My Planning Thread - Sheffield, Summer 2019

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  • Helen225 wrote (see post):

    Hey

    We had one of the old sawmills at Brooklyn Works (the Alfred Beckett and Sons building opposite The Milestone pub) so down the other end. 

    The weather was amaaaazing thank you! I was seriously freaking out about the weather for around two years, especially when a year to the date it was the worst rain I’ve ever seen. I think I just cried all day!! My report is in my signature below if you get realllllly bored! 

    Ah never realised the showroom had parking. Great news. 

    Ahh right I know where you mean! 

    Oh good I'm so glad, I would be panicking too! Will definitely have a read, still got pretty much everything to plan so if you have any suppliers you would really recommend then do let me know! 

  • GinAndBlingGinAndBling Posts: 1,311 New bride

    Ohh following! I also love the showroom- that was exactly the kind of venue I would have picked if H2B had no say in the planning (ha!).

    I'm a Leicester bride, so not too far away.

    Edinburgh is one of my favorite cities, and such a perfect place to get engaged. 

    Our planning thread: We're completely winging it.
    Our report: A fun, classic May day in navy and blush
    My weightloss thread: Diet denial! 
  • I think I'm another vote for the Showroom!  I'm a sucker for charity, I personally like the clean look of the site, and the savings are HUGE. You could really use that savings in your budget to personalise everything about the space (or to upgrade so many other areas of your day).

    Did you make a decision yet?

  • Hello to the new followers and thank you everyone that's given their opinions on the two venues! We still haven't made a decision, which is why I've been so quiet on here as I've had nothing to say!

    We went to look at both venues again at the weekend. We took our parents to Kelham this time and they all really liked it, although we've decided if we had it there we would have it upstairs instead of downstairs as there is more space and downstairs was just a bit too small for our numbers. This is what the upstairs looks like: 

    Kelham Island Museum Wedding in Sheffield City Centre By Tierney Photography

    I still like Kelham upstairs but am not as wowed, I think the one thing that stands out about Kelham is there would be lots of great photo opportunities:

    Image result for made in sheffield kelham island signImage result for made in sheffield kelham island signImage result for little mesters street

    If we went for Kelham we would enter through this little old street as well which we both really love. 

     

    However, I think I've decided I want the showroom. H2B has said that we can book it if that's what I want but I know he wants Kelham, although normally I would be willing him to let me have my choice I feel like it's a big decision and it's his day too (don't know why I am being so loyal ). We have said we will decide by this Sunday and if we can't decide then we will toss a coin as we both do love both venues!

     

    In other news, we went to a wedding fayre on Sunday and saw some really great suppliers (especially togs) so as soon as we have got the venue decision out the way we will be able to start deciding on other things and booking. yay!

  • So still no news on reception decisions (we keep making a decision and then changing our mind, which makes me worried to book anywhere in case we change again!) but in the absence of any news on that front I thought I'd carry on anyway. 

    Bridesmaids

    I had decided way before we got engaged who my bridesmaids would be. 

    Iam a bridesmaid for my cousin this summer, which threw up a few arguments in the family as she is not including our other cousin. I get why she is not as they just aren't close and hardly see each other, I agree with what she's done as I think it's your day and you should do what you want. Having said that, I thought it would be easier to avoid conflict and just have a small amount of bridesmaids so that I didn't include either cousin. Our wedding won't be massive anyway and I've never wanted loads of bridesmaids so I think this works really well.   

    I'd always wanted to have a family bridesmaid, rather than just friends but I don't have an obvious sister/future SIL etc. However I have always been close to my godparents daughter, we practically grew up together and although we don't see each other as much now, we still get on so well and I know we always will - so she was an obvious choice. 

    Another obvious choice was one of my best friends, we get along so well and she is so supportive and the person I would always go to if I needed help, so she's perfect to have in my wedding party! 

    Ihad pictured having 3 bridesmaids but I found there wasn't an obvious third choice without getting into the territory of upsetting some people so I decided to leave it at 2, which I think will be perfect. The 2 I chose definitely had the most excited reactions to the engagement so I know I've made the right choice. 

