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October 2018 - An Unconventional London Wedding

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  • Thank you everyone for your incredibly kind comments. I'm glad it wasn't just me that was all WTF about the whole thing. I was deeply freaked out by what happened (and I've now changed all my user names and profile pictures on social media lol). 

    I will definitely be back, but I'm going to have a little bit more time away to let everything settle a bit more. 69 days to go today! 

  • MrsGtoBMrsGtoB Posts: 712 New bride

    Yay! So glad about this ๐Ÿ™Œ Not you being freaked out but the fact you’ll be back x 

  • DandelionBlueDandelionBlue Posts: 1,329 New bride

    I have been MIA for a bit and just came back to find out that you are thinking of leaving. I really hope you return after your break. I love reading about your wedding!!

  • I'm back! After a week or so away I couldn't stay away anymore. I've really become invested in other people's wedding journeys and it was incredibly difficult not checking to see how everyone else's planning was going.

    It's two months to go on Monday and it's really starting to feel very real and close. We've now received most of our RSVPs back but annoyingly we're still waiting on responses for 90% of the people A's dad insisted we invite. Out of twenty people still to respond, 18 are from his list of invitees.

    Which is frustrating.

    Nevertheless we've started on our table plans and the last bits of DIY. We're making a polaroid photo garland of pictures of the two of us when we were kids and it's been fun trawling through old photographs. Like these:

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    I never realised how cute I was.

    I've also decided I'm going to get my e-ring soldered to my wedding rings. As my wedding bands are only 1mm thick I'm really worried about them bending or warping through wear or when I remove them. Soldering the whole lot together seems like the best option - and tbh, I can't really wear my wedding bands without my e-ring anyway - it'll look really odd.

    My e-ring:

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    With the wedding bands:

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    I went and asked a local jeweller how much it would cost to solder the three rings, re-dip and clean my e-ring (it's white gold) and they told me it should easily be less than £100, so I'm pretty happy with that.

    My best friend and best woman is coming to stay this bank holiday weekend, so fingers crossed we're going to get my hen sorted out. The more that time goes on the more I think I just want something casual - dinner and drinking :D I'm too much of a control freak to not have input!

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    You were a super cute baby. I love the polaroid garland idea!! I think we're going to do similar but can't decide on baby pics / couple pics or pics of everyone and use them as name cards, which sounds like an awful lot of work for me!

    Not sure if I've said before but I love your rings. They're stunning and SO unusual, I've literally never seen anything like them. Are you soldering them together before the wedding so that he'll place the whole thing on during the ceremony? Or will you hand him your e-ring to put on between them too?

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 820 New bride

    Yay you’re back

    The soldering sounds like a good idea. I didn’t remember to switch my engagement ring to the other hand until I was about to walk in! Only 2 months to go, that will fly by. Hope you get your hen sorted, a meal and a few drinks sounds lovely. 

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    I love your wedding and engagement rings together! Gorgeous! 

    We had issues with RSVPs from Bens Dad insisted we invite. Most were for the the evening which wasn't a huge problem but they never replied to is and we had to chase these people through Rob, who confirmed  yes they were all coming. 

    Guess what, about a dozen people who we counted for did not turn up and they were all the people my FIL confirmed were coming. I was not happy and neither was my dad who paid for the whole reception.

  • Ashley72 wrote (see post):

    You were a super cute baby. I love the polaroid garland idea!! I think we're going to do similar but can't decide on baby pics / couple pics or pics of everyone and use them as name cards, which sounds like an awful lot of work for me!

    Not sure if I've said before but I love your rings. They're stunning and SO unusual, I've literally never seen anything like them. Are you soldering them together before the wedding so that he'll place the whole thing on during the ceremony? Or will you hand him your e-ring to put on between them too?

    I'm going to get it done before as A really likes the idea of putting the whole set on my finger at once. It does mean that I'm going to be without my ring until the ceremony though, as I don't want to wear my wedding bands until after I'm married! We're going to try and get it done as close to the day as possible, so I'm not without it for too long.

  • MrsLMT wrote (see post):

    I love your wedding and engagement rings together! Gorgeous! 

