Father of the bride might not be able to attend
Just need to see what peoples views are???
Here's the background first....
I got engaged to my fiancé back in sept just gone in Turkey, as soon as H2B proposed we were both talking about where we wanted to get married straight away, We both wanted to get married abroad and its something ive always dreamed of doing. So we have looked around and made a decision that Italy was the perfect place for us ( ive never been but H2B has when he was younger), I love how romatic and rustic it is and we both have a love of Italian food! So we decided on Sorrento as our guests can also enjoy as a holiday too. We have been in touch with a wedding planner and she has submitted our dates to the registrar and she has made arrangements for when we go over in March with the MIL and FIL to view numerous venues within our budget. Im so excited about it all and I love being organised and have already got my wedding dress and veil sorted!
So here's the issue, my dad a quite a bad stroke around 20 months ago and he hasn't recovered well at all and he said feels like giving up. He lives 3 hours away from me so I only see him every couple of months due to work commitments, he has my sisters and other family near by though. I was hoping the news of the wedding and a holiday would motivate him to get better but he just doesn't seam that bothered. He has carers in 3 times a day and is refusing physio. He has told me he will be there to walk me down the aisle and he will be running by then but I just don't see it in him at all....this worries me that my only remaining parent (my mum passed away when I was 14) will not be able to walk me down the aisle. I'm dead set on getting married in Sorrento but im afraid my dad wont make it or if he does come in his current state he will need a lot of caring for. I don't know if im being selfish still getting married abroad and potentially my dad missing his first daughters wedding.
Am I being selfish?