What Am I Doing?! - April 2020

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  • MrsW2020MrsW2020 Posts: 222 New bride
    Oh love the greenhouse! Can't wait to see what you do with it but I think it would be lovely even as it is! I wish we had a Home Sense but for now I make do with the home section of the local TK Maxx (which to be fair is quite decent)
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    Just popped in to say that we spent 3 hours on Saturday driving to a christening, stayed overnight in a Travelodge and spent 3 hours yesterday driving back...and we are doing similar for a wedding in September - 2 hour drive each way and overnight stay - and it really is no biggie! Love the greenhouse, maybe some vinyl transfers are the way to go to personalise it?
  • Don't know how I haven't seen your thread before? Spent the last few days binging on it in every bit of free time I have! 

    I'm loving all your plans, I really feel for you with how much stress you've had with the venue etc. but it seems like things are getting better for you! 

  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    edited 2 April
    Thanks @MrsW2020 its the first time id ever seen a Home Sense, and as a HUGE TK Maxx fan i was in my element!! 

    @MrsCToBee thats really comforting thank you! I think you're right, i might try and find some in a different font to the usual though, or i might try acrylic painting it on myself! If i worked opposite a Home Sense i don't think id ever go back after my lunch break haha! I LOVE stores with just loads of odd bits. 

    Aw thank you @FutureMrsTomlin well done for getting through all my ramblings!! Things do feel like they're on the up. the venue has an open evening tonight for couples that have booked so we're taking the opportunity to show M's parents around. They're really keen to be involved (but not in a pushy way) and i think everyone's starting to feel a little more excited now which is lovely. 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    edited 3 April
    Hair and Make Up

    I feel like I've been looking into this forever, and its honestly the one thing I've really just decided i cant be arsed to keep looking into. I follow loads on social media, and I've been back and forth with different routes. Do i have one person to do both hair and makeup? Or a separate person that's a specialist in their field? Do i pay someone to travel a bit but they're a bit cheaper? Who's having a trial? Hows even having what done? 

    urgh

    I know I shouldn't have that attitude but you know when you've looked at so many options and you just cant tell whats left and right anymore? 

    I just want to look nice and feel confident on the day. I was getting quite hung up on making sure whoever i hired can deal with my oily skin and potentially cover some scars, but at the end of the day its their job and i have to just have faith my research means i'm not making a mistake. Its just analysis paralysis. 

    I have found someone who has actually done the makeup a few weeks back for an old school friend, and she looked brilliant which is a plus! She gave fab feedback when i asked how it was, so i think i'm going to go with this person. Heres some examples of her work: 
    mj-wedding-summerlilystudio-36
    jandj-summerlilystudio-84

    I've been looking at the prices, and based on me, my mum, maid of honour and 1 bridesmaid all having hair and make up, and 2 bridesmaids with only hair, inc a trial for me its £545. 

    I was a little shocked but i forget, its a lot of people and its a lot of work. I might change it so all the bridesmaids just have hair, and one of them is currently rocking a very short pixie cut so i'm not even sure they'll need that... but i of course don't want them to feel left out. 

    All in all it looks like it'll be in the region of £500-£545, does this seem reasonable for 6 people, one main artist and one assistant? 

    There was one other artist i really liked but i sent an enquiry asking for prices and she just sent back a link to her website, which isn't working, so i emailed back letting her know this and asking if she could send the actual prices and i heard nothing. I also messaged her on Facebook in case she didn't get emails and she has read that and not replied and its been a week now. I know our dates a year off but still, i just think its polite to reply when someone has asked something, especially when they have no other way of accessing the information themselves.

    Do you think its worth holding off booking in case i hear back from her? The other person keeps messaging me asking if i want to secure the date so i feel pressured to get it sorted. This would usually put me off to be honest but her work is really lovely and i assume shes just trying to get her own ducks in a row. 
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    These are my prices for 5 adults -I'm paying for all hair for everyone on the day but only I had a trial. Make up - we are all having a trial, but I'm only paying for myself and my mum - I basically said it was optional, and that if they wanted to do their own make up they could. They all chose to use the MUA.
    We have a separate hairdresser and make up artist coming, but they have worked together before. I'm in the London commuter belt and these ladies were probably middling price wise, there were some much more expensive.
    Make up (it's £390 total for 5 of us but I'm not paying for everybody)
    Bride £70
    Bridesmaid £45
    Mother of Bride/Groom £45

    Trials are:-
    Bride £40
    Bridesmaid £25
    Mother of Bride/Groom £25.

