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  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    The travel plans sound amazing! 

  • PottyPotty Posts: 528 New bride

    Omg your travel plans sound amazing!!! I’ve been to Holi fest in London and it was The best festival I’ve ever been to, so i cant even imagine how good the real one in India will be!!!

    also, your to do list has made me feel sick as I need to do most things on that list and probably more!!! 

    Married September 2018, Baby due October 2019.  
  • Have just read your plans and its very scary how similar our plans are, same colours, i have the sparkly bridesmaid dresses, plus i'm also from Swansea. 🤣🙈

    I dont know if you managed to speak to oxwich bay but my mum went to a wedding there a few weeks back and they were allowed to check in at 11.30, but were made fully aware the room wasnt clean from previous. it definitely took the stress away from checking in during the wedding. Could be an option for guests. 

    I also feel like we have the same cake maker 🙈🤣 ... I have a similar deal. If it is she is lovely and the cake was to die for. 

    Will be watching your blog for more updates :) x x

  • FutureMrsThomas & MrsSpag2B-  Thanks! I've only done the Cardiff Holi Fest which was super fun! India is probably the place i'm most excited about but were leaving it to last so we've got our wits about us and hopefully we'll be a bit more of a savvy backpacker haha

    I've already thought of at least 10 things not on that list and I've worried myself so much I've called an emergency meeting tomorrow night with my mum and bridesmaids! I just feel the need to talk about everything that needs to be done rather than actually getting on with it haha.

    It's funny as there are so many things that I could have gotten on with towards the end of last year but I kept thinking to myself its too early... now we've switched over into 2018 I'm like shit! Is there enough time?!

    Amanda209- oooo love it! Have you got a planning thread?? when is your big day?? 

    One of the main points of that Email they sent was that they were stopping letting people into their rooms before they had been cleaned. In a way I'm pleased- I don't really want my guests first impressions to be an unclean room but maybe I'm being dramatic/bridezilla about that but they stopped doing that on the 1st Jan anyway

    I do feel like I gave the cake maker a bit of a hard time- I just wanted to try cake! haha I'm looking forward to rearranging- I've been following her facebook posts and her cakes all look fantastic.



  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Yay Amanda! Another Welsh bride! Start a planning thread! I love reading the threads! 

    Georgina I know exactly what you mean. I kept thinking oh plenty of time to do X, Y and Z. Ha ha, guess what I have 11 weeks and panic has set in! 

  • i suppose it totally makes sense, the rooms are far from "cheap" and i dont know how i'd feel seeing a room from the previous guests.

    Its so nice to hear from so many welsh brides

    I havent started a thread but your all inspiring me to take the plunge. I'm getting married the 3rd of November this year at Hensol Castle. I'm at the stage where i'm totally over wedding planning. The stress is like no other 🤣🤣


  • Yeah I think it’s a bit of an odd thing for a hotel to do, there could be anything left in the rooms from previous guests

    Hensol castle! lush!  would have been a big contender for us but my auntie ran the vale hotel for years so it’s all a bit too familiar haha 

    definitely start a thread! Looking forward to reading already! ;) writing it all down makes it seem more manageable 


  • The Night Before...

    I had a lovely evening the other night with 3 of my bridesmaids and mum... I made dinner and showed the girls all the little bits and bobs I've been buying/ making. It was really nice for them to see my vision and to bring them all up to speed!

    One of the main discussions was the night before the wedding... I originally booked a room in the village hotel (along with all of our family members) but for some reason I didn't feel too happy about staying/getting ready there. For a start it is about 30mins away from the venue and with the whole family staying and getting ready there too I just felt it would be so fussy/busy in the morning.

