My wedding report- laid back bash in a town hall, 27 May 2017
I'm another May 27 bride!
I never finished my planning thread, but I really wanted to properly remember as much as I can about our wedding day. I also wanted to give some tips and what I've learnt to people similar to myself - those who don't feel super-traditional when it comes to weddings, aren't sure what kind of decorations they want or need, and don't want to spend loads of money but do want to host a fab day for everyone.
Hope it's helpful or interesting to others
The wedding couple: Me (Lucy) and my husband (DH, his initials)
What we wanted from our day: an informal, friendly and happy atmosphere
When and where: Surrey County Hall, Saturday May 27, 2017
Day before - Setting up the venue
On the Friday morning, I had a lovely manicure and coffee with my mum, while DH finished his speech. He is both a perfectionist and a bit disorganised, so the speech was pretty much done by this point, but he was refining and needed to find a place to print it. We then bought a quick lunch for those friends who were kindly helping us to set up the venue.
Another friend arrived with his van at my mum's just in the nick of time and was a great help- without him, we’d have taken ages to transport everything to the venue - all our booze, our rose trees, our DIY signs and everything else. We had access to the venue to set it up from 2pm. It was pretty slow going as I hadn’t fully thought out who should do the different tasks, several people showed up wanting to help and I wasn’t sure how they could, we hadn’t fully decided where the decorations were going and it wasn’t always clear what we could do at that point and what the venue were going to be doing in the morning. The caterers hadn’t delivered the table cloths yet, which meant we couldn’t fully set up table and place names – the venue promised to do this, and were left careful instructions about sticking strictly to an excel spreadsheet, starting from the top of each row and going clockwise from the top.* We fully intended to test the music playlist but this only half worked because the chap who knew how to work their loudspeaker system wasn’t around.**
Various people came to help out- out of town guests, and some of our siblings, and parents. My FIL talked a lot about how thunderstorms were forcecast for the next day (they weren’t). My top tip for this stage would be – think of jobs that helpful people can easily do; and listen to the calm authoritative types. My brother was the most helpful person – both reassauring and practical. Any point where I wondered how something would work on the wedding day, he assured me it’d be handled.
We ran out of time to do a quasi-rehearsal but had a run through in the car park, which seemed to put my mum’s mind at ease, and I have to admit was helpful for knowing where people would sit and walk which is more complicated than it sounds.
Neither of these things – the playlist and the excel spreadsheet for the place names – worked out quite as planned, which just goes to show that something will go wrong and it doesn’t really matter at all.