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Just had 2nd miscarriage :'(

Sorry if this thread puts a bit of a dampener on everyone's happy news. I miscarried at over 5 weeks in July there. My husband and I were devastated but remained positive best we could. We started to ttc again and I fell pregnant straight away, only to miscarry again at 5 weeks this morning image



I have spent most of the day in A&E on morphine as the cramps were horrendous. Got out of hospital a few hours ago and I have not stopped crying. My husband is visibly upset and is trying to stay strong for me.



I don't know what is bothering me the most, the loss or the fear that it has now happened twice around the same time. I am going to ask to see a specialist as I am worried there might be something wrong, like a hormonal problem.

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  • RRrr2011RRrr2011 Posts: 1,262
    Oh my goodness, I am so so sorry. I don't know if there is anything I can say to help. I had my first miscarriage a couple of weeks ago and know how painful it was to go through.



    I think you should definitely push for some answers although I have heard they will only do tests if its 3 in a row. Good luck hun and stay strong - I am sure that you will get there.



    Sending big hugs to you and to your fella x x x x
  • MrsC81MrsC81 Posts: 201
    So sorry to hear your sad news. Know this won't help now but there are lots of women who have had miscarriages then gone on to have healthy babies so dont give up hope. Take care x
  • Bb5Bb5 Posts: 275
    image Sorry hun, *hugs*
  • Thank you so much everyone xxxx
  • So sorry sunsetsky, totally devastating news. Try not to think the worst(I know so much easier said than done when your heart is breaking) but it seems that two miscarriages in a row is far more common than people imagine, its because of this that generally doctors etc will only test for problems after three- as appauling as this sounds it does mean that anyones chances of having three in a row are small indeed otherwise they would test immediately after two.

    Life is so unfair at times, I don't understand why this has to happen to people. Take Care and remember you're entitled to feel all of the million and one emotions and mixed up feelings you're bound to be experiencing. Take your time to grieve and take care of yourself. This has only happened to me once before so I can't imagine how you must be feeling but I do know that it took me a good two months to be ready emotionally to try again and even then I had my good days and my bad days, I think it must have taken three for my body to be physically right to carry again because I didn't ovulate until then. I know you feel desperate to have a baby after a miscarriage but allow yourself time to get yourself right again first mentally and physically, it really does make you feel stronger and more able to cope when that BFP comes along again..and it will, Im sure of that and this time it will be a sticky one.



    Take Care x
  • So sorry to hear such sad news. Give yourself plenty of time to grieve for your loss but don't give up hope. I have a friend who miscarried 3 times then went on to have a healthy baby girl and then a boy a couple of years later.



    fingers crossed for you



    x x x
  • Thanks mrsmcsweeney and GemNic13 for your kind and inspirational words. I am still in shock that it has happened again as after my first one I had held on to the hope that it was just the once it happened and I knew of several success stories after one misarriage, but never after more than one. GemNic13, that is good news about your friend, although devastating to have had to go through it 3 times.



    xxx
  • Hi Sunsetsky,



    I miscarried at the weekend at 6 weeks although this was my first and nothing prepares you for the pain and emotions you will feel. - I can't begin to imagine how you must be feeling. But if you would like to talk feel free to PM me.



    My friend had 4 miscarriages and went on to have healthy twins so it can happen please don't give up hope.



    xxx
  • Im so sorry for your loss too Hayleyr image

    Just in case either of you ladies need some extra support the following site was so helpful to me after my miscarriage, it really gave me hope and somewhere to pour my heart out when I needed to with people who understand. There are some ladies on there who have been trying for the longest time but there are lots of others on there who have suffered one or two miscarriages...and I promise sunset sky I've seen many success stories on there with ladies who have had two miscarriages in sucession and then go on for it to be third time lucky- I always thought that for this to happen was very rare but talking to the ladies on there you'll see that it happens far more often than anyone would imagine and there is so much hope for the next time.



