As I was getting ready upstairs, Frazer was giving his ushers their gifts, having a couple of beers and mingling with the guests that were arriving. At this point I noticed that I couldn't hear the pre-ceremony playlist being played, so I dispatched one of the bridesmaids downstairs to sort it. I really don't think anybody noticed either way to be honest as they were all busy chatting and having a drink so I kind of wish I hadn't put so much effort into this in the run up to the wedding... likewise for the drinks reception playlist which actually didn't get played at all!
The ushers and dads/brothers got their buttonholes on and I didn't realise till after the ceremony that Frazer's dad didn't have his on as there hadn't been enough. Turned out there had been enough, but my numpty brother had taken his to his room to put on, promptly forgotten about it and went back and took another one!
My dad, Frazer's dad and my stepdad
With my hair finished upstairs, my mum got my garter for me and with the help of Lauren got me into my underskirt, dress and put my shoes on since I couldn't see my feet under the dress! My jacket took a while to put on because of the fiddly little buttons all down the back - future brides if you have similar buttons on your dress, don't underestimate the time this will take to put on (especially if you've all had a few champagnes/gins!).
My mum had decided early on that she hated the traditional MOB outfit of dress, jacket and hat, so after much searching (she took longer finding her dress than I did for mines!) she finally found a glam, floorlength navy number with sparkles on the top and a fascinator to go with it. Much more her style.
My mum then helped me get my veil on and had a wee "ohmygoodness, this is really happening" moment before we shouted on my dad to come see me.
You look so SO beautiful!
What a lovely and relaxed morning you seemed to have too...you look so chilled. Perfect x
Aaahhhh on holiday but watching this closely -you look stunning moggle 😊 xxx
Oh my goodness, you look so beautiful, Moggle! I've been waiting for you to continue with your report - keep going!
Aw thanks ladies, really appreciate your lovely comments
I feel like I'm forgetting half of the things that happened already and it's only been 4 months! While I was hiding out upstairs, our celebrant came up and had a wee chat with me and the bridesmaids so we knew where to stand and when they were to sit down, etc. Alison and her staff were manouvering benches, the arbor and the signing the register table onto the patio as the rain was holding off which meant we could have our outside ceremony - yay! I'm so glad this was possible, as I really don't think our photos would've been as lovely without all of the beautiful scenery. Don't get me wrong, I'm sure they'd still capture how happy we were, but there was just something special about getting married outside.
As the ceremony was taking place on the patio, this was right below the Bridal suite which has big windows you can see up to so we had to close the curtains. Unfortunately the lighting wasn't great, but Ewa made the most of what she could for my Dad's first look at me in my dress.
He said afterwards that he'd been totally fine during all the lead up that morning but the last 10 minutes before he was to walk me down the aisle it really hit him and he was proper emotional. My dad's definitely not the teary sort so it was sweet to see him get like that over seeing his first-born in her wedding dress!
And with that, all of our guests were seated outside and we made our way slowly downstairs. I didn't realise how hard this would be in my dress and veil, took ages to master the old kick and step under the skirt so I didn't trip! Alison took some lovely pictures for Altskeith's facebook which I'll upload to this too as she caught some angles Ewa didn't as she was busy taking wonderful photos elsewhere.
Shortly after this picture was taken we heard the first notes of my processional - Let's Get Married by the Proclaimers. We wanted something upbeat to make people smile and we sang the lyrics to each other a lot while we were planning our big day.
Such beautiful pictures, you look amazing and I love your flowers. Can't wait for more x
While we were getting ourselves ready in the entrance hall to walk round the front of the house, through the arbor (no easy feat in a wide fishtail dress!), to the patio, Frazer and his ushers/best man were getting into position and our celebrant asked the guests to stand to welcome the bride.
We opted for a Humanist ceremony as this is legal in Scotland, and I'm so glad we did. Neither of us are religious and I've been to Registrar-led ceremonies in the past that just felt a little too official and standard for what we were hoping to have for our ceremony. Our celebrant was Laura Baird from Humanist Fellowship of Scotland and she was wonderful - she gave us plenty of examples, ideas and advice on shaping our ceremony beforehand, double-checked we had sorted all of the correct paperwork and things, and was also just so lovely and friendly both on the day and in our meetings before it.
