PLS HELP!!! How to reject expensive baby gifts!
basically, I have a loving friend who I have recently asked to be godmother to my daughter. She earns a lot of money (I do not) and says she loves doting on dd and buying her expensive or many gifts in one go. Eg. recently she bought my dd 4 coats in the same size...which most mothers would not do. She btw is not a mother...
i dont want her to buy her lots of gifts/expensive ones esp. ones that i could not afford myself. this is not because I have a chip on my shoulder, because even if i earnt the money she does i still would shop in mothercare! the point is, I think many of things she buys are inappropriate or a waste of money for what they are.... but how can I tell her. She even offered to pay some money towards her chrsitening, which although she meant well... i was insulted. We can afford to pay for our own dd's christening evenits not as she would her future daughters. I operate on the philosphy that if i cant afford i dont do it.. simple.. but she always wants to foot the extra part of the bill which is not her responsibility and insulting for me and my partner.
how do i tell her? today she rang me asking how old my dd is so she could buy her yet another outfit from some little boutique. I am sure to her it sounds like a great idea.. but to me... little boutique means.. sh*t if it doesnt fit, then I cant even return it or exchange for a bigger size! also little boutique means expensive and I wouldnt buy her stuff from there unless for a special occasion... now she says she's upset because i wont allow her to spend her money etc grrrrrrrrrrr i am so frsutrated.
she even made a comment that she doesnt expect the same for her future daughter.. and to be honest, I wouldnt buy her expensive gifts even if i could afford because i know that children need love, time and care not levi shirts at 6months old!!!! I would rrather offer my experience in the years to come for her, but fear she wont appreciate this..
what should i do?! I hate that i upset her, but I have to be ghonest.. pls help!