Intimate cyprus wedding. Family not happy!
So me and my fiancé have been together 5 years have one 3 year old little girl and baby no 2 on the way! We got engaged on christmas morning, and immediately started wedding planning in the new year, we initially wanted a fair sized wedding with around 50 - 60 guests.
We we're ready to book finally 2 months ago, provisionally confirmed a date, had a week to sort things out before putting down the deposit and securing the date. During that week I found out I was expecting! Which was a huge surprise! But a lovely surprise, even if the timing wasn't ideal if I'm honest.
Anyway I'll get to the point .. a new baby will without a doubt affect our finances massively! There is no way we can still afford to save enough for the wedding we were planning before. I tried to find a cheaper venue but for under 3k for all food drink and hire it was a challenge and I just couldn't find anywhere I even remotely liked. So I looked into weddings abroad particularly cyprus, it's gorgeous! And much much cheaper! We want to go as low key as possible, we aren't particularly close with any of our siblings so we thought we'd keep it to just parents and our 2 babies, we considered eloping, but we just couldn't imagine it without them. Anyway when we talked to our family certain people went absolutely mental about not being invited. Fiancé is one of 6 children and I am one of 4. 9 of or siblings are married or in a relationship and have 6 children between them. Inviting everybody would increase costs massively. A guest list of 8 would increase to 24! And it's not just food and drink, we'd have to put on transport, some kind of entertainment as low key dinner would be out of the question, plus most have school aged children so we'd have to book it during the school holidays.
We simply cannot afford this! They don't seem to get that this is nothing personal, we have been called selfish/nasty/inconsiderate everything! It feels like we're being expected to do the impossible, just to please them. When we were looking into planning our UK wedding it was feeling increasingly Iike everything we were planning was to please everyone else, and in retrospect we're glad we're planning to go abroad and pleasing ourselves! It is coming out of our pockets after all. Shall I just book it? Will they ever get over it. Is it selfish?