    Hair is £230 for me, 2 bridesmaids, and 2 mums, including my trial.


  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    If you have someone who seems reliable and keen, and is recommended by someone you know, over someone who doesn't reply to basic enquiries in a timely fashion, I'd just book the first personally.
    Our photographer is cheap but his communication is rubbish, and to be honest he's been the biggest annoyance apart from the guests in the wedding so far!
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    edited 3 April
    @MrsCToBee  thats really helpful thank you! Its comforting to know the prices i got aren't a million miles off. 

    I did find some cheaper but i cant lie, im not convinced by their work. 

    I might explore the idea of having the last 2 Bridesmaids decide if they want to pay for either, because im really not fussed about them having a look or anything, and i think my mum will likely offer to pay for herself and my sister but im not relying on it. 

    You make a very good point there!! Thank you. The less i have to chase anyone the better haha
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    @MrsCToBee  thats really helpful thank you! Its comforting to know the prices i got aren't a million miles off. 

    I did find some cheaper but i cant lie, im not convinced by their work. 

    I might explore the idea of having the last 2 Bridesmaids decide if they want to pay for either, because im really not fussed about them having a look or anything, and i think my mum will likely offer to pay for herself and my sister but im not relying on it. 

    You make a very good point there!! Thank you. The less i have to chase anyone the better haha
    My friend used a much cheaper MUA for her wedding last year, and though the lady was lovely, the make up really wasn't to my taste at all and I think she literally booked her because she was cheap. It wasn't a great experience and so I went on recommendations and portfolio. I'd rather have done my own make up than have make up like I did as a bridesmaid last year tbh.
    Both times I've been a bridesmaid for friends they have paid for hair and we've been responsible for doing our own make up or paying the MUA ourselves - I think it's pretty common.


  • @CoffeeDogAddict I’ve got my make up trial next week and I booked her because I loved her work And she’s so lovely and communicative.  Im only paying for myself and mum as im like you and don’t NEED my maids to have it done if the don’t wish to.  I have one really funny about her skin so It’s a lot if she’s going to wipe it off as soon as she can. shes £65 for me and £40 for mum, my hair is by a different girl and she’s £65 for me and £35 each bridesmaid and she’s not charging much for mum as she’s only got very short hair! 

    I think its about who you gel with, if you like the make up that your friend recommended I would go with her, if the other girl hasn’t replied after  week I wouldn’t bother, no one is THAT busy 😊
  • GinAndBlingGinAndBling Posts: 1,311 New bride
    Just caught up! The greenhouse is really cute. 

    For hair and makeup that seems pretty standard. I’m paying similar for hair and make up for 6 of us (including trials for mum, sister and I). I found a few cheaper but I wasn’t a fan of the photos she put on social media. My theory is the pictures on Instagram/ Facebook are meant to be the ones they are most proud of. If you don’t like those what are the rest like 🤦🏻‍♀️

    The make up in the second photo is gorgeous.
    Our planning thread: We're completely winging it.
    Our report: A fun, classic May day in navy and blush
    My weightloss thread: Diet denial! 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Thank you! I'm eager to book now, but me being me i sent her a bunch of questions so i think i've probably put her off working with me! 
    fingers crossed she gets back to me soon, she had been quick with replies usually and then i can breathe a sigh of relief. 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    edited 5 April

    I can't believe we're almost 11 months in, and only have one year to go!! It all felt so far away but I'm just so excited today ❤️