Once the processional started, my sister went first followed by my other three bridesmaids then Lauren, my chief bridesmaid, and finally my brother with his 'Last Chance to Run' sign. I felt my stomach do a wee flip every time one of them walked off, until it was finally my Dad and I's turn. As I'd already practiced the kick and step, I wasn't too bad for walking down the aisle - but the veil... I struggled a bit with that, as I had it over my face and it was a little windy it was blowing onto my makeup and I was convincing myself that I was going to get to Frazer and half of it would be gone! It wasn't, but still... I also forgot all of the music cues, thank goodness Alison was there to let us all know when to head down the aisle. I felt like I couldn't take it all in when it was my turn, I was just so excited and desperate to see Frazer.
I also forgot I was being photographed and made stupid faces like that one... I look like I've got no chin!
Once we got to Frazer, Laura thanked my dad for escorting me and asked if he entrusted me to Frazer's care, the man I had chosen as my life partner and husband - to which he replied "I do" and went to sit down, promptly standing on my dress and veil! His poor wee face was a picture...
Laura then welcomed all of our guests and said a wee bit about Humanism and why we'd chosen a Humanist ceremony, said a little bit about marriage in general and introduced and thanked our bridal party, readers and our witnesses for supporting us on our wedding day. Next up was our first reading!
My Mum read our first reading of the ceremony, the really popular excerpt from Captain Corelli's Mandolin:
Love is a temporary madness,it erupts like volcanoes and then subsides.And when it subsides you have to make a decision.You have to work out whether your roots have so entwined togetherthat it is inconceivable that you should ever part.Because that it what love is.Love is not breathlessness,it is not excitement,it is not the promulgation of eternal passion.That is just being 'in love' which any fool can do.Love itself it what is left over when being in love has burned away,and this is both an art and a fortunate accident.Those that truly love, have roots that grow towards each other underground,and when all the pretty blossom have fallen from their branches,they find that they are one tree and not two.
We found this quite a fitting reading as we've been together over 10 years now. My mum really struggled with pronouncing the word 'promulgation' in the week leading up to the wedding and was practicing extra hard to get it right, so when she did manage it she looked all pleased with herself and got some wee thumbs up from the bridesmaids.
As part of our ceremony, we had each told Laura some reasons why we love each other and managed to keep them secret from each other until the day (a feat in itself!) so this was a lovely little surprise for both of us. Here was the outcome:
"Frazer said he had loads but chose a few concise reasons:I love Morgan because she makes me laugh every single day.I love her because she is beautiful andI love her becuase she puts up with me!Morgan said:I love Frazer for his uncanny ability to put his arm around me and instantly put me at ease. He always knows how to calm me down and make me feel better - which is no mean feat when you're an over-anxious worrier like I am.I love him because he's seen me without makeup, all sick and feeling sorry for myself, and yet he still makes me feel like I'm the prettiest woman in the world to him.I love him because of the person he is - kind and good-hearted, generous and loving, intelligent and witty - everything I could hope for in my ideal partner to spend the rest of my life with."
Absolutely beautiful xxx
My Chief Bridesmaid Lauren read the second reading, which was the lyrics to Grow Old With You from the film The Wedding Singer - Frazer's choice!
I wanna make you smile whenever you're sad,carry you around when your arthritis is bad,Oh, all I wanna do is grow old with you.
I'll get your medicine when your tummy aches,Build you a fire if the furnace breaks,Oh, it could be so nice, growing old with you.
I'll miss you - Kiss you,Give you my coat when you are cold,Need you - Feed you,Even let you hold the remote control.
So let me do the dishes in our kitchen sink,Put you to bed when you've had too much to drink,I could be the one who grows old with you,I wanna grow old with you.
And that was us at the vows now. I couldn't believe it was going by so quickly, how did we end up here already?! We had three sets of vows as part of our ceremony - the standard ones we were required to say, our own personal vows we'd written and kept secret from one another, and wording for the exchange of rings. Laura started with Frazer first and asked him to repeat the words:
"I call upon these persons here presentto witness that I, Frazer [etc, etc]accept you Morgan [etc, etc],in marriage as my lawfully wedded wife."