    So my bridesmaids, myself and my mum are taking ourselves out of the equation and we've booked an AirBnB just outside Oxwich. It's called Hennyswell Farm Cottage and looks perfect to get ready in!  The living room looks spacious but warm and cosy and the kitchen is big enough for everyone to potter around without treading on each others toes! The girls are also staying there the night of the wedding instead of the hotel so that we can leave all of our stuff there and not have to worry about packing up after putting our dresses on! (It also works out A LOT cheaper for them)




    I'm really looking forward to hanging my dress up and having a quiet girly night. We've decided to go to costco the morning before to pick up pizzas for the evening and crossiants, juice, tea (champagne!!!) for the morning

  • For the selfies

    Another big topic on the agenda during the meeting with my BMs was the Hen Party! I love how seriously these girls are taking their role when it comes to hen planning. We're staying in a big house(sleeps 28) with its own pool/jacuzzi for a weekend. On the first night we're having a big sleepover with lots of cocktails and games and then spending all day Saturday in the spa then a night out sat night! (we can either go local or book a minibus or something into swansea)

    The night resulted in these bad boys being ordered!

    image  (For the sleepover selfies!)

    imageimageimage (For the spa day selfies!)

    All from Asda! Complete bargains! (well... I haven't actually recieved them yet, so we'll soon see!) the black bridesmaid swimsuits are actually out of stock at the moment but apparently will be back in within a couple of weeks!

    I also got a pair of Bride flip flops for £2!

  • Invitations... (Alll go today!)

    D and I spent hours the other day deliberating over invitations. We've got our menu tasting on sunday so from then we can really crack on with them!

    I've got a sample of a kraft pocketfold with an ivory envelope/ RSVP card and a belly band which we were going to stick a personalised wooden heart to so it matches the save the dates. These sample looks fine but nothing special and to me, really doesn't portray the theme/ specialness of our day!

    Then I came across these on Etsy...







    I love them! They're nothing like i've looked at before but I think they sum the day up! The wedding is obviously on a beach and we're going travelling for 6 months straight away after the wedding so that ties in with the passport... the cover is rustic which is our theme, the details are perfectly displayed in a fun way... They're certainly not the elegant rustic looking pocketfolds we were originally going for but I knew deep down I was looking for something different!

    They are over our budget but I think they're perfect! We’re going for the 4 page option (like the sample above) and will swap out a lot of the location details/getting there for the menu/accommodation etc 

  • Kelly224Kelly224 Posts: 962 New bride

    Ooh lovely updates!! That air bnb looks amazing! I’m also struggling with what to do the night before. Would love to do something like that but have my daughter and sisters (MOH) 3 kids to decide what to do with!!

    Asda bridal bits are great, I got my robe from there and the men’s socks! 

    Love love love the invites! What a fab idea, they look amazing! 

  • Thank you Kelly224! i think AirBnB are fab with kids! You’ve got so much more flexibillity compared to a hotel! 

    Yeah I saw the men’s socks/pants on the Asda site! Will see what the pjs are like when they arrive and might order them too! 

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    I really like those invites! they look great

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    Love the invitations! 

  • Thanks guys! I do really like them, D wants to keep them as a surprise for everyone so i haven't been able to have anyone's opinions!

    The only thing niggling me is that they are a little thin/flimsy... the card is good quality but it's not proper premium invitation card as its just not that style but I think I'm going to have to get over that one! haha... I've seen some map envelope liners that I'm hoping to get which I think will make them look more fancy/ expensive.

    Like this:



  • PottyPotty Posts: 528 New bride

    Omg those invites are amaaazing!!!!! 

    Married September 2018, Baby due October 2019.  
  • Table Names!

    I ordered these on black friday from VMbespoke. We're going to place them in the floral centerpieces although the wooden stick is shorter than I'd hoped so will need to get it's own foam ball and place it among the flowers so it is high enough to be seen. 

    The table names we have chosen are our favourite beaches- i know this is quite a simple cliche option for wedding tables names but beaches are definitely our thing! The wedding venue is obviously right on Oxwich Bay beach and the centerpieces are beachy, it also ties in with our loose theme of travel.

    These are the beaches we've chosen:

    Llantwit Major- Our home town, where we both spent every day of the summer holidays as kids

    Castle Beach- Tenby- we love Tenby and try to spend a couple of long weekends a year there.

    Jackson's Bay-Smaller beach next to Barry Island... opposite our first home together

    Three Cliff's Bay- A very small beach just up the coast of Oxwich- where we went camping right on the cliff and decided to get married at home (leading us to find Oxwich)

    Baan Tai- Koh Phangnan (Thailand) We stayed in a beach hut right on the sand for a few nights and spent all day/night on the beach

    Koh Sok National Park- Technically not a beach but the most beautiful place I've ever been to.... also where D proposed!

