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  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @Slopeydopes - I see, thats understandable.  I wouldnt want to wait 6 months either, so I know where you are coming from.

    We have only told our family and a handful of really close friends.  We will be saying we had IVF but not that it was donor to anyone else, its not something anyone has to know really if he doesnt want anyone to xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • @MrsGB2015 no. I think it's a case of seeing what feels right. My husband doesn't want people like my sisters boyfriend to know as he's said it's a male pride thing. I totally get it. I've only told my mum and one friend so far we're doing IVF. We would have done it anyway because I have a bone condition that I don't want to pass on. I don't want to tell lots of people though as it's a quite slow process and I don't want to be asked loads of questions all the time. 
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @Slopeydopes - Yes, you’ve got to do what’s right for you both. If that means telling no one then so be it, it’s no ones business anyway!

    good luck hun, I’m here if you ever want to chat about it all. Xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • Had an appointment yesterday to discuss treatment and which clinic we want to go with. We've chosen Nottingham as its local so we're being referred. Apparently we should get an appointment before the end of the year and start treatment after that. It's all starting to feel real now! 
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @Slopeydopes - Yay thats good news that things are moving forward for you xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsGB2015 said:
    @Slopeydopes - Yay thats good news that things are moving forward for you xx
    Thank you. Hope you're doing OK xx
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @Slopeydopes not too bad thanks lovely - made it to the second trimester but it still feels so surreal! Might start believing when I can feel baby!!

    Please keep us updated on your journey and message me anytime if you have any questions or want to rant xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsGB2015 said:
    @Slopeydopes not too bad thanks lovely - made it to the second trimester but it still feels so surreal! Might start believing when I can feel baby!!

    Please keep us updated on your journey and message me anytime if you have any questions or want to rant xx
    Thank you. You must be so excited. I can imagine it would feel a bit surreal, especially after everything you've been through to get here
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @Slopeydopes - You're welcome hun.  Yes, such a mix of excitement and nerves already haha xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    Hey guys, is anyone still hanging around on this thread ? I could do with some advice. We’ve just got to our testing phases which should feel like a relief except I’m hugely anxious over our tests and results. 
    I’m waiting to go for my 21 day bloods as I missed it last month by 2 days grr. 

    What’s worried me is hubby took his SA in last Friday and the doctors called him this morning to repeat the test. Il really freaking out that it can only be bad news if he has to repeat! Does anyone have any experience with this ? 

    Thanks 
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @MrsMidtobe - Aww hun, I am sorry to see you over here :( 

    Try not to worry (I know how hard it can be) it may just be as simple as the sample wasnt enough or that it wasnt checked on time (as its all temp and time critical as far as my knowledge goes)

    Sometimes they need more than one sample to compare and may tell him to refrain for longer possibly

    I wish you all the luck in the world but if you ever need to chat about it all, feel free to message me I will do my best to rack my brains with our process xxx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • KirBeKirBe Posts: 1,161 New bride
    Hey @MrsMidtobe I am still lurking around 😊

    Its normal to be anxious with the tests. As much as it’s a relief to get the ball rolling no one ever wants to find themselves here. There could be so many reasons why that have asked a repeat so try not to worry too much (easier said than done I know!) 

    Sending you lots of positive vibes xx
    Married October 2016
    TTC since May 2016

    'Shout out to all of us fighting a battle that most people will never understand'
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @KirBe hope you’re ok lovely xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @MrsGB2015 @KirBe Thank you so much for replying. I know I need to try not to worry until we know things for certain it’s just so hard not to assume the worse! 

    I haven’t been on contraception for a few year’s now and we haven’t been ‘careful’ so I think we’ve known for a while something isn’t right, but I guess seeing it officially puts things in a new light. 

    Husband is hopefully getting a call from the GP tomorrow just to explain the reason for the repeat. The medic in me just needs to know what the first test showed and why they want to repeat. I’m normally very proactive with stuff so this waiting malarkey is going to drive me insane. And I used to think a 2ww was hard! 
  • KirBeKirBe Posts: 1,161 New bride
    Hey @MrsGB2015 I am okay, I’ve had a rough couple of months with one thing or another. My mental health and my marriage has taken a bit of a beating and hit rock bottom. Things are improving and i actually have a new job that I just started this week. We are taking a break from TTC for the foreseeable future, as to be honest it’s more than I or my husband can handle right now. I am just spending a lot of time focusing on being healthy mentally and physically. I’ve got some really nice holidays booked as well so it’s not all bad!

    I’ve been meaning to pop by for a while as I know I just disappeared. I wanted to thank everyone on here for their support, it really means a lot. And whenever we start trying again I’ll be back ❤️

    @MrsGB2015 - I am so happy that everything is going well for you ❤️

    @MrsMidtobe best of luck hun, I have everything crossed for you xx
    Married October 2016
    TTC since May 2016

    'Shout out to all of us fighting a battle that most people will never understand'
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride

    @MrsMidtobe – Aww hun, I know it is so tough.  I have everything crossed that all is ok but if you do need to talk I’m here 😊

     

    @KirBe – Aww hun I am sorry that you’ve been struggling but I am glad you are focusing on your health.  Enjoy your holidays and hopefully in the future you will get your miracle – I am always rooting for you xxx


    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @KirBe Nobody ever tells you of the emotional black hole TTC can be. I understand how much it can impact your life and relationship, I’m so sorry your journey has impacted both. I think your definitely doing the right thing, focusing on you and going on holidays. Are you going anywhere exciting ? We’ve finally booked to go away now knowing that most likely we won’t be conceiving anytime soon. I must say it’s nice to have something to look forward to. 

    @MrsGB2015 Thanks MrsGB! I hope you and bump are doing well.