Then I repeated after Laura, but with husband, etc. Waaaaaah, we were nearly there! After 2 years of planning we were so close now to being husband and wife, and that made my heart beat crazily fast. Laura then asked Frazer to make his personal vows, which turned out to be incredibly lovely and made me feel bad that I'd added a bit of humour into mines...
"Today, when I become your husband, I say that you are my everything.I promise to love you and hold you close to me forever.I vow that I will always support you in everything you do, that we will grow old and happy together and that I will always be by your side.You are my greatest love and my best friend, and to me you are perfect.I promise that in our life together, no matter the ups and downs, that will always be the foundation of our marriage."
Then my vows (which got a good few chuckles from the guests):
"I promise to love you unconditionally and without hesitation.To respect you, listen to you, and to stand beside you through all of our years together and all that life may bring us.I promise to always defend you to others, even if you are wrong, and especially when you're wrong but are stubbornly convinced you are right.I promise to be true to you, to uplift and support you, to frustrate and challenge you, and to continue to let you make me try new foods in the hopes that we can one day go out for dinner to a restaurant that serves something other than European cuisine.I promise I will love you as much as I do today and more with each day that comes, until all the codes and hearts have been broken and until every anagram and egg has been unscrambled."
Frazer's best man then came forward with the rings and we repeated after Laura:
"Frazer/Morgan, I give you this ringas a sign of our marriageall that I am I give to youall that I have I share with youfor the whole of our life together."
And that was it! Laura declared that we were married and pronounced us husband and wife and we kissed and it was wonderful and I don't think I've ever felt so elated in my life! A sense of total calm and contentment came over me. Cue lots of cheering and clapping from the guests.
We signed the register next, which took a bit of manouvering with my dress and veil to try and get into the chair behind the desk we were using - not my most elegant bridal moment! Instead of the traditional Best Man/Chief Bridesmaid signing the register, we had asked my Grandma and Frazer's Gran to do this as a way of including our families in the ceremony a bit more. Once we'd signed it, my youngest brother came over with some horseshoes, and left proper embarassed that I'd gave him a kiss in front of everyone.
Your pictures are stunning! amazing backdrop. Congrats
Everything is so, so beautiful, especially you, Moggle - you are such a beautiful bride. Your dress really suits you and something about your flowers and nail colour just works amazingly with your gorgeous hair! Your bridal look really came together.
I love the picture of your first kiss with the lovely backdrop of the water and that pretty tree! Your 'tog nailed it.
Aw thanks for your lovely comments ladies!
After we signed the register and got the obligatory pictures with our witnesses, it was on to the final part of our ceremony - drinking from the quaich.
We asked Frazer's dad to come up to join us with the quaich, and my dad and stepdad to come up with the whisky. Laura then spoke about the quaich and how it's associated with welcoming, sharing and understanding and how we were going to drink from the cup as our first act together as a married couple, symbolising our commitment to share in all that the future may bring. My dad and stepdad then poured their whisky into the cup and gave it to Frazer to drink from, then me. My expression in the photos should probably tell you my opinion of how whisky tastes... The dads then each drank from the quaich and it got passed around our family seated in the second row too.
And that was it! Laura asked everyone to join her in congratulating us as the new Mr & Mrs MacLeod and we headed back through the arbour as a married couple.
Alison corralled the guests as soon as the ceremony was finished, before any of them had a chance to break away and miss the group shots, and we headed onto the little bridge beside the patio we'd held the ceremony on. We used both confetti and bubbles for after the ceremony - bubbles bought from British Heart Foundation for most of the guests and a few packs of confetti for the mums and grans, etc. I think they turned out lovely!
Me and my mum having a post-ceremony hug
As we had everyone together, we got the group photos out of the way next. I wasn't a massive fan of posed group shots when I was in planning mode, but they're actually some of my favourites from our photos - shots we wouldn't have got with everyone in them had we not went for group photos.
Us with our parents
Us with Frazer's family
Us with my family
The next ones are of me, my mum and my grandma and I looove them. This one makes me laugh - my mum was trying to fan out my train, while I was trying to pick confetti off my grandma haha!