    Playa D'en Bossa- Ibiza! D and I have been to Ibiza a couple of times and although this beach isn't the most beautiful/relaxing it definitely holds a lot of memories for us!

    Playa Illetes- The smaller island next to Ibiza... Amazing soft white sand 

    Playa Llevant- Salou (spain) Our first ever holiday together! We loved it so much we booked as soon as we got home to go again a few weeks later!

    Oxwich Bay- This will be the top table... the beach is stunning in its own right but will (hopefully!) hold fond memories for years to come!

    I've planned everything so far for 10 tables but think we'll only have have 8-9 so we'll have to think hard about which beach to ditch!


  • Those passport invites! Love them! 

  • Mother of the Bride

    Mum had been recommended a shop in Penarth called Queen B for her mother of the bride outfit... We went there in October for a quick look and they told us they have 2 deliveries a year, one in January for summer weddings and one in July for winter weddings.

    So we went back a few days ago... they were honestly amazing and knew exactly what would suit her and what hat, shoes etc go to make the whole outfit. She actually only ended up trying one dress on! I think she looks amazing and I could tell she felt special. 



  • VMBespoke

    I also ordered these from VMbespoke and will be ordering individual names as place names soon. The wooden "mr and mrs" sign lights up and I'm thinking of putting it in front of our chairs on the top table, although it is quite big so will need to work out whether we can definitely see over it! ... maybe the cake/guest book signing table will be better.



  • Bouquets! 

    I’ve been really toying with the idea of making my own bouquets from silk flowers since I first arranged our centrepieces. 

    I took a trip to country baskets in Bristol (artificial flower heaven!) chose a few that I liked and I’ve put together a bridesmaid bouquet so far... Im pleased with it and I think this is the route I’m going to go down in terms of bouquets, they also perfectly match the centrepiece flowers even though that wasn’t a main aim. 

    I’m really nervous about buttonholes, I only bought enough to make one bouquet to see how it goes but I’m going to go back this week to look into buttonhole/ other flowers to make my bouquet slightly different. 

    I was quoted over £500 from several florists for our bouquets/buttonholes and to make the bouquets come in at under £20 each. 

    I need 1brides bouquet 5x bridesmaids and 1 junior bridesmaids, 7 buttonholes and possibly (although this really might be stretching my abilities!!!) 3 wrist corsages (2xmums and 1xsisterInLaw) 

    imageTo show the handle/ribbon

    image This is the centrepiece flowers on the left and bouquet on the right

    imageI blurred my face to hide the bed hair/puffiness not to be anonymous haha but this is the bouquet with the bridesmaid dress... ive attached a long lacy ivory ribbon and I’ve got the same for mine but in blush pink...I’ll see how it looks but I’m swaying more towards ivory for all of us 

    What do you think?? Are they good enough?? 

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    Wow, they look brilliant.  However, if you are looking at silk, and don't want the hassle- look at Forever to Hold Ltd on FB- they have a good reputation and seem to be really good value.  I am not saying it will, but it might work out cheaper, and then you don't have the stress.  I am not going with them- I have got a local lady, but her corsages are only £7, and button holes £2.50.  I got the following prices:

    My bouquet- £50

    BMs- £35

    Younger BM- £25

    Groom- £5

    Ushers- £2.50

    Page boys- Free

    Corsages- £7

  • Oh thanks Bridbird! I’m definitely going to check them out for the buttonholes/corsages...I’ve not thought to look on facebook! 

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    No- I didn't either!  I am not a DIY person, so I did a bit of research!

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    My nan bought her outfit from Queen B! The ladies in the store were fab with my nan!! Love your mums outfit.

    I considered doing my own bouquets silk flowers but I decided against it. I wasn’t that brave! Yours look fab. There’s a place in Taffs Wells called Artificial Floral Supplies and it’s wedding planning heaven! Brilliant place for flowers, ribbons, vases. EVERYTHING! 

