added and the loop broke, or the bustle came down during the reception.  Whilst it can be a pain, toting the train over arm does seem to be the done thing with certain dresses (and those that had loop/ bustle malfunctions).  It's better that the seamstress is upfront and honest with you than just installed it and charged you, knowing full well that it probably won't work.

    If the idea bothers you enough, perhaps consider buying a reception dress. There are loads of LWDs out there that are affordable, cute, and great for dancing. 

  • What date do you get married? I'm a Ruth too (5ft 2 too) and get married on 3rd October 

    LOVE your dress xx

  • Thank you for all your advice. I think I'll just trust in the seamstresses to be giving me the best advice, and hope my beautiful train doesn't get too ruined. 

    Ruthie1979, I'm getting married on the 29th of September. It's feeling very close now, as yours must be! Are you feeling prepared? 

    Ruth xx

  • Just wanted to add a bit of a different viewpoint to this. I went to five different seamstresses to discuss fitting my dress. They all had different opinions. Four of them told me however that my dress could not be hustled. For the exact reason as yours.

    The fifth seamstress and the one that I picked specialises in wedding dresses. She told me it won't be a problem to bustle my dress. She is a bit more expensive though.

    So it might be different skill levels.

    Also there are many different ways to bustle a dress. And when you have a heavy dress with lots of lAyers, then you need lots of hooks to bustle it.

    Finally when I did some research on this, I did find out that a lot of bustle a don't hold. Especially if they aren't done right. So maybe your seamstress is worried about the bustle failing and ripping the lace.

    If you are not bustling your dress, you might want to consider getting a short dress for the evening to dance in.

  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,454 New bride

    Why can't a loop be added to the underskirt? Would be odd to add it to the lace layer wouldn't it?

    My dress is very similar, underskirt with layers of very intricate lace on top, and it can be bustled - they even showed me in the shop how they would do it.

  • Ruth118 wrote (see post):

    Thank you for all your advice. I think I'll just trust in the seamstresses to be giving me the best advice, and hope my beautiful train doesn't get too ruined. 

    Ruthie1979, I'm getting married on the 29th of September. It's feeling very close now, as yours must be! Are you feeling prepared? 

    Ruth xx

    We fly on 29th September and get married 3rd October!

    Crazy how quickly time is flying by - yes pretty much prepared but worrying about stuff (will everyone get to the airpot on time/will they all go through check in ok/have I checked in the flights ok etc) but once we arrive in Cyprus I'm hoping I chill out!
    You all set and ready? xx

  • Have you had a look at www.trainloop.com

  • Mrs2018Mrs2018 Posts: 398

    I get married in 1.5 weeks and have a full lace dress and the seamstress has bustled it easily. She has said that I should be careful that the kids don't pull on it x

  • MrsJ2017MrsJ2017 Posts: 3,017

    I never wanted a bustle or a loop, and I never once had to carry my train. I love trains and I didn’t want to spoil it but tying it up.

    I danced and did all the usual wedding stuff with my train down and it wasn’t a problem at all. No regrets at all, people knew It was there and didn’t stand on it, and I loved swishing it about.

    So even if it turns out you can’t have it bustled it’s really no big deal, and you won’t have to carry it over your arm unless you want to.

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