    (Also not gonna pretend like I didn't get really confused why it said 366- took me far too long to realise next year is a leap year haha)
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    Yay the 1 year countdown has begun for you!!!
    We have gone from 2 1/2 years to 4 1/2 months in the blink of an eye!
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Thank you @MrsCToBee ! Thats equal parts scary and comforting haha, i've really enjoyed having the time to procrastinate but i think i'm going to have to rein it in now! I really hope you do a report, it would be lovely to see it all!
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    Thank you @MrsCToBee ! Thats equal parts scary and comforting haha, i've really enjoyed having the time to procrastinate but i think i'm going to have to rein it in now! I really hope you do a report, it would be lovely to see it all!
    I might do a short one, we'll see! As soon as the 1 year point came everything seemed to ramp up a bit, and since we got into our actual wedding year things are much busier and every couple of weeks there is something going on wedding wise!
  • Red_LHRed_LH Posts: 21 New bride
    I had the same worry about oily skin, got some great advice from my makeup artist who told me to try some different foundations, one of them being NARS so i went to the counter and got some tips about how to stop makeup sliding off when you have oily skin.  I've actually bought a NARS foundation for the wedding that does not budge at all and  has no SPF so you don't get that washed out look form a flash on camera. I will get her to put it on when shes doing my makeup but I've got it for after that and its so good I couldn't not invest. 

    As for finding people i found my photographer kept tagging people in her photos who had done the brides makeup and hair and i had a list of a few that were exactly the kind of look I wanted. I've booked separately though. Its one of the more difficult things to book because hair and makeup is such a personal choice and my fear was if it wasn't right I just wouldn't feel myself on the day!!



  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Thanks @lucy414 for the tips! I might check out a few counters and see what they say. 

    I know im probably being a bit paranoid but the make up artist i really liked hasnt replied to my last questions, which i know was a fair few, but shes been online a lot since. I messaged her to say as long as the bits i mentioned were alright then i can send over the deposit tomorrow so we will see what she says! I always worry i come across as hard work and put people off. 
  • Red_LHRed_LH Posts: 21 New bride
    firstly its your wedding so it has to be right and second of all you are paying fora service, its not like they are doing it for free so I would not worry about being hard work at all, if they do wedding makeup she'll be used to it. I bet every bride has about 1,000 questions. I've come across a few suppliers like that when booking things and I have to say on a couple of occasions I've just left it and moved on to a different supplier, if you really love her work then maybe give her until next week to reply? 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Youre right, thank you. 
    I think i will, i do really love her stuff and im sure shes just got a lot going on, im just a bit neurotic haha. 
    I think ill start looking more closely at my Plan B's and get in touch with them to see, at least im not putting all my eggs in one basket then. 
  • MrsW2020MrsW2020 Posts: 222 New bride
    Ahh happy 1 year to go!!

    I think @lucy414 is right, it's totally fine for you to ask questions. At the end of the day you're paying for a service and it's only fair for you to know exactly what you're paying for before you commit. Perhaps she has a wedding today and that's why she hasn't answered? Wedding season is kicking in and Friday weddings are pretty popular!
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Thats a good point! I know im so highly strung haha so im going to give her this week to come back to me, but i do find it odd to ignore a message from someone asking to pay a deposit, but is posting on stories and stuff....

    (can you tell that im quite demanding yet :D

    That's one thing i must admit, this whole process has really helped with, i've realised sometimes its best to just take chill pill and just stop being SO highly strung. 

    We sat and had a good look at the wedding budget yesterday, i think its the first time we had looked at it together for a good 6 months!! 
    M's only contributions were to change the "gift for the bride" to £2.50 and question why flowers cost so much..... its like he wasn't even there for the other quotes we got! He's adamant we can buy a load from the local supermarket and it'll be fine, which sure for the tables it will be, but i know ill be the one stuck sorting them the day before! 

