I agree with @MrsCToBee it is totally their job to plan your hen. I was in a similar situation and I felt really sad that no one except my mum seemed bothered, I tend to get really anxious about upsetting people and I was fully prepared to plan my own hen- however I spoke to two of my bridesmaids (I don’t have a chief which was my mistake) and just said how I felt and they did pull their finger out! Maybe just be honest? You don’t need to upset anyone but just ask who’s in charge of the hen as you’ve got a couple of ideas you want to run past them? There’s still loads of time so don’t worry too much xxx
Just caught up with your thread and I just wanted to say I LOVE the straps you're thinking about adding to your dress!
Thank you @MrsCToBee , i'm sure it'll pass soon, hopefully after a bit of a break from things x