Our travel themed barn wedding!

 

Hello everyone! 

I‘ve been a little lurking monster, snooping on everyone’s wedding threads, eagerly waiting to start my own! I keep getting butterflies imaging everyone’s exciting big day and then being like eeeek I can’t wait for mine! And it’s not long now - roughly 11 months! I’m a bit of a no-nonsense-just-get-on-with-things-hate-waiting-around kind of gal so as soon as that ring was on my finger I was on itttt in terms of setting a date. Here I am 6 weeks later sending out save the dates and beginning this blogging journey! Sorry if my writing isnt top notch, I genuinely have no idea what I’m doing 

 

So, you lovely people, if you’re reading, you’re probably thinking what’s this chick’s story? 

WELL

(Sorry I’m a bit dramatic)

in 2013, I had just returned to England from a year long adventure in China teaching English as a second language! I had literally been back for just over a week and I was so depressed about getting back to normality that I’d planned to go back to China to live there permanently! Anyhow, an old friend got in touch with me to ask if I’d like to go to his mates birthday party in town. I wasn’t really fussed about going and I actually said no but he talked me into it. (I sound so boring). So I went along and it was alright but not brill, so I nagged him to go on to a club. At some point during drinking in excess and lots of dancing, I got slightly emotional and we ended up arguing and he walked off and left me (yeah he’s no longer my friend). So I, feeling ever so sorry for myself, went and plonked myself on one of the sofas. Just as I’m about to head out for a taxi home, some guy plonks himself next to me. You look sad. He says with a half grin, half sympathetic look on his face. Well yes, I am sad, I say, and proceed to illustrate the events of the evening. Me and a couple of friends are on our way to another club if you want to come? There are girls too, he says reassuringly, in the hopes I don’t think he has plans to kidnap me. 

Then I proceeded to actually ENJOY the rest of my night and ended up..er...staying the night at his flat. All we did was talk and talk through the night! I got a very worried phone call from my mum the next day cause she’d not heard me come in (oops) and so Mat suggested we go and buy her some flowers to apologise. What a soppy get I remember thinking, but at the same time it was very cute. In the following days after my phone was constantly pinging with messages from him, wanting to meet again. I knew I’d found the right guy, even if he was a little too eager 

So, that’s it really, it’s not a very romantic story, but it’s our story. The story of how Charleah met Mat.

 

 

 

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  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride

    Hi and welcome! :)

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

     heey my first reply! Thanks for the welcome :) 

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    Our first date 

    Mat was a little bit showy offy and wanted to take me to this posh Italian restaurant in Leeds, so i dressed up all fancy for the occasion. He came to pick me up from my parents house looking soooo casual, dressed down in jeans and a jumper  but I usually dress over the top and my friends call me extra hahah. 

    In an Italian I would normally order a big greasy pizza or cheesy calzone but because I was trying to impress I ordered some boring pasta dish. I then reverted back to my 6 year old self and proceeded to get pasta sauce EVERYWHERE. Why am I such a mess? 

    For some reason (obviously cause I’m so cute) it didn’t put him off and we carried on the evening, drinking cocktails (well I did) in each bar we visited. All in all, ‘‘twas a good date  suffice to say, I didnt return to China. 

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    Travel 

    So to explain a little why our wedding will be travel themed - basically we love to visit new places together and our friends and family have lovingly joked that we ”spend all our time away” which we have been fortunate enough to be able to do. 

    Since dating we have visited areas of the UK, (London, Salcombe etc, Wales, Scotland, Ireland) we’ve seen Italy, Germany, Spain (Ibiza & Calvia), Gran Canaria, Portugal, Honduras in the Caribbean, New York, Houston and Las Vegas. 

    We also hope to go to China for our honeymoon, so I can show Mat what its like and practice some of my mandarin! 

    So, there you have it! Our wedding theme will be a nod to those places, with lots of little details resembling the different cultures. 

  • Elz2017Elz2017 Posts: 316

     Your pasta story made me lol, when I was in my twenties for some reason I always got taken on dates to Italian restaurants, and stupidly always ordered something messy with spaghetti which inevitably ended up all over me and anyone near enough to splatter. I can absolutely relate!!

    The theme on travel sounds brilliant, look forward to seeing how you develop that!