    We had issues with RSVPs from Bens Dad insisted we invite. Most were for the the evening which wasn't a huge problem but they never replied to is and we had to chase these people through Rob, who confirmed  yes they were all coming. 

    Guess what, about a dozen people who we counted for did not turn up and they were all the people my FIL confirmed were coming. I was not happy and neither was my dad who paid for the whole reception.

    Oh if they don't RSVP properly then they're not coming. I'm being quite firm on this. I'm assuming they're not coming as they're distant family members, most of whom live outside of the UK and I haven't ever met them. I just want them to let us know - it's maddening how laissez faire people are about something so expensive as a wedding. If we assume they're coming and they don't bother we'll have wasted so much money.

    We're currently at 85 guests without them, which I think is a nice number, so I'm actually hoping we don't get many more RSVPs!

  • MrsLMTMrsLMT Posts: 3,830

    I completely agree, if they don't RSVP in the way you ask asked assume they aren't attending. 

    Hubby's one uncle and aunt were day guests but because we had allocated rooms on the basis as to who needed them most and he wasn't one of those people, he decided he would only attend the evening. And then didn't show up. We were given this information by FIL. Drove me mad. 

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    Grrr- I hate people who don't RSVP!  

  • I also decided that I'm not taking my rings on honeymoon with me. I've been on two holidays since getting engaged and I wore a stand-in ring each time, as I definitely don't want the sand, sunscreen and salt to dull my ring and get in between the prongs.

    I've bought a stand-in ring that is really pretty and inexpensive to wear instead. I'm also going to wear it on my wedding day as a right hand ring:

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    It has real flowers in the resin and was a whole £22!

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    That is so pretty! You know you can get resin jewellery made with your wedding flowers too? 

  • Ashley72 wrote (see post):

    That is so pretty! You know you can get resin jewellery made with your wedding flowers too? 

    Yes, I was thinking of making a bangle out of my wedding bouquet :)

  • Candice9Candice9 Posts: 230 New bride

    I LOVE the idea of doing this! Is the a specific company that does it?

  • weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    I also decided that I'm not taking my rings on honeymoon with me. I've been on two holidays since getting engaged and I wore a stand-in ring each time, as I definitely don't want the sand, sunscreen and salt to dull my ring and get in between the prongs.

    I've bought a stand-in ring that is really pretty and inexpensive to wear instead. I'm also going to wear it on my wedding day as a right hand ring:

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    It has real flowers in the resin and was a whole £22!

    This lady made my bouquet into a bangle! The only thing is you have to dry your flowers yourself - mine went horribly mouldy in my airing cupboard (I actually cried so much) but she saved what she could and the bangle is still beautiful!

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride

    Love the ring idea- were getting some confetti made into earrings for mother of the bride and grooms gifts!

  • Zara29Zara29 Posts: 105

    Such nice ideas. I am getting a stand in wedding band too for holidays so that my lovely diamonds don't get all clogged up with sand and creams!

  • how gorgeous! where can i get this please?
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    I also decided that I'm not taking my rings on honeymoon with me. I've been on two holidays since getting engaged and I wore a stand-in ring each time, as I definitely don't want the sand, sunscreen and salt to dull my ring and get in between the prongs.

    I've bought a stand-in ring that is really pretty and inexpensive to wear instead. I'm also going to wear it on my wedding day as a right hand ring:

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    It has real flowers in the resin and was a whole £22!

     

  • Cupcakes2019 wrote (see post):
    how gorgeous! where can i get this please?
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    I also decided that I'm not taking my rings on honeymoon with me. I've been on two holidays since getting engaged and I wore a stand-in ring each time, as I definitely don't want the sand, sunscreen and salt to dull my ring and get in between the prongs.

    I've bought a stand-in ring that is really pretty and inexpensive to wear instead. I'm also going to wear it on my wedding day as a right hand ring:

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    It has real flowers in the resin and was a whole £22!

    I bought it from Buttonsy Jewellery on Etsy: https://www.etsy.com/uk/shop/ButtonsyJewellery?ref=l2-shopheader-name 

     

  • DandelionBlueDandelionBlue Posts: 1,329 New bride

    I love the idea of getting the bouquet made into a piece of jewwllery. Might do that.