Next up were the Bridesmaids and Groomsmen photos:
My Bridesmaids were absolute stars on the day and looked amazing. We got their dresses from Chi Chi London for under £300 for all 5 of them (Hello Black Friday sale!) - absolute bargain considering how great I think they all looked! If you're still at the picking your bridesmaids stage, one piece of advice I can give is absolutely pick someone you wouldn't mind helping you pee... I thought I'd be totally fine on my own, but it ended up taking three of us each time I had to go to the toilet to make sure my dress and the hoop didn't fall in the toilet!
We had decided against colour-coordinated groomsmen, so let all of Frazer's ushers and best man pick whatever tartan and outfit they wanted to wear. I got some funny looks when telling people about our plans with that, but it turned out fine and I actually thought they all looked great together in their group shots.
And my last wee picture before I get on to our couples photos - I had bought Frazer puzzle piece cufflinks for the wedding (yeah, one of those cheesy things we always say "we go together like puzzle pieces"...) and I didn't think he'd actually wear them as he already had some MacLeod ones picked out, but he did!
Wow everything is so so gorgeous!! You're such a beautiful bride! Can't wait to read more!! x
I love how colourful everything looks moggle, I think it was a great choice to not colour code with Frazer's kilt. The bouquets look stunning with everyone's outfits and everyone looks so happy!
The colours are gorgeous!
I love your wedding moggle 😍😍😍 I know everyone’s saying it but the colours really are stunning, the kilts, flowers, dresses, your hair and lipstick, even the scenery. I think it could easily have been a clashing disaster but youve pulled it off beautifully.
Your flowers are stunning, I'm hoping for something very similar
Thanks everyone I absolutely loved all of the colours and our flowers were perfect considering our poor florist didn’t have much of a brief to work with!
As soon as our group photos were done Lauren appeared with a glass of prosecco and Frazer picked up his beer from one of the groomsmen. We had a quick couple of sips before we headed down to the boat house and the little stone beach in front of the house for our couples photos with Ewa. I had worried about wrecking my veil on the stones, but since the wedding's been over I've popped it in a beautiful acid-free keepsake box and it's still as perfect as it was on the day! If anyone's swithering about a veil, I would highly recommend it. I adored mines and keep wanting to get it out it's box look at it again, even now.
The start of the couples photos was funny because we were still on a high from the ceremony, but weren't completely relaxed. Ewa told us to just chat and it was nice to get to speak to Frazer about our day so far and things like that. We went for a wee stroll up the beach and then back again where I had to try to delicately wrap up my veil and put it over the sign for the venue to keep it safe while we started our next challenge... boat photos!
Pre-warning... this bit is mostly picture heavy.
Frazer getting used to his ring... he's not a jewellery person at all!
By this point I'd stopped caring about trying to keep my dress nice and pretty - it was absolutely mockit underneath from trailing along the path and the beach - so it wasn't as hard as it could've been manouvreing myself into the little wooden boat which was a little damp and stuff inside.
This was Frazer's favourite part of the day! His rowing skills started off a little shaky and just plain terrible - he nearly crashed us into the wall trying to get us out the boat house! Our dads had rushed down to the boat house because they were apparently genuinely concerned! But once he got into the swing of things, it was lovely to be out in the middle of the loch by ourselves (Ewa was close by in another boat, having rowing issues of her own!). It was so peaceful and gave us a chance to collect ourselves before we headed back into the party fun. Some of our guests were watching and waving from the shore so that was lovely too. After rowing about, we headed back to the boat house and Ewa followed (poor Ewa, she ended up stuck for a while trying to get her boat to go forwards instead of round in circles!) and hopped into our boat to take some more pictures.
This perfectly captured my none-too-impressed with my new husband's rowing expression haha!
The only downside to rowing in the middle of a loch was the wind - my hair was pretty much wrecked to be honest, as you can see from the above picture! I still think it was worth it though
While we were out in the boat, our guests were mingling about, taking photos in front of the arbour and enjoying some drinks and the canapes. Frazer picked all of the canapes (I'm a fussy eater so can't trust my judgement on these things!) and we opted for:
Haggis bon bons in a mustard and whisky mayonnaise (Frazer actually opted for double of this - just as well as they were everyone's favourites!)Crab, avocado and chilli mayonnaise on a toastCorn fritters with guacamole and coriander
Alison saved us some of the canapes on a wee plate for when we finished our photos with Frazer, which he was delighted with and quickly demolished.
