Our 'super' sunny November wedding

I can’t believe that, after 2 years of planning, our wedding is now over.  It was honestly one of the best days of my life (and hopefully my new husband’s too!).  I want to create a wedding report because I enjoyed the day so much and we have the photos back already, but I never actually made a planning thread so here’s a little background before I get to the good bits (the pictures!). 

Our Story
In January 2010 I started a new job working in London.  It’s quite a large company and has its own café/bar.  Little was I to know this would be where I would meet my future husband.  At the time he was the Café Supervisor and the only time I would speak to him was when I went down there to get Snack-A-Jacks.  We never had a proper conversation until one fateful evening on the 9th September 2010.

Every year the company I work for has a summer party and the bar staff get invited to it as well.  It always starts in the afternoon and we didn’t start chatting until about 7-8pm so we were both more than a little tipsy!  We just happened to cross paths and he said “hi” to me.  I can’t remember what we spoke about but after about 20 minutes of talking my husband (still feels weird calling him that) asked if he could kiss me. Being tipsy I thought he might as well and said “yeah alright then”.

We spoke a little bit more and then decided to go home.  There was a tube station about 2 minutes away from the bar we were in but we were enjoying each other’s company so decided to go to the next one.  We came to it a little quicker than we thought we would so we decided to carry on walking.  On the way we walked near Trafalgar Square so I decided it would be nice to walk through it.  We ended up sitting on one of the fountains for about an hour which was when my husband asked me on a date.  I agreed and then we finally went our separate ways home.

It didn’t turn out to be quite so simple however.  The next day I was so embarrassed and hoped he would have forgotten the whole ‘date’ thing.  However he called me in the afternoon so I knew that meant he hadn’t!  I ignored his call and sent him a text saying I was busy with work (a huge lie, everyone was nursing a hangover) but would come down to the bar later.  When I eventually plucked up the courage to see him I told him that I didn’t want to date anyone from work.  He’s told me since that out of all the girls who have turned him down I hurt the most because he thought we’d clicked and made a connection.

I was still living with my parents at the time and over the weekend I told my mum about everything.  She told me to think about it and that work shouldn’t get in the way if I liked him, which I did.  I left it until Monday and went down to the bar to see if he still wanted to go on that date.  I chickened out though when there were other people ordering coffee so I sent him a text when I was on my way home instead.  Fortunately he did still want to so, on the 18th September, we went out for an interesting meal in Covent Garden (this will be explained in the rest of the wedding report) and that was the beginning of us image

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  • The engagement
    2012 was a big year for us.  We moved in together, got engaged and then my husband turned 30 (in that order).  In October we had a long weekend in New York.  This was going to be for my husband’s 30th but it was cheaper to go a couple of weeks before so we ended up going to Edinburgh for his birthday instead. 

    Anyway, on our first full day in New York I noticed that my husband was getting stressed out easily.  He’s one of the most laid back people that I know so I was really surprised by it.  Normally we’re the other way and he’s always telling me to relax. 

    The next day we’d decided to go to Central Park and my husband paid for a carriage ride.  He thought it would be really romantic, which it was in a way, but it was funny more than anything because we had this Irish driver who was pointing out film locations.  Pretty much everything was Home Alone 2! 

    After the carriage ride we went for a little walk through the park and found an area in the sun to sit down on the grass.  We’d done so much walking in the 2 days we’d been there that I was enjoying the rest.  After about 15 minutes or my husband stood up and kept saying he wanted to go.  I told him I wanted to stay there just a little longer but he was so insistent on me getting up.  I was a little annoyed but decided it would be easier to just go along with him rather than argue.  To my surprise when I stood up he got down on one knee with a ring and asked me to marry him!  I was in so much shock I didn’t really speak for the next couple of hours (apart from saying “yes” of course!) unless he spoke to me first.  For the rest of the trip my husband was back to his old self.  It turned out he was nervous about losing the ring but now I had it he was fine!

    After we got back we started to plan the wedding.  We knew it would need to be a relatively long engagement as we’d need to save up.  In December 2012 we booked the venue for 20th November 2014.

