An Autumn Woodland Rustic Wedding with a sprinkle of glitter…..

Well I got married two months ago now on 14th November 2014 and this forum has been a god send!  So much advice and such a lovely group of brides. 

How we met

I met my hubbie on the internet website 'Plenty Of Fish'.   I had been on that site for many years, met a few men but so many with commitment issues and I seemed to constantly attract that ones that just wanted a girl for a bit of fun.  I hadn't had any real serious relationships, I was early 30's and losing all hope of ever getting a serious boyfriend let alone married…..seemed impossible!  It was Easter 2012 and I had just been dumped by a guy from Plenty of Fish….well when I say dumped it was only a few dates but of course I was devastated…..bring on the dramatic tears and ice-cream!  The guy in question was from Windsor and we had one of our dates walking round Virginia Water Lake which I absolutely loved.  Whilst indulging in some self-pity I was doing a new search on the dating site hoping some attention would make me feel better.   I decided to do a search for guys in the Virginia Water area as the place was still on my mind……and there he was…..my future hubby….the man that would change my life.   My first email to him was saying how much I liked Virginia Water and apparently he almost didn't reply to me as he thought I might be a gold-digger as this is known for being an affluent area (sadly my hubby wasn't one of the affluent ones hehe).    Thankfully he did reply and from pretty early stages I knew this was going to be different.    After a few days of messages I had to go to a training course in Cambridge and we spend two evenings chatting non-stop on the phone.  About 2 weeks later we were arranging to meet - a pub right by Virginia Water Lake!  The first date was amazing and I remember texting my friend whilst he was in the loo saying 'I am in Love'.   After the meal we went to the lakeside as the sun was setting on a beautiful May evening and had our first kiss.  Was the most perfect first date I have ever had! And the rest as they say is history…….

 

Unfortunately Matt (hubby) lived in Surrey and I lived in Hertfordshire - an hour drive - and he didn't drive!!   After 6 months of dating we took the plunge and we rented a flat together in Ascot.   Even know I am shocked how quickly that all happened - I even had to sell a house to make the move and I am still now doing a hour drive to Watford each day for work…..the things we do for love !!!  

 

 

 

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    The Proposal 

    The following April we had discussed getting married so I knew it was coming but I was thinking it would be in May for our 1 year anniversary or my birthday.    Matt tends to be impatient and as soon as he has brought me something he has to give it to me …..birthday and christmas presents are usually always opened before the day…..so as soon as he got paid he got a ring and that night he wanted to do it.  

    I had a little suspicion something was going to happen.  Matt text me at work saying he wanted to have a mini-picnic at Virginia Water lake in the evening.   This part wasn't overly suspicious but when in the afternoon I said we may have to call if off as was raining and he said we can sit under a tree alarm bells rang.  I topped up my nail varnish just in case!   As soon as we got to the lake the rain stopped and the sun broke through for a beautiful sunset.  We were sitting on the same wooden carved log bench where we had our first kiss eating sandwiches.   Nothing was happening so starting to think I was overreacting….then he got up and started wondering around and he seemed like he was looking around to make sure no one was approaching…..eeeccck was this it!!!    "Can you pass me a Viennese Whirl" he says…..oh great he wants a cake…..no proposals!!!   I picked up the Viennese whirls and went to slide one out and out slid a little blue box!!!!!   I welled up instantly and there he was down on one knee.   The next part is a blur but I sure he said some lovely things about wanting to have me in his life forever etc etc…….OMG I was engaged !!!   

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    The Wedding

    Matt suffers from anxiety and panic attacks so his only request was that we don't have a big wedding.   Ideally he wanted just me and him and witnesses and just get it done and dusted but I knew I needed my big day!   We compromised and decided we would have a register office ceremony with just immediate family and really close friends and then a reception at a hotel with 50 guests.  At first I wanted more, especially to the ceremony as I wanted to make my big entrance, but looking back now it couldn't have been more perfect.  It made the ceremony feel more intimate and special and then I had another 'arrival' with confetti at the hotel with the rest of the guests.   We had about 54 people in the end and it was a great amount.  The room didn't feel too full but also didn't feel empty and we had time to talk to and socialise with everyone.  I was worried about no one dancing and having no atmosphere but the atmosphere was great and everyone seemed to have a great time. 

    We picked Stirrups Country House Hotel for the wedding reception and the venue helped to dictate the theme I already had in mind.   The function room has brick walls, fireplace, wooden beams and orange curtains……perfect for my Autumn Rustic Wedding,   I then also added woodland animals and glitter and the style couldn't have been more me (and him…sort of lol).  

     

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    My dress was from a great bridal shop called DaisyLove in Datchet.   I am a plus side bride and was really nervous about trying on dresses that wouldn't fit.   I was leaving getting my dress to the last minute due to these nerves so I am so glad I found this shop.   The great thing is with this shop is there is such a great selection for 16 plus figures….not just a few dresses to try on that they happened to have in larger sizes.   The sales assistant was great and was honest with me which I appreciated - when it looked hideous she told me (in a nice way!).   I went there looking for a lace dress with sleeves….my dress ended up being completely opposite…..what I though I wanted just didn't suit and my shape at all.   

    As soon as I tried on the dress I was smiling ear to ear…..this was it !!

     

    My dress….  

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    I wanted to do most of my wedding on a budget and do as many handmade DIY things myself as I could.   There were definitely some projects where I felt a little over my head…..especially as I am not good at asking for help!

    A few of my wedding budgets….

    Photographer £240.   This was a special deal as we where having a small wedding on a Friday.  This covered from registry office until we sat down at the wedding breakfast.  It may not have been the arty stylish shots you get with the expensive wedding photographers but I knew with Matts anxiety he wouldn't want to spent ages in a photoshoot - there may of even been a chance he wouldn't be up for any pictures.   For this cost we got 470 pictures and she got so many great shots of my wedding detail that I had worked hard on.   I then printed albums on vista print - more than happy with what we have.