    I insisted we be told the results of the SA but to be honest I’m even more confused. There’s an issue with some “round cells” but we aren’t sure exactly what it means for fertility. Hubby is more than likely going to need to see a urologist as it may indicate testicular damage.

    one question I did what to ask was that once initial GP tests are done, what kind of specialist comes next? Or does it depend on the problem ? 
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @MrsMidtobe - Youre welcome hun - yes, we are doing good thank you :) 

    I think it will depend on what is found and if there is anything that can be done.  I know my hubs saw a urologist and they ruled out any issues on their side, we then found out that the results had been presented incorrectly and actually he had no sperm at all but that isnt something that happens usually just our luck to have someone not do their job properly!!

    After we knew all this, it was a case of starting the IVF process and speaking to the consultants to see what the options were.  Hubs had to have a surgical sperm retrieval to see if they could find any viable sperm that way, which they did but not much, enough to attempt ICSI a couple of times though - unfortunately it didnt work out that way for us and hubs didnt want to go through it all again - understandable - hence the donor sperm route for us.

    Hopefully your situation wont go this way though - hopefully what the issue is, can be helped by the urology team but as mentioned if unfortunately you go down this route - I will do my best to answer any questions :)

    I hope I havent scared you with all that xxx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @MrsGB2015 You haven’t scared me at all please don’t worry. If anything your story is inspiring because look where you are now! 

    Do you remember in what way the presented it wrong? I suppose that’s why I’m glad it’s getting done again. The things they have found in his sample are cells that can affect the healthy sperm DNA so we aren’t sure exactly how this affects their viability yet. 

    The GP more of less insinuated our referrals would be to the fertility clinic but it feels a bit presumptuous but I suppose that’s the point which we are at! I just hope if he has to go and see the urologist the appointment time isn’t too long. 
  • MrsGB2015MrsGB2015 Posts: 3,891 New bride
    @MrsMidtobe - Thanks lovely, there’s hope! 

    Basically, they told us there was sperm there and just to keep trying in a nutshell. It wasn’t until we had a follow up with the consultant that referred us originally (who happened to be one of the ivf drs at the clinic we ended up using!) and he said this doesn’t seem right, all the levels are exactly the “border” they look for, so he did some digging and had to be the bearer of bad news that actually they hadn’t even input hubbys results at all and they weren’t good 😞

    I’lkl keep my fingers crossed for you, sounds promising that there is healthy dna though 🤞🏼 Xx
    Married since June 2015
    TTC since August 2015
    Miracle Baby due April 2020

    "The greater your storm, the brighter your rainbow"
  • SlopeydopesSlopeydopes Posts: 202 New bride
    Hey guys, I'm still lurking around too. @MrsMidtobe how did the second test results go?
    I've just had to phone the clinic as we were referred to Care in Nottingham and were told a rush would be put on it and we might get an appointment before Christmas. Still haven't had one through. Phoned up and they weren't sure why as the consultant has all our info so they're looking into it tomorrow. Aside from that nothings happened. 
    @kirbe hope you're OK. It's definitely not an easy journey. Look after yourself first xx
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @Slopeydopes That’s ridiculous have you managed to get any further with them? 

    We’re just waiting on a referral to urology now I think to fully assess what these white cells mean. There are sperm present but these white/Round cells could be causing DNA fragmentation so we aren’t yet sure on what it means. I have some more 21 days blood next Monday and then another app with our GP on Wednesday just for a chat to see how we’re doing. I presume the wait for the Urologist will be a month or so yet. 
  • @MrsMidtobe not heard anything from them today. Going to ring them up tomorrow and see what they say. Hopefully they'll sort an appointment soon. Hopefully you'll get some answers soon. It's so hard when there are so many different people doing tests and things. It's hard to keep up with what's going on. 
  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @Slopeydopes How are you getting along? 

    I wanted to post this is the Broken Thread as I wanted to ask if anyone had any experience with progesterone /Day 21 bloods? 

    My 21 day bloods ( may have been 23 day it’s been a weird cycle) bloods came back with Progesterone at 19 and the GP seemed to think that was consistent with ovulation but I’ve been doing a bit of reading online and apparently it should be <30 so that’s concerning.

    I had used CB digi ovulation sticks this
    month but got no peak! So I’m not hopeful.

    but at last our referral has gone through to the ‘fertility specialist’ so I also wanted to ask does anyone have experience from this point ? Who will we be seeing or what they might do? I presume it’s for more testing and not straight to IUI or IVF as no one has discussed that with us yet. It just feels all very much in the dark. 
  • @MrsMidtobe we've finally got an appointment through for the 12th of March. It's nice to be moving along. I had my 21 day blood tests and it showed I didn't ovulate. But Ive been tracking my periods with my fitbit and it was a 60 day cycle so way off. I've never been given any numbers though. Think I had a second tests and no one has mentioned anything. I know what you mean though. There are tonnes of tests but no one seems to really explain all the steps.
    We've had appointments and no clue what it's actually for! 
  • MrsOD19MrsOD19 Posts: 812 New bride
    @MrsMidtobe just thread hopping as just saw this, I had my 21day bloods back and my GP said they look for levels over 30 to be consistent with ovulation.  I dont know if that's any help to you, I know you're having them done again soon but just thought I'd share.

    Hope you're okay my lovely xx

  • MrsMidtobeMrsMidtobe Posts: 171 New bride
    @Slopeydopes Yay for your appointment I hope things get moving for you ! Let us know how it goes 😊

    @MrsOD19 Thank you ! That sounds consistent with what I read but it’s really useful to know that came from an actually professional and not google! I’m starting to prepare myself for an official ovulation disorder diagnosis so we’ll see where that takes us. Iv had a really rough few weeks but getting there now. 
    I hope your well too and your BFP is just around the corner for you! xxx 
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