  • The week of the wedding
    We were getting married on a Thursday so decided to take the Monday-Wednesday off from work.  I thought there would be so much for us to sort out but there wasn’t at all really.  I suppose it was because we didn’t do as much DIY as other brides have done on here. 

    We were taking everything to the venue on the Monday so on Sunday night we sat down and finished making our favours.  We were making a hot chocolate kit so for the past few weeks we had been making chocolate spoons so put those into a cellophane bag with mini marshmallows and Cadburys hot chocolate sachets and tied them up with either blue or silver ribbon (our wedding colours).

    On the Monday we took all of our stuff to the venue and stopped off half way to pick up my wedding dress.  Everything started to feel real as soon as I got the dress out of the shop.  Leaving everything at the venue had me feeling worried because, even though I’d left instructions, I was worried about what they’d do with it all! 

    On Tuesday we picked up the suits.  The boys were going to be getting ready in our flat so we took them back to ours.  My husband had bought his suit so the only items he’d needed to hire were the tie and pocket square.  I’d left him to sort out the suits and thought he had ordered silver accessories for himself as the groomsmen would be wearing grey suits with blue ties and pocket squares.  It turned out he had gone for ivory and I was worried about how it would all look.  When we got home I made him try his suit on with it all and fortunately it looked fine.  I was on the edge of being bridezilla though!

    In the afternoon I went to get my nails done and I wasn’t alone because my husband came with me!!  I’d joked that the salon I was going to did male manicures and he turned round and said he wanted to have one.  He loves massages and being pampered to unsurprisingly he really enjoyed it.  We never had any pictures of our hands taken though which was the main reason he did it haha.

    Wednesday came round and I was so incredibly stressed with everything.  I hadn’t been sleeping very well so that might have contributed to it but I was getting so freaked out by any little thing!  I also heard from my cousin who told me that him and his family would be leaving early so wouldn’t be staying for the dinner and I flipped!  I was so upset and annoyed about it.  We had to contact the venue to let them know.  Fortunately this was the only slip up.

    In the afternoon we took all of our bits to the hotel where I would be staying.  We had an awesome room, I’m not sure I’ve ever stayed in a room with more than one toilet!  We then had dinner with my family, my husband’s mum, the best man and one of the ushers.  It was so much fun but I was really tired and getting a little annoyed because people kept ordering more drinks.  I didn’t want people to be hung over for the wedding!  My sister was staying the night in my room so we went up about 10pm but I heard the next day that the rest of my family stayed in the bar until gone 12am!

  • Because we were getting married midweek I was allowed to turn up to the venue at 10.30am.  At the weekend you can’t go there to get ready until 12pm so I was glad about that.  Our ceremony would take place at 3pm so it gave us plenty of time to get ready.

    Me, my mum and my sister got a taxi from the hotel and I phoned the venue to let them know that I was on my way.  They thought I was going there for a viewing.  "Erm, no.  I’m getting married!"  Here’s the venue:

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    Nonsuch Mansion in Cheam,  Surrey.  Choosing this venue was another reason why we waited 2 years to get married as it certainly didn’t come cheap!  But we just fell in love with it from the moment we stepped inside.  I honestly think our wedding wouldn’t have been anywhere near as good if we’d gone somewhere else because not only were the venue and the grounds beautiful, the staff were amazing as well.  Nothing was too big or too small for them to handle at all.

  • The florist was there already and was working on the flowers.  I saw a few vases but didn’t get to see everything until I came down to get married.

    There’s a room upstairs in the mansion where we all went to get ready.  Stephanie, our hairdresser, was in there waiting for us.  It was bizarre but after getting stressed out the day before I felt really calm but I didn’t know what to do with myself at all!  I wasn’t getting my hair done until 1pm and I didn’t want to do my make up too early.  My sister was the first to get her hair done.  My other 2 bridesmaids turned up not long after we’d got there. 

    At about 11am I realised that my wedding shoes weren’t in the room.  We’d taken them there on the Monday so I went on a hunt for them.  When I came out of the bridal suite I saw our photographers wandering around.  They weren’t supposed to be there until 12pm so I was surprised to see them.  They came into the room and started taking pictures of my dress, shoes etc. 

