Seems like people are agreeing post-food and pre-dancing, sounds sensible to me! It will partly depend on the weather so I think that's a good plan for now and I'll see how it goes on the day.
What a terrible problem to have, two beautiful dresses
I’ve just binged read this entire thread and I’m in love! With everything from the tipis, to the food, the decorations, your dress - it all basically!
We were thinking of going for a marquee (traditional vintage one) but I’m very worried about the weather rain and cold - have you taken any provisions for this? If so what are they As I’m looking for some ideas/ confidence that it wont be a disaster and to just book it! X
Thanks so much
We're trying to work that out at the moment, we're hopeful as it's August! But the good thing about the tipis is that they have a contraption at the top which is supposed to help control the temperature; I don't really understand how it works but it's supposed to keep the temperature somewhere in the middle. I'm not sure how that will work with a marquee, what time of year will yours be? The tipis are waterproof, as is the flooring, and we'll have a waterproof walkway from the entrance to the garden to the tipi entrance.
I'm going to look into some heaters, but I'm really hoping based on this summer it shouldn't be TOO cold.. If it's looking rubbish hopefully we'll have found a potential heating option and I'll go and buy lots of fluffy blankets from somewhere cheap!
We are due to be the 14th September and during the day seems fine but it’s just the evening. We can have a heater added but it’s an extra £260! Which is hefty chunk to the budget. Yes someone suggested blankets to me too. Thanks for your reply x
I've been super busy so haven't really had any progression in wedding olanning, but I've been doing some Pinterest browsing, about photography and cake mostly.
The great think about knowing the photographer berorehand is that I can WhatsApp her things I find. I'm currently loving double exposure wedding shots (most of these are Photoshopped not true double exposure but they're beautiful!):
There are so many that I love, so I'd like to have some like that as well as some more normal ones; I think it reflects the creative side of us 😁.
The other thing I've been looking at is cakes. I'm not 100 percent sure how it's going to come together but these are my current obsessions (most of them are from this amazing cake artist I found on Instagram, @donttellcharles)
Basically gold leaf and that kind of paint effect buttercream and some sort of extravagant arty flowers (plus I want some sprays and bees added) it's definitely not going to be subtle..
Also. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO CHOOSE MUSIC FOR WALKING DOWN THE AISLE?!?! It's probably partly because I'm a musician and almost everyone at the wedding will be musical, so I feel a bit of pressure about what I choose. It needs to be for solo piano and it's hard to find something that is reflective of our musical taste but also wedding appropriate. Gahhhhh!
So on Friday I am going to see the bridesmaid who will be doing my makeup to experiment a bit! She's not a professional but she's really good and she knows me so well so I know I won't end up looking nothing like myself! I'm not very decided about anything except that Ralph wants me to look like me, so no extreme contouring or anything drastic.
I'm not decided about lipstick.. some people have said I should have neutral lips as it's more bridal and I don't need to worry about it fading or smudging throughout the day, and I agree, but I just feel like me when I'm wearing a bold lipstick! I love it and have a range of colours. Ralph is being lovely and saying he just wants me to feel amazing so whatever I want; very sweet but not helping when my main concern is bowling him over!
Here are some pics of me with (and one without).
last one is without..
What do people think? I particularly love my deep red one and actually love it with ivory / cream. But is it a little over the top?
I think you have to have a deep red lip. It is stunning on you! You can keep the rest of your makeup fairly subtle then and still look like you but also look wow. There are some really good longwear options - there is a Maybelline dark red in their 24 hour range that you apply like a gloss/cream and then seal with a balm and it literally doesn’t budge. I think it would go especially well with the drama of your first dress.
Yeah I never wear heavy stuff on my eyes anyway so I think it makes sense to be more subtle and then have the bold lipstick!
It also brings a bit more colour into my outfit, and I'm just not a subtle, all-ivory person normally. The only other colour is my bright blue shoes, but they're hidden most of the time anyway.
A few small purchases before my makeup experimenting on Friday! I've never worn false lashes before, so got some cheap ones from boots and we're going to try them out and see how I feel . If I like it I'll get better ones for the actual day!
