I don’t think so, the whole reason you go for a meeting is to get a personalised quote, being given a stock answer isn’t helpful. Is it time to try and find someone else?
Thanks @MrsCToBee, initially we were a bit worried it was too plain and boring but all the flavours are great so we figured a good basic is way better than a lacklustre extra.
We had another florist appointment at the weekend which went really well! She had taken the time to make up a Pinterest board to go through, and went into such detail it was really impressive. She also said if the quote comes in too high to just let her know, as she would always rather swap out flowers where she can and make adjustments instead of us cutting things out which is really comforting. I know its all business but she does seem invested in making sure everything is right and we don't end up cutting things out that we may regret just because of pricing. She also said we will definitely have our quote by Sunday which is really comforting! We STILL haven't heard anything from the other florists, and i understand its the busy time of year i really do, but 5 weeks is a long time, and i cant help but think if they'd got it to us sooner then it wouldn't have quite been the wedding season yet... We have also decided on the wedding website were going to use, so its Ms job to format that and get it all up and running.We've still got to decide on a videographer (if were going to bite the bullet and do it) but we're just waiting for her to release footage of a recent wedding at our venue. Also need to look into a cake but this isn't urgent or a big deal for us at all as it will be a cute little 1 tier standard kind of cake. We don't even really care what flavour it is!Next on the list is trying to get an idea for Decor, im struggling a bit with the ceremony room because an arch just isnt going to work like i thought it would, and the point to hang things from feels a bit low, its just under halfway down the wall. Its quite fun being on to these things though, and i have found my anxiety settling a bit. I am still feeling a little sad about my "bridal experience" because no one close to me is particularly bothered about doing anything to make me feel a bit special, but its ok because honestly i'll probably just arrange some things that make me feel nice. Out of all of my 3 bridesmaids, i planned hen do's for two of them and a 30th birthday trip away for another one, but none of them have shown any interest in planning a hen do for me at all. One (whos hen i planned) even said "if you don't plan your hen soon you'll end up not having one". I'm thinking a few spa days (one with mums one with younger family probably, FSIL ect) and nice meals out, that'll do me just fine. M on the other hand is getting quite nervous/excited for his stag! His brother is meant to be planning it but seeing as he's now buying a house and he isn't the most organised at the best of times i think it'll be a team effort. Some of his friends keep joking about drinks and a strip club.....as if its never been done before They live in a busy city too so it isn't like they cant go to a strip club whenever they want! It is lovely just switching the focus on those who do want to celebrate and enjoy the time with us, that's all that matters at the end of the day.
Thanks @MrsCToBee i like that phrasing! To be honest though i don't know how much i can be bothered. My sister is the MOH so i know it falls to her, and i honestly never expected her to do it because its just not her thing. She hates going out, events, large groups of people, people she doesn't know, so its her worst nightmare. I did think my other friend would take over as last year when i did hers she kept going "i cant wait til i get to plan yours"... so i don't know what changed. After the comments from my other bridesmaid i think id rather just sort my own things with people that want to actually be there and enjoy it. She made out like it was such effort that i don't see the point in spending anything (time/money/effort) on an event where people don't really actually want to be there (by people i mean her really). To be honest i don't really have many friends, so most of the people that i would invite are people i know through her anyway so i'm just not that bothered. My other BMs aren't really in a position either, ones a uni student and the others just had her first baby and is a MOH in September to someone so they just all have a lot going on. It's hard, when i was in a bridal party i had a hard time with it and always felt like it was thankless, but that's mostly down to the bride i guess. I wouldn't ever want anyone to be in a position where they feel stressed out or put out because of my wedding, its just more the sad realisation that i put so much into my relationships with other people but no one seems that willing to do anything nice for me. That's a whole different issue that isn't really wedding related though.