    Cake - £169.   I didn't want to spend lots on a cake as I don't love cake and knew that I was going to be doing a sweet table as well.   The main reason for the cake was to look nice and to cut.   We ended up getting a plain 3 tier cake from a cake shop and then my sister made autumn leaves and I made our own cake topper.   I was proud of how it looked for what we spend. 

    3 Cars - £150.    We used a local luxury taxi company.  We got 2 mercedes and a 7 seater to take us the registry office and back to the hotel.  Again this was something I didn't want to spend lots on as there was a high chance it was going to be raining and no one would even see the cars.   We still had the ribbon on the main cars. 

    Wedding Favours.   I made these myself from Ikea tea lights (which I think came to about £15 for 60) and hessian ribbon.  The ribbon costs added up but I would still think I did all these for under £50. 

    Flowers.  A friend did these for me and I had my bouquet, 4 bridesmaid bouquets, 6 button holes and 14 filled jam jars for £140.

     

    I did splurge on certain things.  My tiara was £250, it was the tiara I tried on with my dress and I couldn't find anything else I liked as much so my hubbie got me this as a birthday present.  I stopped counting how much I spend on sweets for the candy bar….a lot of them never even made it to the table.     

     

    Owls

    I started looking out for any woodland creature props throughout the year - I had owls, squirrels, foxes and hedgehogs!  I still have these all round my house now.   I had a crazy idea that I wanted owls at the reception drinks.  Luckily there was an owl place about 10 miles away from me.   To have them there for an hour was £100 and my best friend paid for this as my wedding present.   This was really a highlight as we had 4 different owls that were brought out and guests got to have pictures with them.  I missed some of this due to photos but it was amazing to see on Facebook how this was a really big hit.   I love owls so this really made a special wedding memory.  The company is called Feathers And Fur and they are just outside Reading…..if you like owls and have a place nearby that can supply owls….do it !!!

     

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    Now for some pics…….

     

    Started blubbing didn't I…..

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    All morning it was heavy rain but then at midday the clouds cleared to make way for a sunny afternoon…..so thankful !

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    It is taking a lot longer to load pictures than I thought…..I have so many I wanted to share!

     

    I have a selection on a YouTube video I would love you to look at.   These are more just of wedding details rather than family and friend snaps but lots of photos.   

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWT9HLiTt3A

     

    The sort of things I made myself where save the dates, invitations, hessian backed table plan, centrepieces, table names, candle favours, glitter edged wooden leaf name places with individual quotes on the back (these were something that took soo much time and had me swearing at times), wedding cake topper of bride and groom, activity books, ISpy game for the kids, sweet table signs, menu cards for each guest, Matthew & Emma wooden sign, toiletry basket, bubble basket with glitter sign, basket of slipper socks, glittered initial letters, hessian wrapped jar jars, wooden thank you sign, wooden wishing tree sign and anything else that I would find an idea on the internet and the utter the silly words 'I can do that myself!'.  

     

    I didn't really have any experience in crafty things so I was proud of what I did.  I had so many comments from guests about how the little touches made all the difference and they could see the effort gone into it.   I was worried about certain things looking a little 'homemade' but overall I was happy with the results.    If I had to do it all again though I would make sure to 100% finish a job before starting the next.   Towards the end I had so many jobs still to finish….and I was still adding new ones!

     

    The venue took me, my sister, my Mum and Dad from 8pm till midnight the night before to set up.   I don't think they realised what they had let themselves in for and at 10pm with a messy room surrounded by boxes I was completely overwhelmed and my dad was cursing under his breath at me.   I was being overly fussy though -  for example I had candles in 4 different ribbon colours and the ribbon colours had to match the ribbon on the name cards…..which I had made sure alternated in colour around the table plan.  At 10pm at night my Mum was stressing at me for worrying about the difference between light gold and dark gold…..Bridezilla alert!!!!    

     

     

    i am thinking of doing little craft videos on Youtube as well.  I haven't done this before but we got a new camera for Christmas and I feeling a might give it a whirl.   I am far from an export in anything crafty but can still share a few ideas of things I have learnt.   If this is something you would watch then let me know.   

     

    Going to try and upload more photos tomorrow ……but check out the youtube link as lots of detail shots of the DIY bits. 

     

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    Aaww thanks Fleur......the owls were lovely image 

    hoping to get more pics on here but takes ages!!  x

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    A few more pics from our day....

     

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    Meg .....the best Owl ever!  Most of our guests where too scared to hold this one as it was huge but all had a little stroke.

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    A DIY project......

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    I thought flipflops wouldn't really work in November as most guests would be wearing tights so opted for cozy slipper socks.   I only brought about 10 pairs as I thought only about 25 ladies at the wedding and a lot might think this was a silly idea.   The slipper socks were very popular.....in fact too popular!!  They all went before people had even finished their dinner as guests anticipated they might want cozy feet later in the night!   My aunties were a little disappointed they were not quicker!    

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    The sweet table......

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    I have lots more pics of the sweet table (and other detail bits) on the link below....

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=FWT9HLiTt3A

     

     

     

     

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    My hubby wasn't too involved with the planning, he tried now and again but lost interest when I wanted to talk about the smallest detail non-stop.  Someone (my sister!) suggested that he should name the tables which is why we have tables named over Magic The Gathering cards (im sure most don't know what this is but imagine the most geeky game you can and you are almost there....think dungeons and dragons meets Pokémon!).    Thankfully he picked the nicer of the names and tried to find ones related to nature and autumn......and not 'Charging Rhino' or 'Witches Eye'. 

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    My flowers.... 

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