Also got a primer (I've been ordered to, never used it before because I just don't know what I'm doing with makeup!)- my foundation is also Urban Decay so I chose this one. Also got some nice eyeshadow, a kind of coppery gold and soft fold glitter, they look super pretty in light layers, subtle but glimmery .
And some nail polishes just coz I can't resist shiny things. Oops.
As it's quite a big room, I've been wondering how to decorate the ceremony hall. It's not the ideal space I would have chosen, and I think I'd have to do a lot to make much of a difference.. and I do want to personalise it in some way.
However a girl I know just got married I noticed this copper arch in the background with flowers/foliage in the pictures on Facebook and I thought it looked really beautiful. I'm not having lots of real flowers and foliage but I've looked around a bit and found this on etsy:
I love having the fringing hanging down and remembered a backdrop on Ginger Ray I really liked, so I'm now thinking of getting that copper stand, and this:
And hanging that down, along with some Papier mache flowers placed on in a similar way to these:
It would go where the table is in the top photo. I feel that will add a lot to the room without anything particularly complicated set-up?
And then after the wedding I'll repurpose it by growing some sort of creeper up it and hanging some art from it in the house, or as a rail for my evening gowns for my concerts. So it doesn't matter that it's a bit expensive, I'll definitely make use of it afterwards.
Yeah I know it's overly expensive, I am looking into doing it with plumbing pipes but I've never tried anything like that before, so I'm a bit nervous. But willing to try!
I love the copper pipe idea! Ive been thinking of something similar , just becase the back wall of the ceremony room is a plain white wall if you have any luck crafting one id be very keen to see!
Could you not buy just a standard hanging rail from Argos or Ikea, spray it copper, and just put the floral bits over the joins so it looks seamless? You can buy a cheap hanging rail for about 6 quid.
I can't remember who it was, but someone on here made a really good photobooth backdrop from a hanging rail.
I could, but I'd like something elegant that I can display proudly in the future, so I'd have to find one that I really like, so I will have a look. I like the idea of building my own.. my friend has built her own rails in her spare bedroom so I'm sure between us we could make a solid freestanding structure!
In other news, no makeup day today because I'm stuck in bed with an absolutely horrendous cold (which was bad yesterday but then I had a full evening chamber music recital and used up literally all remaining energy and so am now in full swamp-monster non-breathing blocked-sinusy state of self pity). So I'm browsing all things wedding on Pinterest and eating what's left of the cake I made for Ralph before he went away (chocolate, Chambord cream, chocolate buttercream and fresh raspberries- thinking this could be a good flavour for one of our wedding cake tiers hmmm) in bed, looking longingly at my new sparkly eyeshadows.
For reference.. On days like these wedding diet goes very much out of the window.
I thought it would be good to have a chocolate tier so I'm thinking we'll probably go with that!
When I'm feeling sorry for myself I always spend money.. oops.. but I was browsing Etsy and wanted up buying a new headpiece, to change into with my second dress. The one I have is quite subtle, and with the veil that's perfect but I wanted something with more oomph for the change so I ordered something that's very similar but a bigger and more dramatic version from TheWeddingBellsShop. If it arrives and it isn't as nice as I thought I'll just sell it on or something, it wasn't that expensive at all so it's not a disaster if it doesn't live up to expectations!
So it's a more dramatic version of the one I have, but I might even combine the two to make it even more 😁 we'll see.. this is what I have already:
Could be super amazing and sparkly twisted together, eeee!! Can't wait for it to arrive.
Someone asked me the other day if I'm having a garter and I don't know. I quite like the idea of one (partly coz I found a pretty one that I want), but certainly not for a traditional garter toss type situation; can't think of anything worse than Ralph retrieving that in front of everyone 😮.
I'd never seen or heard of a garter toss before this forum, and I've been to a lot of weddings! I really think it's a US thing. I'll probably wear one but there will be no garter toss - beyond tacky IMO.
Yeah I can't imagine anything more cring-worthy! I think I'll get the one I like, it's not too expensive so if I decide against it it's not the end of the world.
