Newcastle Wedding, November 2018
Although we are only 3 months off the wedding I thought I would start this because it would be great to look back on after the deed is done!
How we met
It was a good old fashioned swipe right (or left?? Can't remember now!) on Tinder!
I was living in Cumbria at the time and he was in Newcastle. He'd set his location to Newcastle only but I was in the middle of a trip in Ikea so must have temporarily flashed up on his phone! This was 1st October 2014.
Anyway, I we met on Tinder and straight away the bants were hilarious. And he was HOT. He was 30 and I was 32 but his birthday was a few days before we ended up having our first date (25th October) so I (very stalkerish and creepy I know!) got his a signed first edition copy of a George RR Martin book that was written in his year of birth - however, the bold move paid off and he loved it!
The reason it took us so long to have our first date is because I have two children from my previous relationship, they were only 8 and 10 at the time. I was obviously upfront about them from the very start and he had no obvious qualms about it, but in my head I was obviously thinking 'what 31 year old, childless single man want with a lady with two kids?'. Anyway, I got the train across to Newcastle on the Saturday night as the kids were at their dad's for the weekend and we had planned to meet for dinner and drinks. I want go into the details but I didn't end up going home until the Monday morning (ooops!) and we've together ever since!
We waited a few months before he met the kids and he took us all on a 'date'. He took us to have donuts for breakfast, along to an urban petting zoo, Seven Stories which is a children's book museum, for lunch and then the cinema! It was so sweet - he loved them straight away and, luckily, the feeling was mutual!
As we lived in Cumbria and he lived in Newcastle we spent the next 18 months commuting to see each other at weekends. At the 18 month point, my eldest had finished secondary school and was moving on to high school. She loved spending time in Newcastle as there was so much more to do so I decided to move across in the summer. I got a house for the three of us to live in (didn't want to push them too far and move in with a man they'd only known for a year and a half - also, he owns his own house, and he rented a few rooms out to pals) and transferred jobs.
After another year and a half of us living nearer, he was practically living at the house I was renting, and the people who he was renting rooms to both left in the same month so he asked us to move in. He asked the girls first, and it was a massive YES PLEASE from them!