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    I forgot to mention earlier that my husband bought me a beautiful bracelet that he gave to me on Wednesday evening.  I love it so much and I wore it on the day.  I’d really struggled to find a bracelet at a decent price but he picked exactly what I’d wanted (if at a higher price than I would have gone for myself!).

     

  • After taking these pictures Sam, one of the photographers, left to go and join my husband and the groomsmen to take pictures of them as well.  We carried on and I was actually ready about 45 minutes before the ceremony!  I had no idea what to do with myself at all and we didn’t have the bouquets so I didn’t know what to do with my hands!  My dad came up at around 2.30 and shortly after we got the bouquets which were gorgeous!  I was so happy with them.  Even though we’d met up with our florist a few times and had plenty of in depth discussions about the flowers it was amazing to see them in real life.

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    I wore my husband's hoodie getting ready.  He'd sprayed it with my favourite aftershave image

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    My gorgeous bridesmaids!  

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    My dad image

    Sorry if there are too many pictures!  It's so hard to choose which ones to share!

     

     

     

  • HannahEWHannahEW Posts: 171

    Oh what completely GORGEOUS pictures - thank you for posting them. You look so radiant and happy. image xx

  • Mrs K!!Mrs K!! Posts: 664

    Gorgeous pictures!!! thanks so much for sharing!! Love the blue bm dresses too and the venue looks beautiful! Xx

  • Aw you look beautiful! And congratulations!! image

  • Sally3Sally3 Posts: 380

    Love your dress and I'm enjoying reading your report so far!

    The venue looks fantastic as well!

  • Thanks girls!  This is helping me to relive the day and ward away any post wedding blues haha.

     

    As I mentioned earlier, one of the photographers went to see the guys for some groom prep shots.  This is where the 'super' element of our wedding begins!  My husband is a massive Superman and superhero fan and he has a few items in our flat.  Our photographer used them for some of the photos.  Here are some of my faves image

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    My hubby getting ready.

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    The ivory tie!  It looked perfectly fine - nothing to worry about.

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    Hubby helping his brother, who was one of the ushers, get ready

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    I LOVE this picture so much because it looks like something out of a gangster film haha!  Apparently it was just taken in front of the window in our front room.

     

     

     

     

  • Once they were done the boys then headed off to Nonsuch and were there an hour before the ceremony.  They met my dad there and managed to persuade our wedding planner to open the bar for them and let them have a beer!

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    As soon as we'd decided on a blue theme my husband told me he wanted a blue suit.  We looked at hiring one but we couldn't find anywhere that did the right shade.  After a bit of internet searching we found an electric blue suit by Marc Wallace that was perfect.  It was a little expensive but I told my husband that it was his day as much as mine so he should be able to treat himself to the best suit he'd probably ever own, like my wedding dress will be the best dress that I'll ever have.  Unfortunately it was out of stock everywhere but we found this blue Ted Baker suit at Moss Bros. which we bought about a year before the wedding.

     

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    For the ceremony and dinner we laid a QPR shirt on one of the seats.  This was in memory of my husband's dad who sadly passed away in September this year.  We wanted to have something there to remember him by so made sure he still had a seat.

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    This is my dad with Helen, our wedding planner.  I love it because my dad isn't always great at posing for a photo but this one captures his natural smile.

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    The best man with my husband's other usher.

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    Standing outside with their beers!

    At about 2.30 the guests started to arrive.

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    I love this one of my cousin's son.

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    My husband's nephew.  We are going to get this one framed and give it to my brother in law and his wife for Christmas (hope they don't come on here and read this image)

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    I love this one of my mum.  Again it's a natural shot and she looks so beautiful.
  • My fiance is a Superman fan aswell image he'll have superman cufflinks and socks, im secretly adding the open shirt and Superman logo onto the back of our wedding cake and ive just bought a superman garter!!

  • I had a superman garter too image It was the only secret I had for on the day. Not that anyone apart from my mum, bridesmaids and hubby knew about it! 

  • Such beautiful photos! Everything looks so lovely image 

  • Thanks Little Jules!

    Right, we're up to the ceremony!  I was told to be ready for 2.30 but managed to be ready by 2.15 and was sitting around waiting to go and see the registrar.  I didn't go downstairs until 2.55 so it felt like I was in that little room forever and I was starting to get so nervous!

