Heartbroken - Cyprus Wedding - Would you miss your childs wedding?
I just feel so fed up and defeated.
My partner and I of 8 years are having a small intimate ceremony in Cyprus next year with around 25 - 30 guests.
We've booked a villa to hold the ceremony at where some of the guests will be staying with us for the week as well. These guests are those that cannot really afford flights, hotel and spending money so we have offered them the rooms. They also happen to be - MOH, the officiator (my brother in law) MOTG, sister in law, my younger brother and my flower girl, so that a lot of the people staying in the house are part of the wedding party and will help out setting up etc on the day.
But, there is one person who has told me they are likely to not be attending. My mum.
She says its because her, her husband and son do not have the money as it will cost approx £1000 for flights, accommodation and spending money. The wedding is 11 months away, if they put away £100 a month they could afford it. They also do have quite a lot of money, my stepdad just inherited a large amount from his mum, he also works in a well paid job and have just sold their house in France.
Money is not the reason but seems to be their excuse.
My mum is scared of flying, but Cyprus is 4 hours away and not that long a time to travel and she has flown recently for a holiday in France.
My mum also doesn't like Foreign places she hasn't been to or knows little about. As far as I'm concerned - she'll be there with family and can Google to her hearts content information on Cyprus.
So, after all of the excuses I have heard (the money being the one she keeps putting out there) I cannot find a single logical reason as to why she may not be able to attend.
So, to put it simply... she just doesn't want to go.
I mean, how can your mum (who you're supposedly close to) not want to go to your wedding?
If it were my daughter, I would move moon and Earth to attend. Even if she really didnt have the money, she could find a way, she has enough time. Even if she was a little scared of flying, she should want to get through it for me, and even if she didnt like foreign places she would find a way to be comfortable.
It just hurts.
I have very little family left and so now, without their attendance, out of the 25 people going, 4 are on my side.
So, can anyone else think of a reason as to why she wouldn't go? Because I have stretched every possibility and cannot figure it out.
and would any of you ever not attend your childs wedding?
How do I deal with this?