I’ve seen some really pretty garters so think I’ll get one but no way would do a garter toss. The thought of my parents and grandparents watching my husband put his head up my dress and take off underwear with his teeth makes me feel ill to be frank!
I’ve seen some really pretty garters so think I’ll get one but no way would do a garter toss. The thought of my parents and grandparents watching my husband put his head up my dress and take off underwear with his teeth makes me feel ill to be frank!
Yep exactly! To be honest the idea of ANYONE watching that makes me feel ew. I told H2B that's a tradition for some people and his horrified face said it all 😂.
I'm going to wear my sisters garter from her wedding, it has a little blue bow on it, so I have the option of it being something blue, or something borrowed or just a garter. I definitely wont be doing a garter toss, I've always found it weird thing to do in front of the whole family.
That's a really nice idea . Unfortunately I'm the first one in my generation of the family and of my friends to get married so I can't borrow one from one of them! I'm really hoping to find something like a ring or a brooch I can add to my bouquet as my something old and something borrowed, belonging to my mum or a grandmother. My shoes are my something blue (super bright intense irridescent something blue hehe) and most of what I have is new so they're covered.
Thanks I'm really thrilled for £30 something (35? 36? Something like that!).
I've rescheduled make-up session with my bridesmaid for Friday so I might take them then and we can experiment with my hair too, although it really needs a cut so it won't be exactly right but we can attempt anyway!
Hen party organiseration is starting super early as most of us are musicians and dates tend to get booked up really far in advance, and my MOH created a survey of different things like budget, dates, different activities people can say they like particularly or don't like, physical problems people have that would affect them being able to participate in things, dietry requirements, hard no's/fears etc.. she's doing a great job already and said she's going to plan a weekend of different activities so people who struggle a bit budget wise or really don't want to partake in something or aren't free for all of it can join in when they want which sounds great because it means my mum can dip in and out for the things that won't be too cringey. What she has suggested sounds fantastic and I'm so lucky to have her and all my lovely bridesmaids
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Seems like people are agreeing post-food and pre-dancing, sounds sensible to me! It will partly depend on the weather so I think that's a good plan for now and I'll see how it goes on the day.
What a terrible problem to have, two beautiful dresses
We are due to be the 14th September and during the day seems fine but it’s just the evening. We can have a heater added but it’s an extra £260! Which is hefty chunk to the budget. Yes someone suggested blankets to me too. Thanks for your reply
x
I've been super busy so haven't really had any progression in wedding olanning, but I've been doing some Pinterest browsing, about photography and cake mostly.
The great think about knowing the photographer berorehand is that I can WhatsApp her things I find. I'm currently loving double exposure wedding shots (most of these are Photoshopped not true double exposure but they're beautiful!):
There are so many that I love, so I'd like to have some like that as well as some more normal ones; I think it reflects the creative side of us 😁.
The other thing I've been looking at is cakes. I'm not 100 percent sure how it's going to come together but these are my current obsessions (most of them are from this amazing cake artist I found on Instagram, @donttellcharles)
Basically gold leaf and that kind of paint effect buttercream and some sort of extravagant arty flowers (plus I want some sprays and bees added) it's definitely not going to be subtle..
Also. WHY IS IT SO HARD TO CHOOSE MUSIC FOR WALKING DOWN THE AISLE?!?! It's probably partly because I'm a musician and almost everyone at the wedding will be musical, so I feel a bit of pressure about what I choose. It needs to be for solo piano and it's hard to find something that is reflective of our musical taste but also wedding appropriate. Gahhhhh!
So on Friday I am going to see the bridesmaid who will be doing my makeup to experiment a bit! She's not a professional but she's really good and she knows me so well so I know I won't end up looking nothing like myself! I'm not very decided about anything except that Ralph wants me to look like me, so no extreme contouring or anything drastic.
I'm not decided about lipstick.. some people have said I should have neutral lips as it's more bridal and I don't need to worry about it fading or smudging throughout the day, and I agree, but I just feel like me when I'm wearing a bold lipstick! I love it and have a range of colours. Ralph is being lovely and saying he just wants me to feel amazing so whatever I want; very sweet but not helping when my main concern is bowling him over!