    When I could go see the registrar I was worried about walking down the stairs in my dress and heels!  Fortunately it was fine, I didn't fall thankfully!  I could hear music playing in the ceremony room, we chose songs from our favourite films to be the waiting music, and I just hoped that people had actually turned up haha.  Our registrar was lovely and really put me at ease when I went to speak to her.  I was worried about the sort of person we would get but she was really sweet.

    After my chat with the registrar was done it was time to make our way to the ceremony room!  We had to walk through the room where the guests would go after the ceremony and our cake was being set up, I practically screamed!!  Like the flowers it was pretty amazing to finally see our cake.  We had a 5 tier naked cake and were having it as the dessert with the wedding breakfast so it was being set up early as we would be cutting it earlier.

    ceremony time, finally!  My bridesmaids walked in ahead of me and then it was my turn!!  Helen, our wedding planner, told me and my dad that when we got to the doors we needed to stop so that she could fluff my dress up but my dad forgot and carried on walking into the room!!  I had to pull him back haha.

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    We had guests, yay!  One thing I remember thinking before the ceremony was that I didn't want to look sad!  When we watched the DVD of my brother-in-law's wedding they both looked so miserable!  Obviously they were looking upset because they were so emotional but I didn't want to look like that at all because I knew I wouldn't like the photos.  I felt myself start to well up when I saw my hubby for the first time but I was so happy I just couldn't stop smiling image

    During the service my husband kept forgetting the order of my middle names, despite the registrar reading my full name our for him (!) and my finger had swollen up so he struggled to get the ring on haha.  Apart from that it was all pretty much straightforward.  We didn't have any readings so it was short and sweet but a moment I'll treasure forever.

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  • I forgot to mention that I entered to Adele's version of Feel My Love.  During the signing of the register we had the acoustic version of Latch by Sam Smith and Better by Boyzone.

    We chose our witnesses ages ago.  I chose my brother as we're quite close but he lives in LA and I thought it would be a nice way to have him involved.  However each time I spoke to him about it on Skype he had forgotten about it and my mum had to remind him on the day!  My husband originally chose his dad (he was already ill but we'd hoped he would be there) but because he had passed away we had his mum instead.

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    Having your photo taken with the register is quite funny because they give you a fake one and ours had amusing names in it.  My cheeks hurt so much from smiling!  So many people took our picture and there were a few times when we thought it was over but someone else came along with their camera!

    While we were sitting there my husband told me he was hot and showed me what he was wearing underneath his shirt.  His best man had given him a vest with the Superman logo on it.  I thought it was a sweet gesture but no more than that.  Little was I to know what would happen in about 45 minutes time!  

    We were so lucky with the light.  We got married at 3pm and in the days leading up to the wedding it had already been dark by this time.  When the ceremony was over we left the room to Shine by Take That.  Because we knew we wouldn't have daylight for much longer we didn't have time to speak to our guests or have a drink but had to rush off with our photographers instead.  

  • When i read about the superman vest i immediately thought of this lol! 

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    I wanted it for my wedding but we dont have enough men in our wedding party so we aren't going to do it image

  • Haha all will be revealed in future posts!  All I will say is that the entire stag party was involved if that helps you guys out.

  • Speccy4eyesSpeccy4eyes Posts: 2,050

    My husband is a marvel fan, his groom box was full of marvel themed bits... He had marvel boxers abmnd iron man cufflinks on our day.... Men and superheroes lol

     

    We got married 29th Nov so I know what you mean about the light... We were very lucky with the weather too.... Just waiting for my pro shots so I can finish my report. Your pics are beautiful. I love the memorial seat for your father in law

  • Speccy, my husband is a Marvel fan too but Superman is his No.1!  I'm not sure who he loves more image  It's in the family though, earlier in the year we went to my brother-in-law's wedding and he had named the tables after superheroes.  Fortunately my husband didn't want to copy it!  