    http://www.babyexpert.com/community/forums/topic/3308
  • chezza2005chezza2005 Posts: 1,053
    Couldn't read and run so just wanted to say I am so very sorry to hear of your loss. You take all the time you need before trying again and stay close to your fella as you need each other through this. I wish you all the luck next time and hope the next one is a 'stayer'.xx
  • roo10roo10 Posts: 722
    Hi,



    I am very sorry to hear of your loss. Unfortunately it is 3 miscarriages before they start to do anything, but my friend had 2 miscarriages early on but the 3rd pregnancy all went well and she has a healthy baby girl. Keep you're chin up. It will happen for you



    Xx
  • HL2010HL2010 Posts: 195
    I'm so sorry for whats happened and didn't want to read and run, this won't make what you're going through any easier but I just wanted you to know that my mum lost two babies and then went on to have four healthy children. They're not sure what caused her miscarriages and have said that she was just incredibly unlucky.



    Big hugs! x
  • Thank you everyone for your kind words of support, and for giving me hope with the success stories. They are what keeps me positive. xxxx
  • In the spirit of keeping you positive I thought I should let you know that two of my close friends both had two miscarriages. One has a 6 month old baby girl now and the other has a two year old girl and a 5 week old boy. Stay with the positive image
  • I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I suffered a missed-miscarriage in January when I was 10 wks pregnant with twins. I know it was naive of me but I didnt even think for a minute about miscarriage as I had already had one healthy boy and didnt realise how common miscarriage was. We tried again straight away and it resulted in a 2nd miscarriage. The doctor said that perhaps my body wasnt ready yet. I left it about 2 months before trying again as I wasnt emotionally ready but now and am delighted to say I am 6 months pregnant. Dont give up hope, your time will come and you will make a wonderful mummy. xx
  • caterpillar85, thank you for these success stories, I am glad your friends had some joy after their losses. It gives me hope that there is going to be some better luck for me around the corner



    Firecrackeruk, thanks for what you said. I am so sorry about your losses, that must have been terrible to go through. Congratulations on your pregnancy, I wish u a happy and healthy pregnancy and baby!



    xxxx
  • Hi Sunsetsky,



    Didn't want to read and run as I too have just had my second miscarriage. My first was at 6 and a half weeks and this one, I found out at 11 weeks I had a missed miscarriage at 8-9 weeks so went into hospital to have everything removed under general anaesthetic.



    It's shocking they only start testing after 3 miscarriages, but just think, they must do that for a reason, because it is common to have miscarriages..although that doesn't make it any better for us, you just have to try and think "i've just been unlucky, that's all"..although the thought of having to go through all of that again makes me feel sick to the stomach so we have decided to take a good long break from everything and just enjoy being us for a bit longer. We are also thinking about getting a puppy to join the family! Just try and think of plenty of things to do that make you happy and look forward to them for a while.



    Hope you feel better soon. xxxxxx
  • Thanks jacko2011, I am so sorry for your losses, that must have been awful for you to go through. I guess you are right about the fact it has to be 3 miscarriages is because they are so common and there is a chance it might just be bad luck.



    A puppy is a great idea, I might just do this too image as I feel like also taking a small break from it for a bit



    xxxxxx
  • My heart goes out to you my love.



    I have just been through my first and I feel like I will never be the same again.



    I guess we just have to battle on and keep trying.



    I wish you all the best xxxx
  • mubeemubee Posts: 1,039
    I am so sorry to hear of your loss. I too had a miscarriage and D&C on 4 August, we are trying again this month, and will hope for the best. it is never easy and I totally understand. Maybe think of the success stories and think that one day, it will be you. hugs.xx
  • chick-bass and mubee, I am so sorry to hear about your losses, miscarriages are so devastating. Thank you for your kind words, hope you are both ok



    xxxxx
  • Thinking of you xxx
  • Sorry for your loss hunni. Stay strong and be kind to yourself. X
  • Thank you very much cantblinkingwait and emmalampkin xxxx
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