Here are some pics of me with (and one without).
What do people think? I particularly love my deep red one and actually love it with ivory / cream. But is it a little over the top?
I think you have to have a deep red lip. It is stunning on you! You can keep the rest of your makeup fairly subtle then and still look like you but also look wow. There are some really good longwear options - there is a Maybelline dark red in their 24 hour range that you apply like a gloss/cream and then seal with a balm and it literally doesn’t budge. I think it would go especially well with the drama of your first dress.
Love the deep red lip! I’d definitelt go for it!
https://forum.youandyourwedding.co.uk/your-wedding-reports/486437-the-subtly-us-wedding-september-2018-report-p1.html
Thanks for responding both
Yeah I never wear heavy stuff on my eyes anyway so I think it makes sense to be more subtle and then have the bold lipstick!
It also brings a bit more colour into my outfit, and I'm just not a subtle, all-ivory person normally. The only other colour is my bright blue shoes, but they're hidden most of the time anyway.
A few small purchases before my makeup experimenting on Friday! I've never worn false lashes before, so got some cheap ones from boots and we're going to try them out and see how I feel . If I like it I'll get better ones for the actual day!
Also got a primer (I've been ordered to, never used it before because I just don't know what I'm doing with makeup!)- my foundation is also Urban Decay so I chose this one. Also got some nice eyeshadow, a kind of coppery gold and soft fold glitter, they look super pretty in light layers, subtle but glimmery
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And some nail polishes just coz I can't resist shiny things. Oops.
I'll post the results on Friday!
Ceremony decorations..
As it's quite a big room, I've been wondering how to decorate the ceremony hall. It's not the ideal space I would have chosen, and I think I'd have to do a lot to make much of a difference.. and I do want to personalise it in some way.
However a girl I know just got married I noticed this copper arch in the background with flowers/foliage in the pictures on Facebook and I thought it looked really beautiful. I'm not having lots of real flowers and foliage but I've looked around a bit and found this on etsy:
I love having the fringing hanging down and remembered a backdrop on Ginger Ray I really liked, so I'm now thinking of getting that copper stand, and this:
And hanging that down, along with some Papier mache flowers placed on in a similar way to these:
It would go where the table is in the top photo. I feel that will add a lot to the room without anything particularly complicated set-up?
And then after the wedding I'll repurpose it by growing some sort of creeper up it and hanging some art from it in the house, or as a rail for my evening gowns for my concerts. So it doesn't matter that it's a bit expensive, I'll definitely make use of it afterwards
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That looks fab!
You don't need to pay anywhere near that much for a copper frame though! Are you very crafty?
https://forum.youandyourwedding.co.uk/your-wedding-reports/486437-the-subtly-us-wedding-september-2018-report-p1.html
Yeah I know it's overly expensive, I am looking into doing it with plumbing pipes but I've never tried anything like that before, so I'm a bit nervous. But willing to try!
I love the copper pipe idea! Ive been thinking of something similar , just becase the back wall of the ceremony room is a plain white wall
if you have any luck crafting one id be very keen to see!
Could you not buy just a standard hanging rail from Argos or Ikea, spray it copper, and just put the floral bits over the joins so it looks seamless? You can buy a cheap hanging rail for about 6 quid.
I can't remember who it was, but someone on here made a really good photobooth backdrop from a hanging rail.
I could, but I'd like something elegant that I can display proudly in the future, so I'd have to find one that I really like, so I will have a look. I like the idea of building my own.. my friend has built her own rails in her spare bedroom so I'm sure between us we could make a solid freestanding structure!
In other news, no makeup day today because I'm stuck in bed with an absolutely horrendous cold (which was bad yesterday but then I had a full evening chamber music recital and used up literally all remaining energy and so am now in full swamp-monster non-breathing blocked-sinusy state of self pity). So I'm browsing all things wedding on Pinterest and eating what's left of the cake I made for Ralph before he went away (chocolate, Chambord cream, chocolate buttercream and fresh raspberries- thinking this could be a good flavour for one of our wedding cake tiers hmmm) in bed, looking longingly at my new sparkly eyeshadows.