    All in all things are just ticking over smoothly. I'm at that point where i'm trying to think about the little details, but without getting sucked into feeling like we all need robes and hangers with our names on! I have nothing against that stuff, but being on a budget i just really want to make sure everything we spend money on adds value to the day, either in use or enjoyment. 
  • MrsA-NToBeMrsA-NToBe Posts: 205 New bride
    Tad late to the party, but wanted to share my 2p in about hair and make up after our trial. I'd looked at hair people a lot cheaper than the lady I've gone with in the end but realised at the trial how much her expertise are worth the price! She knew exactly how to do what we wanted and completely got us! She also spoke about all these sorts of products she can use to hold it in place but then also not if you need to move it and I felt a lot more confident knowing that she'd do a good job on the day and I'd like what I looked like as opposed to another lady I'd spoken to who was an awful lot cheaper but didn't seem to know anywhere near as much! There's a lot to be said for reducing stress on the morning and if you're confident that they'll be able to get on with it without you having to worry, it's probably worth a few extra pounds. 
    I've also said to the bridesmaids that there will be a make up artist there and so if they want it, they can pay, but in return, they can have what they like - as long as there's no garish colours! Which I hoped was fair. 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    @MrsA-NToBe thats really helpful thank you! I do agree, i'm always the type of person that looks for the cheapest, but very easily forgets about getting the most for my money. 
    Having had time to re think it i think i might look for one hair person and one make up person and see what i can find. 
    I know its so silly but i feel like that has been the hardest part! I have such low confidence and im so worried about not liking the look or feeling like im caked in make up. 
    I have started toying with the idea of doing the make up myself, but i like the idea of being a bit pampered! 
  • MrsA-NToBeMrsA-NToBe Posts: 205 New bride
    Absolutely with you! Its been having my Mum and MOH help with the process when I've said 'maybe we can do it ourselves' they've come back with, yes but how stressful is that going to be and do you actually know what you'd be doing. The answer is normally very and no and the decision is made! 
    Thats what we've gone for, one for each and then they can be working on people at the same time which will save you time in the morning too. 
    Not silly at all, it's your wedding day, you want to look the best you've ever looked and that's important. I knew I'd have to have a make up person because I could never have done anywhere near the job that they will as I'm not the best. But if you could do it yourself, it would save money... although to just sit there and have someone else do it for you, does sound good!! 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    Just a little note to say were off to give notice tomorrow <3  
    Very excited and it makes it all feel a bit more serious! (As in - maybe other people will start to realise it IS actually happening) 
    Then off we go for a lovely weekend camping with doggo!
    <3<3<3
  • MrsCToBeeMrsCToBee Posts: 2,942 New bride
    Just a little note to say were off to give notice tomorrow <3  
    Very excited and it makes it all feel a bit more serious! (As in - maybe other people will start to realise it IS actually happening) 
    Then off we go for a lovely weekend camping with doggo!
    <3<3<3
    Sounds fab, enjoy!!!
  • Eeeek! Happy giving notice day! That’s so exciting 😍😍

    i second what others have said about your make up, I’m a total fuss pot and wanted to look natural and not caked on but also wanted it on thick, and I wanted glam but not OTT, wanted big lashes but not TOO big etc etc but she was so so patient and asked me lots of questions during my trial about the colours I normally wore, how I did my eyebrows etc so I didn’t look like an alien.  Definitely have a chat with lots of different ones and if you’re not happy with a trial there’s no harm in not booking them or going with someone else.  You want to feel a million dollars! 
  • GinAndBlingGinAndBling Posts: 1,311 New bride
    Enjoy!!  
    Our planning thread: We're completely winging it.
    Our report: A fun, classic May day in navy and blush
    My weightloss thread: Diet denial! 
  • CoffeeDogAddictCoffeeDogAddict Posts: 1,270 New bride
    edited 16 April
    If anyone ever suggests going camping on the Norfolk coast in April - don't go! We had -2 one night, the next day went from as bright 14 degrees to snowing in minutes, and we woke up on the last morning to find our tent was no longer waterproof.... 

    Still, it was lovely to get some time away together and enjoy the peace and quiet! 

    Giving notice was really simple and apparently we were their first 2020 couple! We only got it out the way because the booking with the registrar said we had to do it in a particular 2 week period to keep the booking, but its good to tick something off! 

    By the time we returned home yesterday we already had our ceremony booklet from the registrars doing the ceremony, but i cant seem to see anywhere in it where you can select the legal vows, but then add your own.  Any advice or should i just give them a call to check. We don't want a bunch but want to write a few bits to each other from the heart. 

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