The function suite was also getting set up at this point for our meal, so I'll talk a wee bit about our decorations now. We decided on lanterns and candlesticks for our tables with ivy and bottles of whisky which I was really pleased with. For our place cards we stuck cupcake flags into tunnocks tea cakes and put them next to the favours which were pin badges from British Heart Foundation (we only had about 3 favours left when we tidied everything the next day, so that was a success).
Your pictures on the boat are amazing. The third from the bottom is my favourite, definitely worth as you said the ruined hair. (although it doesnt look ruined)
Cant wait for more updates
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Your pictures on the boat are amazing. The third from the bottom is my favourite, definitely worth as you said the ruined hair. (although it doesnt look ruined)
Cant wait for more updates
Thanks That one was my favourite too and the one we used on our thank you cards!
While the canapes and drinks were being cleared we all headed back onto the patio for the cutting of the cake(s). Shocked by the costs of your normal tiered wedding cake, we thought we'd rather spend that money on something that will definitely get eaten and opted for Connie & Colin Caterpillar cakes from M&S! We ordered a third one to be cut up as well as were worried that there wouldn't be enough for our guests, but they were huuuuuge. We had 83 guests during the day and had plenty left over and I even had some for my breakfast the following morning Sadly my lovely little badger caketoppers kept falling off the cake so they were left off.
Frazer was delighted that we were able to use a sword to cut our cakes too, and Alison tried to show him how to cut the cakes with it because it was blunt (cue his 'eh, I'm not daft, I know how to cut a cake' face) and then we promptly couldn't get it to cut right because of the hard chocolate shells on the cakes. Haha, typical. It was funny though and everyone gathered round to watch us cut it and gave a wee cheer.
Everyone then headed in to check which table they were at while we had a couple more pictures with Ewa, then sat relaxing and chatting for a wee couple of minutes outside the function suite waiting for everyone to get seated and us to be announced.
It was a kind of surreal thing when Alison asked everyone to be upstanding for the new Mr & Mrs MacLeod and we walked into the function suite to cheers and clapping. It was also quite hard to negotiate my way through the tables in my dress! We eventually made it to the large glass window/doors at the front to the top table which we were sharing with our parents and sat down (again this was difficult for me in my dress) to some prosecco.
We decided to do the speeches before the meal so that no one was spending the wedding meal worrying about having to do their speech and could actually enjoy the food. My dad went first and gave a lovely speech, saying some nice things about me and how proud of me he was and also welcoming Frazer to the family and thanking his family for making them feel so welcome too. He was totally gutted about it though... my dad isn't a big confident public speaker and decided to try and do it by heart rather than looking at the sheet he'd put in front of him. Unfortunately this meant he missed quite a lot out of what he originally planned to say, and what he'd totally nailed when he'd practised it the night before and that morning. My poor wee dad. His speech was great though, so I certainly didn't notice till he said.
It's quite annoying that the one job I gave Frazer to do - get someone to record the speeches - is the very thing he forgot to do... So I have no recordings of any of the speeches, and Frazer in particular didn't write his speech out as he totally winged it, so I can't remember exactly what he said... He went after my dad and started off by saying something along the lines of "It's a great thing to be so lucky to have someone you love, admire and look up to... so when I met Brian Laudrup for the first time..." cue lots of laughs... he did eventually say some lovely things about me and how much he loved me too, and he thanked my parents for making him feel like part of the family (and they got all emotional at that). His speech was pretty funny and I was surprised he'd done so well given he winged it!
Instead of the traditional Best Man speech, Frazer actually got two speeches - his brother spoke about Frazer when he was younger and growing up, and his Best Man went after him to talk about Frazer when he was a teenager and after. Both were hilarious! Nothing risque which was a pleasant surprise haha. Frazer's brother did end up with a bag on his head at one point... and for the life of me I can't even remember why
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