     

    As it was just before Christmas I planned to get them both something that said bridesmaid on and pretend it was a Christmas present. However, because it was nearly Christmas the shops were full of decorations and gifts so there wasn't much around. I looked in a few shops and then in the range I changed my mind and decided to do something a bit crafty instead. 

    I spent ages umming and ahhing over decorating a box and putting sweets and a little note in it or these little card books. H2B was trying to be patient but did point out that actually they won't care which one it is (which obviously was not what I wanted to hear!). In the end I went for the books and wrote messages about what I love about them and memories we have together. I'm glad I chose this in the end as I felt it was a bit more personal. 

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  • Place names/favours

    H2B and I had decided that neither of us was that bothered about favours, it seems like a lot of money for something that most people will forgot to take with them anyway. I decided it would be nice to do something that combines place names and favours. My first thought was wine glasses with people's names on that they could use throughout the day, I then thought about glass candles with people's names on but H2B pointed out that most men would not want a candle. 

    As we are trying to bring a Sheffield theme to our wedding we had thought about collecting mismatched Sheffield cutlery to use on the day (Sheffield is very famous for its cutlery if you don't know). However, in the end we thought this would be a lot of effort. That led me to think about stamped cutlery as place names that people can then take home with them. 

    I realise it's quite early to be doing favours or place names but we thought as it might take a while to stamp we should get started soon (hopefully I won't change my mind), so I ordered a stamping kit from Amazon and we went to buy some cutlery from antique shops today to start practicing. 

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    I've just had a little practice and although it's not that easy I'm hoping it will work well! I realised it was super noisy though so going to get ear defenders before I do anymore as I'm a bit of a princess with like things that! 

  • Hi there - another Sheffield bride (I guess) here. 

    Have you looked at 99 Mary Street & Trafalgar Warehouse? Both are amazing venues - quirky and possibly within your budget. Trafalgar Warehouse. 

    For 2018 pricing of Trafalgar Warehouse it was £1000 - which includes warehouse space, a full stocked and licensed bar, event manager, evening event manager and door staff. It's an empty space. You can do what you like with it. 

    Mary Street is much smaller but also really nice, warehouse blank space. But I don't think it has draft beer. It's a pop-up bar!

    Hope this helps :) I know venues can be overwhelming.

  • Really enjoying your planning, we've got a similar amount of time to plan so it's nice to see where you're up to. My sister lived in Sheffield for years and it's such an amazing place! 

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    Hi there - another Sheffield bride (I guess) here. 

    Have you looked at 99 Mary Street & Trafalgar Warehouse? Both are amazing venues - quirky and possibly within your budget. Trafalgar Warehouse. 

    For 2018 pricing of Trafalgar Warehouse it was £1000 - which includes warehouse space, a full stocked and licensed bar, event manager, evening event manager and door staff. It's an empty space. You can do what you like with it. 

    Mary Street is much smaller but also really nice, warehouse blank space. But I don't think it has draft beer. It's a pop-up bar!

    Hope this helps :) I know venues can be overwhelming.

    Oooh exciting! I love finding Sheffield brides! Do you have much planned? 

    Thanks for the suggestions, I've had a look and Mary street just looks a bit too small but I will definitely look into Trafalgar warehouse! 

    Hahaha you are not wrong there, I've found myself stressing about venues so much even though I feel like it should be an exciting time! 

     

  • BetweenTwoLungs wrote (see post):

    Really enjoying your planning, we've got a similar amount of time to plan so it's nice to see where you're up to. My sister lived in Sheffield for years and it's such an amazing place! 

    Aww thank you, I love seeing what everyone else is up to! How far are you in your planning? 

  • MrsB7MrsB7 Posts: 8

    hey!! Glad to see a 2019 thread on here!

    we are 10th May 2019 but still feels like a very long time away.

     

    happy planning 

  • FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):
    Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    Hi there - another Sheffield bride (I guess) here. 

    Have you looked at 99 Mary Street & Trafalgar Warehouse? Both are amazing venues - quirky and possibly within your budget. Trafalgar Warehouse. 

    For 2018 pricing of Trafalgar Warehouse it was £1000 - which includes warehouse space, a full stocked and licensed bar, event manager, evening event manager and door staff. It's an empty space. You can do what you like with it. 