    So, after we were married and had left the ceremony room our photographers asked us if we were OK to go off for photos straight away.  I had one sip of winter Pimms (the drink we had served during our reception) and was ready to go outside but was suddenly inundated with people wanting to congratulate me!  I knew the light outside would fade fast so I just wanted to get outside.  I had to pretty much drag my husband away from everyone.  It would have been lovely to chat to everyone straight after the wedding but I'm very pleased with the photos we managed to get.  Here's a sample:

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    Because our venue is in the middle of a park and has a public cafe next to it, there were a few people walking around outside while we were having our photos taken.  There one, erm... unsavoury comment shouted at us but I was in such a good mood I didn't care and even found it funny.  

  • Speccy4eyesSpeccy4eyes Posts: 2,050

    We had our pics taken in public but thankfully everyone was really nice and congratulated us, even offered us advice........ 

    The pics are beautiful

  • Sally3Sally3 Posts: 380

    Lovely photos!

  • Thanks girls.  We received our photo album today as well so I'll be boring our families with that all over Christmas!  I just love the colours so much, especially from our Mr & Mrs shots.

    Speccy, it was a group of youngsters walking their dog who shouted out to us.  I just hope my mum didn't hear it haha!

    During the reception I only had one glass of winter Pimms.  I've never had it before but it was so nice!  I wish I could have had more of it but by the time the photos were over I think they were pretty much wrapping it up and I didn't want to get drunk!  My brother told me that he somehow managed to have 10 glasses because we had staff from the venue coming round and topping people up!!

  • Sally3Sally3 Posts: 380

    Was the comment funny or just rude?

    I had been wondering about mulled wine as our welcome drink but had never tasted it & still haven't got round to trying it so I think we will have to go for normal wine.

  • Hmmm...I didn't find it rude but other people might have if they get offended easily.  Let's just say it was something to do with our wedding night!!  My husband said it was something that people had started to shout out on live TV (like during the football transfers on Sky Sports News).  I've got no idea though!

  • Sally3Sally3 Posts: 380

    I've no idea either,lol! Oh well as long as it didn't cause offense.

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  • Continuing this thread on (sorry, have been ill and obviously it's been Christmas too!)....

    Once the Mr & Mrs shots were done we were able to get back to our guests and have some group shots.  The light was fading fast so we had to get everyone in and out of place quickly.

    With my parents:

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    OH with his mum (there is one of all 3 of us together but I look awful!):

     

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    My family (my mum has her eyes shut!):

     

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    When we were choosing our group photos my husband said he wanted one of him and his friends.  On the day it was the last group shot but the best man started rounding up everyone who had been on the stag do which included my dad, brother and my husband's brother as well.  I was walking away from the photo area but the best man asked me if I could come in for the 2nd photo and hold my husband's shirt open.  That was when it clicked that that was why he had given my husband the Superman t-shirt and it turned out the entire stag party had different superhero logos too!  Here's what our super hero themed photo looks like:

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  • After the group shots we could finally mingle with our guests and I managed to have a glass of winter Pimms.  Ours is the first wedding where all of my family have been able to make it so it was lovely being able to chat to relatives I hadn't seen for ages.

    One thing I did find amusing on the day was how people would clap and cheer at things that you do on a regular basis such as kissing, cutting a cake and entering a room.  It still makes me giggle just thinking about it.

    So, after about an hour or so of mingling it was time to cut the cake!  We were going to have it as dessert so needed to do it before the wedding breakfast.

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    We had a 5 tier naked cake with 2 different flavours, Victoria sponge and lime & coconut.  Our florist left some flowers behind to be used as decoration.

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    On top of our cake we had a little Superman figure (of course!) and an Ayupan (a figure of a Japanese singer I listen to).  

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  • After cutting the cake it was time for dinner and the first time we got to see the tables all laid out.  I was really amazed by our centre pieces, I still go on about them today!

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    Our tables were all named after locations in New York as we got engaged in Central Park.  For our favours we made hot chocolate kits.

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    A couple of people said they thought they were professionally made.  Whether they were just being polite or not I don't know but it made the hours we spent making the chocolate spoons and putting the bags together feel worth it!

    The food was absolutely stunning.  We had a Greek mezze platter to start and the main was piri piri chicken on top of a sweet potato mash with stem broccoli and kale.  Half way through my meal I had to ask my new sister-in-law to undo the back of my dress slightly as it was too tight to eat!  Dessert was the wedding cake but we had cans of squirty cream placed on every table which was a lot of fun!

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