October 2018 - An Unconventional London Wedding

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  • Nynae15Nynae15 Posts: 41

    Just caught up with your thread, loving your plans so far! i think it's definitely worth going to someone that specialises in vintage looks (speaking from ghosts of experiences past!)

  • So I've been thinking quite a lot about the actual ceremony at the moment, as that's the truly important bit after all.

    Readings

    I definitely want some readings. I'm a librarian so it's important that books are included at some point in the day! I'm not into soppy greeting card romanticism at all. I'd much rather make a joke out of it and the readings I've chosen reflect that.

    I'm pretty sure we're going to go for the following;

    W.H Auden's Foxtrot from a Play which goes...

    The soldier loves his rifle,
    The scholar loves his books,
    The farmer loves his horses,
    The film star loves her looks.
    There’s love the whole world over
    Wherever you may be;
    Some lose their rest for gay Mae West,
    But you’re my cup of tea.

    Some talk of Alexander
    And some of Fred Astaire,
    Some like their heroes hairy
    Some like them debonair,
    Some prefer a curate
    And some an A.D.C.,
    Some like a tough to treat’em rough,
    But you’re my cup of tea.

    Some are mad on Airedales
    And some on Pekinese,
    On tabby cats or parrots
    Or guinea pigs or geese.

    There are patients in asylums
    Who think that they’re a tree;
    I had an ant who loved a plant,
    But you’re my cup of tea.

    Some have sagging waistlines
    And some a bulbous nose
    And some a floating kidney
    And some have hammer toes,
    Some have tennis elbow
    And some have housemaid’s knee,
    And some I know have got B.O.,
    But you’re my cup of tea.

    The blackbird loves the earthworm,
    The adder loves the sun,
    The polar bear an iceberg,
    The elephant a bun,
    The trout enjoys the river,
    The whale enjoys the sea,
    And dogs love most an old lamp-post,
    But you’re my cup of tea.

    I want A's brother (who is an actor and should do this brilliantly) to read this.

    I also want the following from my Best Woman (who is a lecturer, hooray for people who are good at public speaking!)

    I Wanna Be Yours - John Cooper Clarke

    Let me be your vacuum cleaner
    breathing in your dust
    let me be your ford Cortina
    I will never rust
    if you like your coffee hot
    let me be your coffee pot
    you call the shots
    i wanna be yours

    Let me be your raincoat
    for those frequent rainy days
    let me be your dreamboat
    when you wanna sail away
    let me be your teddy bear
    take me with you anywhere
    I dont care
    I wanna be yours

    Let me be your electric meter
    I will not run out
    let me be the electric heater
    you get cold without
    let me be your setting lotion
    hold your hair with deep devotion
    deep as the deep Atlantic ocean
    thats how deep is my emotion

    I have no idea where these could go in the service (and as I'm having a civil registry ceremony I'm not even sure I'm allowed two, but fingers crossed!).

    Music:

    I have AGONISED about this. I knew I didn't want traditional. I knew I didn't want anything sappy or overly romantic. I definitely didn't want anything that would make me cry. I wanted something that would make me grin - I want to be a happy smiling bride, I def don't want to sob my way down the aisle and as I'm super emotional at the best of times (I have been known to cry at Christmas adverts) it doesn't take much to set me off.

    I originally wanted The XX - Intro, then I wanted Mylo - In My Arms, then I wanted Daft Punk's Digital Love, then I wanted Darlene Love (as The Crystals) - Today I met the boy I'm going to Marry.

    I was then 99.9% sure that I wanted Apocalyptica's cello instrumental version o

  • Arghhhh I got cut off. I really wish that they would tell you before posting.

    ...I was then 99.9% sure that I wanted Apocalyptica's cello instrumental version of Metallica's Nothing Else Matters.

    As an aside, if anyone is looking for alternative wedding songs but they still want to keep them vaguely traditional, Metal surprisingly lends itself really well to cello and strings. It's very orchestral.

    Although as soon as I played this song I knew it was the one for me. It's irreverent but still sincere, exactly what I wanted. It's even a march!

    I'm going to walk down the aisle to The Ramones cover of The Ronettes Baby I Love You. It just makes me smile so hard every time I hear it.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=PqZmJ7RGAP4

    I think everyone I know will be expecting me to walk out to Design for Life by the Manics, as I was a huge Manic Street Preachers fan in my youth, so this will be a nice surprise.

    I have no idea what is going to play during the register signing, or if that is even a thing at registry ceremonies.

    For walking out, I'm quite tempted to let A choose, as I will be choosing the majority of the music for the day. Although there is the strong possibility that he will choose The Imperial March (although I'm not 100% opposed to this).