  • Britbird- I'm one of those that love the idea of DIY but get frustrated very quickly.. I think the buttonholes/corsages are possibly a step too far for me! Haha

    I've had a quick look on their page this afternoon and they look great.. big thankyou for that reccommendation! I think i'll order simple ivory buttonholes and then use my blush pink ribbon to tie in with the girl's bouquet.

    FutureMrsThomas- Ha! Small world! They are honestly so great at their job!

    I think I'm embracing the silk flowers! Never thought I'd have all artificial but it just seems like the better option for us! I think I like the fact I'm buying something to keep rather than die and I'm holding onto the fact that we can sell them afterwards and make a bit of money back.

    I also think its a control thing... having flowers turn up on the morning of your wedding is a gamble- what if they didn't understand my brief properly.. what if what I originally thought I wanted doesn't actually work and it doesn't look like I was hoping to on the day, what if the florist is sick and can't complete my order? I drive myself mad!!

    As it stands... i've got 7months 2weeks and 6days (according to my ticker! haha) to perfect my bouquets, surely I can get them exactly how I'd like in that time!

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    I completely understand. I chose my florist very carefully and went for Hilary's. They are one of the best, if not the best, florist in South Wales. 

  • Menu Tasting!

    I know... busy week right!! So Sunday night we had our menu tasting... I've been so excited for this, it seems like so long ago we were last at the venue and I genuinely got all shivery when we pulled up into the car park... I love our drives to and from Oxwich, its about an hour and 15 away and were always just in such a good excitable mood!

    Anyway! I thought the menu tasting would be in the restaurant and I also thought it would only be samples of the food but I was so wrong- I've honestly never been so stuffed in all my life!

    We were shown into the wedding marquee where all the tables were set up beautifully, there were a few couples in there but we were quite late so it was quiet.. We had complimentary drinks at the bar first with the best barman ever (I'd love for him to be working on our big day!!) and were then shown to our tables.... I'd sent in our requests via email and they promptly came out with our starters... it was all so amazing, being in the marquee, eating our possible wedding menu.



    (I’ve fallen in love with those fairy lights but they’re a venue dressers called the wedding business ive asked for a quote today (£295) a lot of money To hire some lights!! But we’ll be seeing her in feb at a wedding Fayre so will see!

    For starters we chose to try the Smoked duck breast, watercress and redcurrent salad, and a port and redcurrent sauce and the salmon and prawn fishcakes with a thai spiced white cabbage and fennel salad (D doesn't eat fish so more for me!!)


    We loved them both, really happy with those choices (we'll also have a veggie option but haven't got round to choosing that yet)

    For main we went for the Pan roasted chicken served with a smoked bacon and leek sauce and the braised welsh beef with a red wine, bacon and shallot sauce.... we were really pleased to see the sauces for both options were served on the side for the fussy ones. The beef was amazing!


    I'd also requesting to sample the BBQ not knowing that they'd bring out a full on platter!! So we then ended up having to squeeze in Welsh beef burger with sauteed leeks (D ate 1 and 3/4!) grilled pork and leek sausage with caramelized red onion and breast of chicken in a garlic butter... as well as a mountain of coleslaw, chips, pasta and salad! Oh my gosh I was so STUFFED


    AND THEN they brought out dessert!!! (going back to the 3 course traditional meal option) we had the desert taster plate: oxwich bay brownie, raspberry pavlova and lemon tart and dark chocolate and almond mousse, fresh raspberries and amoretti truffles.


    After the meal (FEAST!) we had a little chat with one of the wedding coordinators about the day... it was such a lush evening.

    We've also got an experience day at the end of Feb, a bit like a wedding fayre but just for brides and grooms that have booked their wedding where we can try all the extras/ evening food etc and see the marquee set up in differnet styles.

    I think we've pretty much decided to stick to the traditional meal rather than the BBQ just to keep it formal and not have everyone wandering about- although it was lush and would smell amazing during the drinks reception.  We're going to have a pizza buffet in the evening and will try that when we go for the experience day!


  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    How exciting- I love the tasting.  Looks like you had a great time

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    The menu tasting looks scrummy! 

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