    You're ring is sooo pretty!

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    60 days to go today - I'm slightly freaking out.

    Hen party plans have started to be put in place. I have a bit of a confession to make in that I actually hate hen parties. I hate the large groups, the inflatable penises and the sashes, badges, L plates and the veils etc. I find them hugely cringe. Not offense to anyone that loves them but they're 100% not my thing. So I've been dreading it and have been putting it off.

    A talk with my best woman this weekend has made me realise that actually, hen parties can be 100% what you want them to be. So I'm going to organise my own lol, so I know exactly what I'm going to get. I want something super casual, with a few good friends, with no travel (London based) and that doesn't cost very much.

    The last London hen I was on cost £150 up front. £150!! For a night out in a city that I already live in. I am actively trying to avoid that for my own.

    Current plans are to go for a few drinks, then hire a karaoke room to sing drunkenly in, then grab food and go on for further drinks. That way people can drop in and out as they need to (those friends with kids etc.) and people can spend as much or as little as they want.

  • Mila-rose3Mila-rose3 Posts: 264 New bride

    I'm totally with you on the RSVPs some of the excuses I've had are laughable.

    'Do We still have to RSVP if we are family"

     

    OH to his friend '....xxx have you sent your RSVP back"

    Friend 'I thought the taxman sorted all that out" 

     

    'We didn't want to ruin the invitation and rip the RSVP out

    When will this madness end ๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„๐Ÿ™„

    I love all your plans xxx

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    Hen do plans sound great and you’ll enjoy it so much more if you’re not anxious about it being a “surprise” if something you might not want it to be. 

    I specifically said I didn’t want blow up willies, L plates, condoms on a veil, strippers etc etc.... I did have a sash and veil which I won’t lie, I loved wearing, but you definitely only need to do the bits you actually want to do. It’s to celebrate you after all! I think having it so people can do as much or as little as they want is great, I’m going to ask my friends do something similar for my London hen night as when people are comfortable with the plans they’re participating in, they’ll be so much more fun to be with. 

    Gosh 60 days is nothing at all, that is going to fly!!

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    Also a sensible wedding purchase for once. This pretty sapphire blue crystal bracelet.

    I also got myself a pair of silver and sapphire blue Swarovski  crystal studs for my second set of ear piercings, which I don't have a picture of as they're literally just blue stud earrings.

  • MrsGtoBMrsGtoB Posts: 712 New bride

    Hen party sounds fab you can’t beat a bit of karaoke! I’m all for arranging your own then you know you’ll enjoy it ๐Ÿ˜€

  • Candice9Candice9 Posts: 230 New bride
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

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    Also a sensible wedding purchase for once. This pretty sapphire blue crystal bracelet.

    I also got myself a pair of silver and sapphire blue Swarovski  crystal studs for my second set of ear piercings, which I don't have a picture of as they're literally just blue stud earrings.

    This is gorgeous, I need something like this!!

  • Candice9 wrote (see post):
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

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    Also a sensible wedding purchase for once. This pretty sapphire blue crystal bracelet.

    I also got myself a pair of silver and sapphire blue Swarovski  crystal studs for my second set of ear piercings, which I don't have a picture of as they're literally just blue stud earrings.

    This is gorgeous, I need something like this!!

    This was £15 from Debenhams, from Jon Richard. So a complete bargain :)  

  • My flower ring arrived! It actually arrived on Saturday, but I got my delivery addresses mixed up and accidentally sent it to my mum's address. But she posted it to me and it arrived yesterday and it's so pretty:

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    My fancy dressing gown and nightie is now also in the country. I got stung for £30 in custom charges, but I expected that. After having a nice rest at Customs in Coventry for about ten days (why do they always take so long??) it's now been released for delivery.

    I'm having to be patient though and wait until Monday to get it delivered as they charge £12 for a weekend delivery and I don't fancy them potentially leaving a £300 parcel on my front steps. I'm working from home then so fingers crossed they'll actually knock loud enough for me to hear them.  It's Parcelforce making the delivery and they're notoriously useless round here.

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