    I'm currently favouring three songs: Wouldn't It Be Nice by The Beach Boys, Praise You by Fatboy Slim and What a Wonderful World by Joey Ramone. All are happy, upbeat songs that continue the general theme of not taking the day too seriously.

  • Table Names

    I'm waaaaay in advance here, but I always knew I wanted something silly as the table name for each of our wedding breakfast tables. As I said earlier I'm a librarian and I wanted to somehow incorporate books into our day.

    I could have bought a series of classic books, or even used some of my favourite reads but that would have been too sensible. Instead we've opted for sourcing a bunch of the dumbest books I've ever seen. I've managed to source 12 books, which is more than I think we'll need, a different book for each table.

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    They're so stupid but A and I are ridiculously pleased with them (we both have v suspect sense of humour and are clearly massive dorks) and we're hoping our guests interact with them.

  • I love your idea for table names. Is it wrong that I want to buy a copy of Downton Tabby?!

  • SunshineSquirrel wrote (see post):

    I love your idea for table names. Is it wrong that I want to buy a copy of Downton Tabby?!

    Amazon let you have a look inside the book and its weirdly wonderful: https://www.amazon.co.uk/Downton-Tabby-Chris-Kelly/dp/1471134431#reader_1471134431

    I hope people enjoy them, I laughed so much selecting them all.

  • Elz2017Elz2017 Posts: 316

    Wow, love your readings, they are brilliant. :-) I'm finding it really hard to find non-sickly readings. And the table names!! Dancing with Cats - I need that book...

    I'd also thought of nothing else matters for the ceremony, but my ex boyf got married recently and had it as his first dance - am now going to avoid it! ;-) 

  • Hair & Make-up:

    I've just booked my hair and make up artist for myself, my best woman and my mum. My mum is only going to get her make up done as she has a pixie cut.

    I've booked Lipstick & Curls which are a recommended supplier on one of the only wedding mags/blogs that I've really been bothering with,  Rock n Roll Bride. I knew I wanted vintage style make up (lots of black liner, strong lips and defined brows) rather than a more natural look.

    They also specialise in vintage hair, which was a definite must. Here are some pictures from their facebook page that I am in love with:

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    We also have our first tasting tomorrow night, which I'm really looking forward to. This isn't a tasting of our menu, but instead to get a general feel for their food and wine and service. Apparently its scheduled to last 3 1/2 hours, so I'm expecting a mountain of food and drink. We start with canapés and fizz, and then try three plates for each course + about six different wines. I fully expect to have to be rolled home afterwards!

     

  • Sian91Sian91 Posts: 829 New bride
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    Table Names

    I'm waaaaay in advance here, but I always knew I wanted something silly as the table name for each of our wedding breakfast tables. As I said earlier I'm a librarian and I wanted to somehow incorporate books into our day.

    I could have bought a series of classic books, or even used some of my favourite reads but that would have been too sensible. Instead we've opted for sourcing a bunch of the dumbest books I've ever seen. I've managed to source 12 books, which is more than I think we'll need, a different book for each table.

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    They're so stupid but A and I are ridiculously pleased with them (we both have v suspect sense of humour and are clearly massive dorks) and we're hoping our guests interact with them.

    We err rather embarrassingly own a copy of 'Cooking with Coolio' that my oh got as a secret santa gift!

  • Sian91 wrote (see post):
    weatherwaxe wrote (see post):

    Table Names

    I'm waaaaay in advance here, but I always knew I wanted something silly as the table name for each of our wedding breakfast tables. As I said earlier I'm a librarian and I wanted to somehow incorporate books into our day.

    I could have bought a series of classic books, or even used some of my favourite reads but that would have been too sensible. Instead we've opted for sourcing a bunch of the dumbest books I've ever seen. I've managed to source 12 books, which is more than I think we'll need, a different book for each table.

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    They're so stupid but A and I are ridiculously pleased with them (we both have v suspect sense of humour and are clearly massive dorks) and we're hoping our guests interact with them.

    We err rather embarrassingly own a copy of 'Cooking with Coolio' that my oh got as a secret santa gift!

    Amazing! That is hilarious :D

  • Lexie2017Lexie2017 Posts: 189

    I love the table names! Those makeup styles look brilliant too.

    You can definitely have readings in a civil ceremony and they will also want music for signing the register - we were asked to choose 4 songs, although we only heard the first one. Not sure if you know this but you have to have your choice of music and readings vetted by the registrars as they're not allowed to have anything religious at all - which includes things like Robbie Williams' Angels, apparently. But you don't have to decide just yet, they only need you to check all that a few weeks' beforehand.

  • PottyPotty Posts: 504 New bride

    I've only just found your thread, but read the whole thing from top to bottom   I'm loving this and can't wait to see it all coming together!  I was born in Islington, and lived there in my early life and my Dad and his side of the family all lived there (my uncle still does) so I'm really excited about your wedding! 