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    Elz2017 
    Yes! He always takes the mick out of me cause wherever we go I always leave the table in a state! Haha! 

    I’ll have to have a read of your thread too! 

  • New to thisNew to this Posts: 226 New bride

    Awh I love the story of how you met!! Made me smile. What a keeper!! 

    Looking forward to reading more 😘 x 

  • Georgina74Georgina74 Posts: 299 New bride

    Oooo sounds exciting! 

    Weve got a bit of a travel theme going on too-we’re going travelling around Asia for 6months as our honeymoon so tying little bits in with that

    cant wait to read more! 

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    Thanks eveyone! Glad you enjoy reading 😁 

    Georgina that’s so cool, I wish we could have that long but he won’t be able to get that long off work! 😟 still I’m sure we’ll be able to cram lots in! 

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    The proposal

    So Mat and I both share the same birthday month in February so we tend to go away instead of getting each other presents. I had toyed around the idea of going to Iceland cus my friend had been there (actually she’d got engaged there) and said how nice it was. For some reason (now I know why!) Mat was against the idea and pushed for us to go somewhere else. So after some debate we decided on Vegas! We’d done America before and quite enjoyed it so thought why not. Can I just say..I had no idea this was coming. Like..he gave no clues or inclination 😂

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    So the day before his birthday (19th Feb) we planned to go up the Stratosphere observation tower at night when it was dark and pretty - just like the Empire State Building, I remember saying. During the day we had a little mooch around downtown Las Vegas, visited the Mob museum, which was pretty cool. We got to learn all about the history of organised crime in the US! We also got to do our fingerprints and analyse some pretend bodies in a lab.

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    Afterwards we were looking at doing one of the big zip lines they have but it was freezing and so we chickened out..but instead I clocked there was a zombie apocalypse experience and of course we HAD to do that. I love that a couple of hours before getting engaged I was shooting up some zombies. 😅 

    Running away from dead people actually makes you quite hungry so we found the nearest pizza place! I ordered a full pizza for us to share (despite Mat’s warnings that it really would be too big, this is America after all). When it came out the pieces were bigger than my head, but I had a bloody good go at finishing it 😂 I really wanted to box the rest up and take it up the tower, but Mat insisted we didn’t (guess he didn’t want a greasy proposal) and so we gave it to some homeless guys. 

     

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    Up the tower, we sat in a quiet spot overlooking Las Vegas, and Mat goes “so er...I spoke to your dad..and er..the reason I wanted to come here..er well..(this is a guy who works in sales for a living)..so do you wanna get married? Then puts the ring on the table! I got a bit teary and had a mini panic attack but I was like yes, yes, yes! Then when the reality of it set in, we wanted to act really silly, so we got in a photo booth and took some silly pictures!

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    We headed back to the hotel and sat in the casino bar, where a lady was singing for entertainment. Mat went over and told her we were engaged and she said she’d sing us a song! For some reason she started singing Bob Marley No Woman No Cry which made us laugh! I was then desperate to ring everyone at home to let them know our news (some who already knew). 

     So there you have it, our engagement story. Sorry it’s a tad long, I just wanted to get every detail in!

  • Martha13Martha13 Posts: 46

    Enjoying this !keep it coming... Another ex tefl teacher here ! I took my OH to Korea to play tour guide and he loved it. China for the honeymoon will be fab :-) 

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    Martha13 
    Eee thank you Martha! I’d love to go to Korea, my cousin lives in S Korea with her fiancée and it’d be fun to go and visit her! thanks for reading x
  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    The bridesmaids 

    I’m quite a creative person, so I wanted to make my bridesmaid proposal fun and interesting! I decided I wanted six BMs and while some might say that’s excessive (cough mum cough) I thought ya know what, it’s what I want. I love each of the girls in different ways and couldn’t imagine not having them to support me on my big day. 

    So I ordered six travel themed boxes from Amazon and filled them with little gifts. A bit over indulgent I know, but these girls may have to put up with a Bride With Attitude over the next few months, so they’re worth it! 

    So I put in some little bottles of gin with their names on, makeup, hand/face cream, candles, pencils, love heart sweets, a mug (which I took sharpies to), and some teal earrings. Teal is the colour I’ve chosen for the BMs dresses. I’ve basically said they can choose the style of the dress, they just need to be long (which they’ll appreciate in February) and in a shade of teal. 