    Mary Street is much smaller but also really nice, warehouse blank space. But I don't think it has draft beer. It's a pop-up bar!

    Hope this helps :) I know venues can be overwhelming.

    Oooh exciting! I love finding Sheffield brides! Do you have much planned? 

    Thanks for the suggestions, I've had a look and Mary street just looks a bit too small but I will definitely look into Trafalgar warehouse! 

    Hahaha you are not wrong there, I've found myself stressing about venues so much even though I feel like it should be an exciting time! 

     

    Weirdly - I have it all sorted. We're just throwing a party / evening reception though. So it feels easier. 

    If you're interested in warehouse space also look at The Hind :) I enjoyed looking at venues - we settled on Yellow Arch because of it's musical history, location and it's an awesome space. I'd also recommend a look at that too :) If you have the full day there - there's an extra room for the sit down meal.

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):
    FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):
    Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    Hi there - another Sheffield bride (I guess) here. 

    Have you looked at 99 Mary Street & Trafalgar Warehouse? Both are amazing venues - quirky and possibly within your budget. Trafalgar Warehouse. 

    For 2018 pricing of Trafalgar Warehouse it was £1000 - which includes warehouse space, a full stocked and licensed bar, event manager, evening event manager and door staff. It's an empty space. You can do what you like with it. 

    Mary Street is much smaller but also really nice, warehouse blank space. But I don't think it has draft beer. It's a pop-up bar!

    Hope this helps :) I know venues can be overwhelming.

    Oooh exciting! I love finding Sheffield brides! Do you have much planned? 

    Thanks for the suggestions, I've had a look and Mary street just looks a bit too small but I will definitely look into Trafalgar warehouse! 

    Hahaha you are not wrong there, I've found myself stressing about venues so much even though I feel like it should be an exciting time! 

     

    Weirdly - I have it all sorted. We're just throwing a party / evening reception though. So it feels easier. 

    If you're interested in warehouse space also look at The Hind :) I enjoyed looking at venues - we settled on Yellow Arch because of it's musical history, location and it's an awesome space. I'd also recommend a look at that too :) If you have the full day there - there's an extra room for the sit down meal.

    Oh wow! I'll have to have a stalk of your planning thread and get some ideas! We did vaguely look into yellow arch but as there's a minimum of 150 guests on a Saturday it just didn't work for us, I've heard such amazing things about it though. Our caterer said they've done some amazing weddings there! 

  • The venue - sorted finally! 

    So after a lot of umming and ahhing we have finally decided on a venue! We went for kelham island as I loved both of our options but I know H2B really wanted kelham and our parents all loved it too. We also knew that if money was no object, kelham would be the one. As we only plan to get married once we wanted to make it exactly what we wanted and not all about the cost.

    We've been waiting a few weeks for the venue to give us date options as they have some unconfirmed events but we've now chosen a date and I've just emailed to confirm it! 

    Soooo 21st September 2019 I'll be getting married!!!! 

     

     

  • Congratulations on setting a date and venue! I have just read your whole thread and was in suspense, hoping I would find out by the end of it where and when your big day would be!

    Your ring is stunning - huge congratulations! :)

    I found this forum only a couple of months ago so a lot of my planning is done, wish I’d found it in the early stages, there is some fantastic ideas and really helpful brides! Can’t wait to read more planning for your big day...

  • Good choice on Kelhem, you'll have some awesome photos :)

  • MrsT2Be wrote (see post):

    Congratulations on setting a date and venue! I have just read your whole thread and was in suspense, hoping I would find out by the end of it where and when your big day would be!

    Your ring is stunning - huge congratulations! :)

    I found this forum only a couple of months ago so a lot of my planning is done, wish I’d found it in the early stages, there is some fantastic ideas and really helpful brides! Can’t wait to read more planning for your big day...

    Thank you! It's so much more exciting now it seems real! 

    I'm the opposite, I actually used to just read about people's weddings on here before I was even engaged!  I love it though and I've read so many threads about things I wouldn't have even thought of! 

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    Good choice on Kelhem, you'll have some awesome photos :)

    Thank you! Yeah I think one of the major things about Kelham is all the photos we will get there! Just need to find a photographer now... 