    Married September 2018, Baby due October 2019.  
  • We went to our first tasting at the Metalworks on Tuesday night. I promptly forgot to take any pictures of the food, but the quality was excellent. We tried 3 different canapés, 3 starters, 3 mains, 4 desserts, a cheese board and tried 12 wines for the meal and fizz for the drinks reception and toast.

    Needless to say A and I rolled home full and a bit tipsy.

    Although I didn't get any pictures of the food, I did snap a few (terrible) venue pics:

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    (we definitely want Jesus involved)

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    We also spoke to the owner about where the tank had gone from outside. We were gutted that it had gone as we thought it would make a brilliant photo opportunity.  

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     Apparently Expedia (who are in the building next door) objected to the tank and obtained a court order to remove it (saying it was on their land), without ever communicating with the Metalworks to see if they could come to an agreement. Expedia obviously have a lot more money than the Metalworks, so they didn't feel it would be worth their while fighting it. It's really sad as the tank had been there for fifteen years and was a definite fixture.

    However, they do have an armoured car that they're going to bring out for photos instead, which is something! This is their car:

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    I'm hopefully (if my friend is feeling well enough) going to David's Bridal in Stratford this evening to try on some wedding dresses. Not even remotely planning on buying anything, I just fancied a look!

  • So I found my dress! Hugely unexpected, I never expected to find anything at Davids Bridal. I went along with a friend for a laugh and to get an idea of styles, and I found the one!

    Also as an aside, if anyone is thinking of trying DB, weekdays are lovely. I've heard weekends can be pretty hellish, but I was in there for two hours last night after work and had the floor pretty much to myself. There was another bride at the very beginning of my appointment, and someone else came in right at the end, but other than that I had the whole mirror area to myself. My bridal consultant Portia was also wonderful and really put me at ease.

    Pics to follow!

  • So I wasn't expecting much from my trip to Davids Bridal. I had expected to try on a bunch of big dresses and go for some cocktails and a bite to eat at Levi Roots restaurant, which is across the way from DB.

    I had picked out a bunch of ballgown/A-lines that I wanted to try and right at the last minute I grabbed an Oleg Cassini dress off the rack and asked if I could also try it on too as it was a tea length and I wanted to definitely try a shorter length dress. It looked like nothing special on the hanger, and I wasn't particularly enthusiastic about it, but I thought it would help me decide on dress length and style. My friend C said I should try that dress on first to get it out of the way as we were both expecting it to 100% not even remotely be a contender.

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    Wrong, so wrong. It looks shapeless on the hanger (and awful in the picture on the website), but on me it was really flattering. It really defined my waist and as I have large boobs and usually look top heavy, the skirt helped to balance me out.

    I took it off and then tried on a sleeved ballgown  by Oleg Cassini (exactly the sort of thing I thought I wanted) and then a strapless light grey Vera Wang ballgown.

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    I just felt swamped in them both - they both had a million layers of tulle and organza and while the VW dress was quite light, I kept getting frustrated as I couldn't walk in it, and the Oleg gown was so heavy that I knew I wouldn't be ok with wearing it all day.

    I then tried on a Jenny Packham for DB dress which was much lighter and more of a vintage silhouette:

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    It was miles nicer to wear than the two ballgowns and was flattering and quite pretty and had a lovely train, but after wearing it around I'd decided it wasn't 'special' enough, and was a bit too plain.  

  • I then asked Portia, my bridal consultant, to see if they had any more tea length dresses. She came back with a Davids Bridal tea length dress with sleeves.

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    This dress cemented that I was definitely only interested in shorter dresses. I just loved how easy it was to move about and I felt more 'me' than in any of the other dresses.This was quite a lot plainer than the first dress, and didn't feel as well made or as special, so I asked if I could try on the Oleg Cassini tea length again. The Oleg dress had lots of lovely lace all the way down the skirt and tiny beads and sequins to give the dress sparkle.

    This time I tried it on with an additional petticoat for volume, a belt and a veil. This was 100% my dress and I didn't want to try anything further. I kept it on for ages while Portia checked availability and prices. The price was the best bit, £725, under half my budget!

    Pictures:

    I blocked out my face as I don't want my mug appearing on any google image searches!

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    and the back:

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    I haven't bought it yet. My mum is coming to visit in three weeks and as she's paying for my dress I want her to see it beforehand. But it's my dress and I'm so happy with it!

  • PottyPotty Posts: 504 New bride

    Ahh your dress looks lovely! and really really suits you! The same thing happened to me, I was adamant I wasn't buying my dress on my first go, and I did! How exciting, I'm sure your Mum will love it!

