Low confidence after weight loss

I'm not due to get married until next october but I am stressing myself out over my weight. 

I went shopping today to try on some strapless bras to see what shape etc I liked and it hit me that I'm too fat for any of them and my boobs aren't made for strapless. The only time I've ever felt confident in lingerie is when I've worn a basque but I have GG/H cup boobs and it's hard to find them.

Over the past 6 years I've lost 10 stone in weight and have saggy skin and boobs as a result which unfortunately I can't change or afford surgery. I still want to lose another 3 stone before Christmas when my dress arrives but at the moment my head isn't in it. I've gone from a size 28 to a 14/16 on slimming world and doing my own thing and my wedding dress is a 16 (one size smaller than the sample I tried but my measurements are identical to the size 16).

My fiancé has been great, he tells me he loves me how I am. Adores my body and couldn't care less how I looked. He has only known me the weight I am now not when I was huge.

I don't want to disappoint him on our wedding day by looking horrible in granny pants etc. My confidence is at rock bottom and I don't know what to do.

I just want to cry but I know that won't solve anything :(

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  • HailsHails Posts: 2,455

    Hi Louise well done on the weight loss, you should be proud of what you have achieved. I think your best bet is making an appointment at bravissim, they specialise in big cup sizes and have lots of types of underwear, I am sure you could find a basque there. 

  • MrsHowgateMrsHowgate Posts: 1,401 New bride
    Hails wrote (see post):

    Hi Louise well done on the weight loss, you should be proud of what you have achieved. I think your best bet is making an appointment at bravissim, they specialise in big cup sizes and have lots of types of underwear, I am sure you could find a basque there. 

    Hi Hails

    I know bravissimo well as I get my bras from there. I love their Evie bridal basque so hoping they bring out another one over the next year xx

  • Katherine66Katherine66 Posts: 1,234

    Oh sweety firstly like hails just said you should be proud of where you are now its an incredible achievement!   

     

    I have a larger daughter and so i understand a little of your difficulties. 

     

    Bravisimo are great!  I love them and im a size 14/16 to.  

     

    Have you thought of a string strape or delicate lace or tulle cap sleeve? I am having an off the shoulder sleeve fitted although it offers no support and i am going braless as my dress is very tight so should hold all in place.  

     

    Try a fee strapless dresses on they vary in quality of support i found.

     

    All my lovex 

  • It may be that you don't need a bra. I thought I would, and tried on some strapless ones. Hated them. Hated the way they looked. Hated the way they felt. When I tried on dresses, I found there was plenty of support built in. I suggest you try some on first and see if you really need a bra, especially the lace up style ones.

    Congratulations on your wedding and on your weight loss. We are all so very critical of ourselves, but I bet you look great and you'll look fab on the day.

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