For reference.. On days like these wedding diet goes very much out of the window.
Cake doesn't really go with lemsip.
(Sorry for the self indulgent rant!)
Sorry to hear you're not well. Cake sounds amazing and think it would make a great wedding option, would definitely be a crowd pleaser!
I thought it would be good to have a chocolate tier so I'm thinking we'll probably go with that!
When I'm feeling sorry for myself I always spend money.. oops.. but I was browsing Etsy and wanted up buying a new headpiece, to change into with my second dress. The one I have is quite subtle, and with the veil that's perfect but I wanted something with more oomph for the change so I ordered something that's very similar but a bigger and more dramatic version from TheWeddingBellsShop. If it arrives and it isn't as nice as I thought I'll just sell it on or something, it wasn't that expensive at all so it's not a disaster if it doesn't live up to expectations!
So it's a more dramatic version of the one I have, but I might even combine the two to make it even more 😁 we'll see.. this is what I have already:
Could be super amazing and sparkly twisted together, eeee!! Can't wait for it to arrive.
Someone asked me the other day if I'm having a garter and I don't know. I quite like the idea of one (partly coz I found a pretty one that I want), but certainly not for a traditional garter toss type situation; can't think of anything worse than Ralph retrieving that in front of everyone 😮
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Is anybody else having one?
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I think I will have one but definitely will not be doing a garter toss!
I'd never seen or heard of a garter toss before this forum, and I've been to a lot of weddings! I really think it's a US thing. I'll probably wear one but there will be no garter toss - beyond tacky IMO.
Yeah I can't imagine anything more cring-worthy! I think I'll get the one I like, it's not too expensive so if I decide against it it's not the end of the world.
I’ve seen some really pretty garters so think I’ll get one but no way would do a garter toss. The thought of my parents and grandparents watching my husband put his head up my dress and take off underwear with his teeth makes me feel ill to be frank!
Yep exactly! To be honest the idea of ANYONE watching that makes me feel ew. I told H2B that's a tradition for some people and his horrified face said it all 😂.
I'm going to wear my sisters garter from her wedding, it has a little blue bow on it, so I have the option of it being something blue, or something borrowed or just a garter. I definitely wont be doing a garter toss, I've always found it weird thing to do in front of the whole family.
That's a really nice idea
. Unfortunately I'm the first one in my generation of the family and of my friends to get married so I can't borrow one from one of them! I'm really hoping to find something like a ring or a brooch I can add to my bouquet as my something old and something borrowed, belonging to my mum or a grandmother. My shoes are my something blue (super bright intense irridescent something blue hehe) and most of what I have is new so they're covered.
My new headpiece arrived and I really wish my camera could capture how sparkly it is! 😍 I'm definitely going to try and combine them at some point .
Gotta love Etsy!
That is stunning!!! What a brilliant find! Please put photos up if you do combine them!
That's really pretty!
Thanks
I'm really thrilled for £30 something (35? 36? Something like that!).
I've rescheduled make-up session with my bridesmaid for Friday so I might take them then and we can experiment with my hair too, although it really needs a cut so it won't be exactly right but we can attempt anyway!
Hen party organiseration is starting super early as most of us are musicians and dates tend to get booked up really far in advance, and my MOH created a survey of different things like budget, dates, different activities people can say they like particularly or don't like, physical problems people have that would affect them being able to participate in things, dietry requirements, hard no's/fears etc.. she's doing a great job already and said she's going to plan a weekend of different activities so people who struggle a bit budget wise or really don't want to partake in something or aren't free for all of it can join in when they want
which sounds great because it means my mum can dip in and out for the things that won't be too cringey. What she has suggested sounds fantastic and I'm so lucky to have her and all my lovely bridesmaids 
Just caught up on everything! It all looks incredible - I am actually in love with the pom poms
The dark red lipstick looks stunning - I hope you go for it