    Thankfully all of them said Yes, I was just worried because one of the girls is a new friend. There’s only my cousin we’re unsure of because she lives in South Korea and doesn’t know if she can get back. We will find out when she gets her holiday schedule which will be in August so fingers crossed 🤞 

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  • New to thisNew to this Posts: 226 New bride

    Awh lovely proposal! 😍

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    The Venue

    So we knew we wanted to get married next year but originally the plan was for a summer wedding in the Peak District. It was at this point (and I feel guilty for saying it) that i really didn’t enjoy being engaged. When people asked to see my ring I felt all shy and awkward and didn’t really like the attention. I started to feel anxious and worried about planning! (I’m fine now though, those feelings do pass) I was up until 4 o clock in the morning getting completely lost in Pinterest, obsessing over everything. I’ve never googled something so much in my entire life. Every venue I looked at just seemed blah. The ones I did like didn’t have any Saturdays for the next year or any dates in a school holiday (we know lots of teachers). 

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    Anyway, I digress. So whilst I’m having yet another search while Mat lays sleeping next to me, I stumble across a barn venue. It looks pretty and lovely and i email them but they have no dates. Damn. But I can now specify my search to barn venues. Then I found the one!

    Rivington Hall Barn baby! 

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    When they said they had no more Saturday’s left for 2019 I wasn’t surprised, cause they look awesome. So I asked about school holidays. The only date they had which would suit everyone was 22nd of Feb. Did we want a February wedding? That’s so soon. Is it enough time? What if it snows? Will people be willing to get there? Family weren’t impressed. It’s in Bolton. That’s almost two hours away from where we live. No matter what I said people weren’t convinced. So we had to see it. 

    So on March 21st me, Mat, my mum and my maid of honour visited the venue. I fell in love with it. Mat turned on his sales pitch and asked all the logical questions. You could tell mums mind eased a little. MOH loved it so much. It was the one. So we’ve put the deposit down and booked it! 

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    There’s plenty of hotels in the area so we are making sure we provide details of accommodation with the save the dates so people have plenty of time to plan. I’ve put all details on my wedding website which I had sooo much fun making. I can highly recommend creating your own on gettingmarried.co.uk if you haven’t already. 

     

  • DandelionBlueDandelionBlue Posts: 1,381 New bride

    Hey there. I got really excited when I read the title of your planning thread. I love a travel themed wedding.

    Your engagement story is so cute. I laughed at the song choice no women no cry. And I also eat like a six-year-old and get sauce all over myself.

    Your barn venue is beautiful!!!

    I cannot wait to read more

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    DandelionBlue
    thank you 😗😗😗 I’m glad you like the barn! And tht I have a fellow messy eater haha. I will have a read of your planning thread now! 

     

  • ruthie1979ruthie1979 Posts: 794

    Yayyy LOVE your proposal and the fact you are having a travel themed wedding - we do love our trips/travels.

    Rivington Hall Barn is stunning! Will be a beautiful wedding. (are you local to Bolton?) 

    Can't wait to read more xxx

  • Elz2017Elz2017 Posts: 316
    Charleah wrote (see post):

    The Venue

    So we knew we wanted to get married next year but originally the plan was for a summer wedding in the Peak District. It was at this point (and I feel guilty for saying it) that i really didn’t enjoy being engaged. When people asked to see my ring I felt all shy and awkward and didn’t really like the attention. I started to feel anxious and worried about planning! (I’m fine now though, those feelings do pass) 

     

    This with bells on - I was like this (still am to some extent!) For me it was like I felt immediately over the top for being excited to be engaged and planning the wedding, so was forcing myself to be shy and blase about it. Kind of got over it but still feel a bit of a tit.

    Your venue looks STUNNING by the way, and three hours is no travel time at all (says the girl whose guests have to get a plane, then train, then ferry.  )

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    ruthie1979 
    Thank you! I live in barnsley, so no not local, we just loved the venue! we’re hoping it won’t be too far for people to travel to! X
  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    Elz2017 wrote (see post):
    Charleah wrote (see post):

    The Venue

    So we knew we wanted to get married next year but originally the plan was for a summer wedding in the Peak District. It was at this point (and I feel guilty for saying it) that i really didn’t enjoy being engaged. When people asked to see my ring I felt all shy and awkward and didn’t really like the attention. I started to feel anxious and worried about planning! (I’m fine now though, those feelings do pass) 

     

    This with bells on - I was like this (still am to some extent!) For me it was like I felt immediately over the top for being excited to be engaged and planning the wedding, so was forcing myself to be shy and blase about it. Kind of got over it but still feel a bit of a tit.