  • I'm not sure what your budget is for photography but I do have some personal faves for Yorkshire based photographers!

     

    www.s6photography.co.uk/

    https://www.kindredphotography.co.uk


     

    www.elliegracephotography.co.uk

     

     
  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    I'm not sure what your budget is for photography but I do have some personal faves for Yorkshire based photographers!

     

    www.s6photography.co.uk/

    https://www.kindredphotography.co.uk


     

    www.elliegracephotography.co.uk

     

     

    Hey, thanks for the suggestions! I have looked at s6 and Ellie grace and really love those! Will definitely take a look at your others, photography is next on my to do list! 

    Are you having a photographer for your reception? Who have you gone for? 

  • The theme 

    So when we first started planning both H2B and I decided we didn't want a theme and we would just go with what suited us. Although we have done this for the most part we have realised that our style is actually taking on a bit of a theme, so we've decided to embrace it to make the rest of the planning easier. 

    I can reveal our theme is officially rustic-industrial with a touch of Sheffield thrown in (surprisingly enough this exact theme does not have many matches on pinterest...), so far we are doing the following:

    Having the reception in an industrial museum

    Making favours/name places out of Sheffield cutlery

    Using Sheffield beer/gin etc. bottles as decorations 

    Having names of places in Sheffield as table names

    Hiring wooden tresle tables and chairs 

    Tweed suits for the boys

    Metallic colours 

    I am hoping having a theme will help keep my ideas a bit more concentrated and stop me spending too much money, although at the moment it's done the opposite as all I have done is decided £800 on tables and chairs is necessary... I started the wedding planning wanting to keep it low key and inexpensive and now I seem to be wanting to spend money on all sorts of things I don't really need, I feel like Pheobe in friends when she keeps changing her mind about having a big expensive wedding! 

    If anyone has any other suggestions I'd love to hear from you! 

  • Have you seen that Hendos do wedding favours? Nothing better than Hendos :)

    Theme sounds good! You can do a lot with it, helps that it's in a industrial venue.

    We've gone with http://stephwhite.co.uk/ for the reception. We blew our photography budget in the States and needed someone who would cover a couple of hours for us for a decent price. If I was having the entire day in Sheffield I'd pick Ellie or S6!

  • Love your theme.not sure have any tips except the usual check gum tree and no impulse purchases. I have also pooled items with my cousin who gets married in March e.g. Canvas holder and one of those mini greenhouses from ikea for guests to put cards in. 

  • Martha13 wrote (see post):

    Love your theme.not sure have any tips except the usual check gum tree and no impulse purchases. I have also pooled items with my cousin who gets married in March e.g. Canvas holder and one of those mini greenhouses from ikea for guests to put cards in. 

    I don't think I've seen these IKEA mini greenhouses, do you a picture/link by any chance? 

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    Have you seen that Hendos do wedding favours? Nothing better than Hendos :)

    Theme sounds good! You can do a lot with it, helps that it's in a industrial venue.

    We've gone with http://stephwhite.co.uk/ for the reception. We blew our photography budget in the States and needed someone who would cover a couple of hours for us for a decent price. If I was having the entire day in Sheffield I'd pick Ellie or S6!

    I have but we decided we didn't want to do actual favours because not everyone will take them so we just thought it's a waste! So we've compromised on favours that are also place names so it doesn't matter if people don't take them and we will have a sweet cart as well. We are definitely having hendos on tables though and hendos Yorkshire crisps during canapes and reception drinks! We've also collected a couple of hendos bottles to go with the beer/gin bottles. 

    Yeah I really like S6, I've been to weddings before that he's done which have had amazing photos and I know he's worked at Kelham a lot before! 

  • And he does amazing photos! The Sheffield photography was very much an after thought. We didn't want to spend more than £200 on the photography here, we wanted a bigger budget for the USA part of things :)

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):

    And he does amazing photos! The Sheffield photography was very much an after thought. We didn't want to spend more than £200 on the photography here, we wanted a bigger budget for the USA part of things :)

    So excited to see your pictures! You will definitely need to do a report, I'm probably more excited for your wedding than mine! 

  • Bridesmaid no. 3??