    Married September 2018, Baby due October 2019.  
  • MrsS85MrsS85 Posts: 688 New bride

    Your dress is gorgeous and really suits you, Congrats on finding it, Hope your mum loves it too.

     

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,471 New bride

    Ooo it is really pretty.  I love the buttons on the back!

  • The dress looks absolutely stunning on you. The buttons down the back are such a nice feature.

  • You look stunning! Love your dress. xxxx

  • Wow. Why haven't I read this tread yet!

    So many amazing things. First off, I live your venue. It's so unique. And I can really see the bright colours and flowers Popping against the industrial background. 

    Your invites are gorgeous. I have never seen anything like it.

    I also wanted to say that you really suit your pixie haircut. But I can totally see a midi length one on you too.

    And that dress is perfect for you. Do you think you will go with a colourful petticoat to match the theme?

    Oh and I live in the North East of London. So will definitely be following this thread closely.

    PS we are planning an October wedding and are only starting to look at venues. You have already got do much done! I am terrified

  • DandelionBlue wrote (see post):

    Wow. Why haven't I read this tread yet!

    So many amazing things. First off, I live your venue. It's so unique. And I can really see the bright colours and flowers Popping against the industrial background. 

    Your invites are gorgeous. I have never seen anything like it.

    I also wanted to say that you really suit your pixie haircut. But I can totally see a midi length one on you too.

    And that dress is perfect for you. Do you think you will go with a colourful petticoat to match the theme?

    Oh and I live in the North East of London. So will definitely be following this thread closely.

    PS we are planning an October wedding and are only starting to look at venues. You have already got do much done! I am terrified

     

    Haha, I'm a researcher/librarian so it's in my nature to be organised! I'm aiming to get 75% of my planning done in the first six months, so I can relax a bit when time starts to move quickly! I'm also the sort of person who doesn't agonise over decisions - once something 'feels' right, I will move quite quickly and get it sorted. Like my dress, I had zero intention of starting to properly look for a dress until end of November/December, but it worked out very differently!

    I am planning on getting a coloured petticoat. I've ordered one in royal blue (to match my engagement ring, which is a blue sapphire). I've also ordered some blue shoes to have a further pop of colour now that I know they're going to be on show.

     

  • SHOES:

    I did something slightly mad this weekend and ordered a very expensive pair of wedding shoes. I feel vaguely justified in this since my wedding dress is costing much less than we expected it to (my dress is costing £725, when we originally had a budget of around £1600, BARGAIN!), so my mum is also going to pick up the costs of my veil (whatever that ends up being) and a belt/sash for my dress.

    I'm a massive shoe person, but I was originally going to get a pair of cheapish shoes, something from Dune or Kurt Geiger as I expected to be wearing a full length dress and you wouldn't really see them. However now I have a tea length dress, the shoes have become waaaay more important as they will be on view.

    I've been set on a pair of blue shoes for a while, blue is my favourite colour and I've always liked the idea of my 'something blue' being a feature of my outfit. I'm also more likely to wear them again than a pair of white or ivory shoes.

    So I've ordered a pair of Dolce and Gabbana 'Rosa' and they are so beautiful:

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    I'm definitely jumping the gun with these as I have aaages until the wedding, but I was worried about them selling out, as the only places you can get this particular colour is on the D&G website and at Harrods. I can't wait for them to arrive! Fingers crossed that they aren't too narrow or too wide and I have to return them.

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 821 New bride

    Oh I love your dress and the coloured petticoat and shoes will look amazing with it! Great choice. 

  • Lexie2017Lexie2017 Posts: 189

    What a lovely dress! (funny, we have similar choices on so many things - I had tea length and lovely shoes too! and I am pretty sure I tried on a similar dress with the buttons down the back, although it didn't quite work for me). Fingers crossed on the shoes, absolutely beautiful.

  • Lexie2017 wrote (see post):

    What a lovely dress! (funny, we have similar choices on so many things - I had tea length and lovely shoes too! and I am pretty sure I tried on a similar dress with the buttons down the back, although it didn't quite work for me). Fingers crossed on the shoes, absolutely beautiful.

     

    Lexie I loved your shoes, if I hadn't wanted colourful shoes I probably would have splurged on a pair of Emmy London too.

  • VegasLouVegasLou Posts: 821 New bride

    I must have posted at the same time as your shoe picture. Gorgeous shoes and they’ll look amazing with your dress. Fx they fit. 

  • So I just wrote a rant about some unreasonable behaviour from an acquaintance of A's, but reflecting on it I don't really want any negativity on here as I want to be able to look back on this after the wedding and have this as a sort of memento, so I have deleted it.

    Instead have a picture of a dog at a wedding:

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