Upsetting family (and accommodation costs?)
We'd love to get married in Greece, and have found the perfect venue and wedding planner. The trouble is, some of our family members are being quite disapproving and we're worried about causing a rift. My grandfather is a nervous flyer and probably won't come, and my uncle feels like I'm being a bridezilla for wanting to marry abroad. My fiance's sister is kicking up a bit of a stink, and has said clearly she feels we're being selfish for expecting people to fly for us.
We know we're getting married for us, but it's quite stressful being faced with all this disapproval. How have other brides dealt with this?
We're also thinking about hotel costs. We're happy to put up poor friends and some family (with small kids), but don't really want to pay for family who we know can afford it. What's normally done? Some members of the family will cry that it's unfair if we pay for some and not others.