    So I could do with some opinions please ladies. I mentioned that I didn't want too many bridesmaids as I wanted to avoid the hassle of people being left out etc. so had settled on my best friend from school, N and my family friend. 

    I have another close friend, O (same circle as N). O and I used to be really close and she was probably my best friend. We don't see each other as much any more, she works a lot and spends all her free time with her boyfriend, who is not interested in seeing her friends. Although I don't see her as much I still care deeply for O and try to support her (her boyfriend is really not a nice bloke). I did consider making O a bridesmaid as she doesn't have many friends and I think it would really mean a lot to her. There is another girl, B in the same circle as N and O, although she is not the type that would feel left out if I had N and O and not her so it's not such an issue. 

    O has just messaged me and told me things are really not good at home - I am tempted to ask her to be a bridesmaid to cheer her up but I don't know if this would help? 

     

  • FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

    Bridesmaid no. 3??

    So I could do with some opinions please ladies. I mentioned that I didn't want too many bridesmaids as I wanted to avoid the hassle of people being left out etc. so had settled on my best friend from school, N and my family friend. 

    I have another close friend, O (same circle as N). O and I used to be really close and she was probably my best friend. We don't see each other as much any more, she works a lot and spends all her free time with her boyfriend, who is not interested in seeing her friends. Although I don't see her as much I still care deeply for O and try to support her (her boyfriend is really not a nice bloke). I did consider making O a bridesmaid as she doesn't have many friends and I think it would really mean a lot to her. There is another girl, B in the same circle as N and O, although she is not the type that would feel left out if I had N and O and not her so it's not such an issue. 

    O has just messaged me and told me things are really not good at home - I am tempted to ask her to be a bridesmaid to cheer her up but I don't know if this would help? 

     

    I know bridesmaids is a tricky topic. In fact, the whole 'wedding party' is tricky. I would think before choosing who will be your support on the day - you can't ask and take it back - but you can always ask later on! The one question has to come in is "will I still be close to them in 3 to 5 years time?"  

    Then maybe think about the role your bridesmaids will play. What do you want them to do? Is the plan for them to help you with the details? If you want very involved bridesmaids you need to manage your own expectations - what are they like normally?  

    Do I think you should ask her to cheer her up? No. Even if she's going through a tough time it doesn't mean you have to make her a bridesmaid. But if you honestly can't see wedding planning / the wedding day without her at your side - ask! :)

  • Desert-bride wrote (see post):
    FutureMrsTomlin wrote (see post):

    Bridesmaid no. 3??

    So I could do with some opinions please ladies. I mentioned that I didn't want too many bridesmaids as I wanted to avoid the hassle of people being left out etc. so had settled on my best friend from school, N and my family friend. 

    I have another close friend, O (same circle as N). O and I used to be really close and she was probably my best friend. We don't see each other as much any more, she works a lot and spends all her free time with her boyfriend, who is not interested in seeing her friends. Although I don't see her as much I still care deeply for O and try to support her (her boyfriend is really not a nice bloke). I did consider making O a bridesmaid as she doesn't have many friends and I think it would really mean a lot to her. There is another girl, B in the same circle as N and O, although she is not the type that would feel left out if I had N and O and not her so it's not such an issue. 

    O has just messaged me and told me things are really not good at home - I am tempted to ask her to be a bridesmaid to cheer her up but I don't know if this would help? 

     

    I know bridesmaids is a tricky topic. In fact, the whole 'wedding party' is tricky. I would think before choosing who will be your support on the day - you can't ask and take it back - but you can always ask later on! The one question has to come in is "will I still be close to them in 3 to 5 years time?"  

    Then maybe think about the role your bridesmaids will play. What do you want them to do? Is the plan for them to help you with the details? If you want very involved bridesmaids you need to manage your own expectations - what are they like normally?  

    Do I think you should ask her to cheer her up? No. Even if she's going through a tough time it doesn't mean you have to make her a bridesmaid. But if you honestly can't see wedding planning / the wedding day without her at your side - ask! :)

    I can imagine doing it without her, the two I already have are brilliant and I don't think I need the third, I'd definitely just be asking her so as not to upset her. I think you're right, it's probably not a good reason to choose a bridesmaid! 

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