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Work disappointment...

Now that I've had my scan and have 'officially' told my work I'm pregnant my boss asked if I'd mind meeting with her to have a chat about what I'm thinking for my maternity leave and then possibly what I'd like to do when I return to work... Despite it being still a while away she said at least an idea would help her to plan the cover and she wouldn't hold me to it so I didn't mind.....

She has said taking the full year for maternity is no problem, and coming back part time is also ok.... BUT.. she can't guarantee that on my return I will be able to work in either of my specialities...

So in fact I may come back to a job of the same grade with no speciality at all... Just seems such a shame I worked so hard to train and have been specialist for 5 years now and I might lose it all.....

I know I'm lucky to have a job... and one that will be flexible... but I'm still a tad disappointed...

Is anyone else in this boat? Or am I just being a overhormonal preggo who actually won't care when I'm back at work as long as I can pay the bills and spend as much time as I can with my lil family? Sigh... xx


  • mrsleggomrsleggo Posts: 807
    When I first announced to my boss that I was expecting he said to me "If you think I can spare you for 6 months then I can spare you for good!!!"

    To say I was shocked is an understatement.

    Then my boss retired at the beginning of April this year and we got a new boss who is really nice and understanding. My maternity leave started 2 weeks after my old boss left and the first visitor we had when we brought my baby girl home from hospital was my new boss.

    I'm back at work in 12 weeks and I have got to say as long as I can pay the bills at the end of the month then I really do not care what job I have to do.

    Dawn x
  • I think legally they have to leave your role open for 12 months. I'll ask my husband and get back to you. He's a HR Manager. x
  • Angela49ukAngela49uk Posts: 855
    My understanding is that they have to keep a job for you with the same pay grade and terms, but they can move you to another department if requirements change.
  • ExcitedEllyExcitedElly Posts: 251

    When I first announced to my boss that I was expecting he said to me "If you think I can spare you for 6 months then I can spare you for good!!!" imageimageimageimageimage

    OMG!!!! That sounds vaguely illegal to me, smacks a little of sex discrimination!!!! I'm glad to hear this fossil has now retired!!!

    To original poster please don't worry, I think it's natural to feel disappointed but you might be lucky and there might be a job in a speciality for when you come back. If not at least, like you say, you'll have a flexible job and a position in one of your particular areas might come along soon after you're back anyway.

  • NowMrsMNowMrsM Posts: 536
    Thanks all!

    Am feeling a bit better about it now... I think my priorities will change- sad as it sounds my job is such a big part of my life right now and my new little big thing will be soooooo much more important!

  • poppet12poppet12 Posts: 357
    Hi there - I work in HR and they can ask you want you want to do but you don't need to agree to anything. My boss asked me the same thing. Although she is delighted for me I do understand she needs to plan who does my work as there is no immediate successor. She has also said she will welcome me back full or part time but knows I am unlikely to return full time as my priorities will change. Although my current job could be done 3 days per week, it will physically and mentally be challenging. So right now I am considering the type of role I want to do. As I have 5 more months left, it will take time to recruit a maternity cover and I know she wants to get someone in and slowly get me to start on the role I will come back to. It is hard and things do change but it will depend what support you have after you have had your baby. My work is an hour a 15 mins travel each way so am going to need lots of flexibility so changing role may be the only way to do it. My main concern is limiting my earning potential which I will raise with her. Legally I can insist on trying to do my role on a 3 day way and see how it goes but it seems such a long way off. At the same time you want the comfort to know what you are coming back to so you can enjoy being mum.

    Do what is right for you, they cannot make you commit to anything and legally you don't have to tell them when you are coming back and in what format 8 weeks before you intend to return to work. The other thing my boss would like me to do is work up to the last minute - for now I have gone along with that but the more I think about it, I want time out to myself as in a weird way that will be the last time. So during my next chat with her, I will tell her I want to stop after Xmas.

    Keep me posted and enjoy your pregnancy... I am image xx
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