    Your venue looks STUNNING by the way, and three hours is no travel time at all (says the girl whose guests have to get a plane, then train, then ferry.  )

    Omgosh im glad I’m not the only one who felt that way! I do still feel a bit freaked out a bit by it, but writing it all down has helped! glad you like the venue, it’s so pretty! just remehere’s where you’re getting married! yep! You’re further haha

  • britbirdbritbird Posts: 1,486 New bride

    Beautiful venue.  And another hands up for the messy eating.  I am actually having a special Bride bib made for my wedding day!  Look forward to hearing more,  

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    britbird 
    Thank you 😊 your foodie wedding sounds amazing! 

     

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride

    Havent really got anything much to update on really but eager to write so I’ll just mention a couple of things I’ve sorted! 

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    Addressed all our save the dates last night, whilst binge watching friends and simultaneously binging on Maltesers! I felt bad this morning when I imagined squeezing my fat ass into my wedding dress, so I spent a poor 30 minutes doing a resistance band workout. Why can’t I just naturally have a body like Beyoncé’s?

    Anyway..speaking of wedding dresses..I’VE GOT AN APPOINTMENT! 🎉

    I get to look at the new range of Italian designer Eddy K dresses and I’m soooo excited cause they are all so beautiful 😍 if any of you brides are still looking you should definitely have a gander at their 2019 collection. 

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    Also I’ve managed to get 4 out of 6 bridesmaids to go dress shopping together in one place which is quite organised on my part. I want them all to have different styles though, so I’m just gonna chill while they try some on and do the “ooo, aaaaa“ bit obviously. 

    AND I’ve got a dj AND I’ve got a VW beetle to get me and my papa to the venue which is super cute. 

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    I think that’s everything...for now ;) 

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride

    Love this thread and the travel theme! What a lovely proposal too, I love the photo booth pics!

    We also get told we're away more than we're at home and love travel! I was cabin crew and we did long distance so the first 2.5 years of our relationship were basically spent having city breaks together, and are now getting married in Italy. I will definitely be nosing for some inspiration here as I want to include some little nods to travel throughout but you're clearly wayyyyy more organised and inspired than I currently am! 

    Also love the colour of that VW camper! So cute!

  • CharleahCharleah Posts: 248 New bride
    Ashley72
    ah thank you ☺️ I would have loved to get married in Italy! Are you having a big wedding? the main reason we Have stayed UK and having it so soon is so my grandma can be there though. im never usually organised, I think because I’m having fun planning, im just putting all my energy into it! X
  • Barbie3Barbie3 Posts: 340 New bride

    greay save the dates! Are u or hubby2be American?

  • Ashley72Ashley72 Posts: 1,137 New bride
    Charleah wrote (see post):
    Ashley72
    ah thank you ☺️ I would have loved to get married in Italy! Are you having a big wedding? the main reason we Have stayed UK and having it so soon is so my grandma can be there though. im never usually organised, I think because I’m having fun planning, im just putting all my energy into it! X

     

    Fairly big - we had a shock of 137 on the list when we wrote everyone down to send out save the dates but I'm hoping for under 100 to be honest. I had a bit of a breakdown as I'd been telling everyone "oh about 70-80 people" when my fiance made me realise that our smallish families plus bridal party and partners alone came to more than that! Ha. My dream destination would have been South Africa or Bali but we've got older relatives and it's just too much to ask people to travel all that way. Although now I'm looking at costs going a bit further afield and having a few more people not able to make it might not have been such a bad thing haha!

    I saw Not on the High Street do these super cute vintage suitcase favour boxes - made me think of you because of the vintage camper etc. They weren't too pricey either. My fiance no-no'd the idea but they're super cute if you're doing sweets or that kind of favour!

  • Elz2017Elz2017 Posts: 316

    Very cool save the dates! What's your dj going to be playing then, any particular style or are you going full wedding cheese?

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